dilemma with my daughter please help!!?

Question

My daughter is 26 months old and she is very advanced for her age which ables me to buy her toys that are actually for 3 year olds, but what my trouble is is that she likes boys toys better! I order toys catalogs and when we look thru them together she is always interested in all the boys toys like Thomas the engine sets and work bench sets, she totally disregards the dolls and girly toys! should i just buy her the boys sets so that she stays interested in her toys or should i try to buy her girls toys so that theres no confusion now or in the future?!
I also have asked her if she thinks shes a girl like mommy or a boy like daddy and she always replys thats shes a girl, what should i do??!!

Answer 1

you can buy her the the tool sets, and the train sets that is no big deal, My niece, was close to five before she showed any interest in dolls. A mother of 3 I can tell you most girls prefer cars and trucks to dolls and baby carriages and kitchen sets so no you have nothing to worry about.

If you want her to be well balanced, you could buy her both, buy a few girl toys and some boy toys I don't understand why toys are labeled girl or boy, toys are toys. working in a preschool, I see boys playing withe dolls, playing dress up, playing in the kitchen, and girls play with the bugs and and with cars and trucks and building blocks I watch this daily. Your child is not going to become gender confused by playing with toys.

Girls can be anything they want to be. they can be doctors, lawyers, architects. or they can be mommies it is their choice. By allowing her to play with the things that interest her, you are not stereotyping her. You are telling her that she can be anything she wants to be you are building her confidence in herself.

It is your choice and your decision what you allow your child to play with, but toys are really genderless.

Answer 2

My 3 year old has done the same thing since she was a baby. If there's a car and a doll in the same room, she goes for the car.

It's perfectly acceptable for a girl to play with "boy toys". As my daugher has grown she splits her time between the "girly" stuff and the "boy toys", and it has by far expanded her imagination & creativity. Barbie likes to cruise around in her racecar, ninja turtles and my little ponies are best friends, etc.

Let your child play with whatever interests them, regardless of what gender the toys were geared for. Think about it, have you ever been interested in something geared towards men?

Answer 3

I would just equal it out. Buy some boy toys that she is interested in and some girls. I understand the confusion. My Cousin is 13 and she knows she is a girl but wants to be a boy. Her mom had the same problem with her and over looked it and now she dresses in boy clothes cut all her hair off and even has a myspace that says male. She even has a twin sister who is the opposite. You just have to be careful. I wouldn't think toys would be as big of an issue as her wanting to dress like a boy. If that happens just try to tell her otherwise. Good luck and she is probably perfectly fine.

Answer 4

There is nothing woring with her and nothing to worry about. It's normal, and what's wrong with her playing with tools and Thomas the Train? My 2 year old daughter loves those things, and it doens't matter if they are girl toys or boy toys. I think sends the wrong message having her not paly with them. She's at an age where she's learning boy and girl, but toys have nothing to do with it, and it shouldn't be a problem at all. That would be like me telling my daighter she can't help daddy when he's fixing something becasue those are boys things, and that girls don't do those things or play with those. That wouldn't be right. If she's happy and not hurting anyone, what's the problem. Let her play, and if someone doesn't like it well, who cares, she's your child and a happy one at that.

Answer 5

Don't worry, this is normal, nothing to fear at all.
Let her pick the toys she likes to play with, it shouldn't matter if they are boy or girl toys, it is only society that has deemed certain toys "Boys" and "Girls" toys, there should not be any difference at all..

When she gets older she may switch to more girly things, in the mean time just enjoy your child for who she is, a perfectly healthy little girl..

Answer 6

Oh my goodness, how ridiculous! What makes something a "girl" toy or a "boy" toy? Do girls not drive cars? Do boys not grow up to be fathers and thus take care of babies? I'm not sure on what grounds your daughter is "advanced" or how that is related to the question - the issue is that you want her to conform to gender stereotypes. Letting her play with trains and building sets won't make her grow up to be a lesbian (you can't "make" a child gay - she's either born gay or born straight); it will make her grow up to be a well - rounded, independent woman with a mind of her own.
My toddler son plays with puzzles, blocks, computer software (helped Dad build his own laptop - he loves electronics), as well as a doll, a toy vacuum and a toy kitchen. He's not going to be "confused," he's going to be a well - rounded human being.

Answer 7

What are you worried about with letting her play with "BOY" toys? Are you afraid you will confuse her sexuality? Well, you will not. Sexuality is based on nature not nurture. Just because she likes to play with a work bench, does not mean she is going to grow up thinking she is a boy and liking girls.

Let her play with what she wants, so long as you don't put her safety in jeopardy. When I was little, I played with Barbie’s, but I would cut their hair off and make them look like boys. I didn't turn out strange because of it.

It is totally normal. Plus, maybe she looks up to her daddy and wants to play with toys like his tools.

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with your daughter just because she prefers the "boy" toys vs. the "girl" ones. Ppl always assume and think that something's wrong with their kids when this happens... especially when it's the other way around (baby boys like to play with dolls).

Remember, you don't know what your daughter's future will or who/what she will become. Let her play with what she feels comfortable playing with. If worse comes to worse, she'll be a tomboy. Its' not the end of the world. :)

Answer 9

I'm a elementry school teacher * i teach preschool and the kids are 3,4,and 5 * some of the boys there love to dress up with girls and I'm like whoa * but another teacher that i work with always says to just watch them play * the boys know their boys they just want to try new things * and sometimes we even catch the girls playing with the boys toys or we see them outside trying to be like them * its just a phase kids go through * they like to experiment and have fun

Answer 10

Why on earth would playing with boy toys cause "confusion" in the future? You stated that she self indentifies as a girl. What difference does her choice of toys make?