I have a cousin who is 30 years old, she just got married in Jamaica on Oct. 24. This is her 3rd marriage(i know, crazy) anyways her reception is this Saturday Nov. 17. I was wanting to know, should I buy them a wedding gift, I just think it's kind of tacky to register for your 3rd wedding. This is her new husbands 1st marriage, so I kind of feel like we are obligated to get them something from their registry. But on the other hand I just think a card will do. What do you think??
2007-11-12 04:06:04 · 16 answers · asked by cm7882 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I got married two years ago. It was my second and my husbands 3rd marriage. We actually told people that we didn't want gifts, as we had everything we needed for our home. However everybody that came to the wedding gave us something. It ranged from gift cards to a bottle of champagne. Its the thought that counts not the value of the gift. If you don't want to give your cousin a present from their registry then don't, but a token gift would be nice.
2007-11-12 04:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dory 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you're never "expected" or "obligated" to get gifts for anyone. However, it is considered polite to bring a gift if you're attending the wedding. It's a thoughtful thing, and has nothing to do with the number of times the person had been married: even the 3rd time, it's still a celebration. If you don't feel comfortable with the whole thing, you can always decline attending the reception altogether.
I would definitely bring a gift - not so much out of "obligation", but because (hopefully) I liked the couple, and wanted to commemorate the occasion.
2007-11-12 04:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
If for nothing else, respect the fact that it is her husbands first...and get them something from the registry. It doesn't have to be something expensive, just something to wish them well....maybe this one is the soul mate your cousin has been waiting for and it will last forever. I just got married and it was my husband's third marriage and my first. I know why he has been divorced twice, and I don't blame him one bit, so third marriage really doesn't mean there is some thing wrong. I did not have a wedding to get gifts, but I would rather someone not buy something because they couldn't afford it than because my husband has been married twice before. If that was their reason, I would rather them not attend something they think is a farce. However, wedding gifts are not required, so you don't HAVE to get anything if you don't want to, but don't judge her and base your reasons solely on the fact that this is her third.
2007-11-12 04:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is not tacky to have a big wedding again. Many people who have been divorced even do so! Your marriage being annulled is an obvious difference, it is as if you have never been married even if you did have the ceremony and what not. Don't feel silly! You are going to be celebrating a marriage after all, it is time for celebration. And frankly if anyone has a problem with it, especially considering your circumstances, well they are just going to have to deal with it. I would feel more silly letting something like already having a big wedding be the deciding factor in my next wedding.
2016-05-29 08:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would buy them a card and a gift voucher to the value that you can afford. I have been married 3 times (you say crazy, but my exes both cheated on me coz some slapper took her pants off they were too weak to say no! I never dreamt I would meet a decent man after that, I certainly did not plan to marry 3 times, but hey, life can be cruel) and we did not register for gifts, we just said to people "We want you to come and enjoy the day, that's all we want".
2007-11-12 22:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how many times someone gets married, if they have a reception you really should buy them a gift - at the very least, do it for the husband's sake as this is his first marriage.
2007-11-12 05:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a wedding s a wedding - you are celebrating THIS union - it's his first, so what if she's been there before. If you are close give her a gift, if you are not, then don't. it's up to you to give ot not at any wedding, regardless of how many times someone has been married before.
2007-11-12 05:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this was the bride's first marriage and the groom's third would you give a gift?
I think you're not only judgemental but cheap as well. You should probably just stay home.
2007-11-12 05:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by vijoge 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You get a gift. You get a gift you think they will enjoy and one that doesn't break your bank getting it.
It is not your job or right to judge someone concerning how many times they have been married. Obviously her husband doesn't care and neither should you.
2007-11-12 04:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would just get a card and a gift card to a nice store. like bed bath & beyond or something.
2007-11-12 04:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Angie♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋