Friendship between an evangelist and non-evangelists: Possible?

Question

My girlfriend's roommate attends an evangelical Christian church. We all attend a premier American university in the midwest. This particular young woman is brilliant, stunningly beautiful, athletic, humble, the whole 9 yards.

My girlfriend attended the church with her recently, where someone spoke about a planned mission trip to a Buddhist country. The plan was to go and "give these people hope." So the non-saved are hopeless. This drives an enormous wedge between this church and virtually anybody else who thinks for themselves. So what does she do? Does she challenge the notion at church that "other believers" are hopeless? Absolutely not. Does she preach to us about needing a relationship with God? Absolutely not. She remains neutral. She seems to know that preaching would force us to walk away, and maybe that disagreeing at church would ostracize her there as well.

How strong can friendships really become when there are these fundamental differences?

Answer 1

You can be a good neighbour, polite aquaintance but not a friend.

You cannot be friends in the TRUE sense of the word with someone who secretly sees you as hopeless, lost, condemned or even stubbornly perverse and sinful.

I love this analogy of evangelists who go into people's countries assuming they are so much better than the people there and the people are lost and hopeless and do not know what's best for them.

Imagine if you will having a wonderful party with your kind of music playing. Suddenly some uninvited guest just bursts in and cuts the music and puts on THEIR music and tells everyone, "C'mon! This is what REAL music is about! You don't know good music until you've heard this!"

Answer 2

they do no longer know what they do. John 6:sixty 5 And he stated, hence stated I unto you, that no guy can come unto me, different than it have been given unto him of my Father. they think of they earn passage to heaven. as though as a count number of actuality desperate by using consensus and existence relies upon on each and every person agreeing with them. the daddy calls those he chooses and no others. those he does not call he additionally does not decide. John 12:40 seven And if any guy pay attention my words, and believe no longer, I decide him no longer: for I got here to no longer decide the international, yet to maintain the international. They deal and good purchase and beg and artwork and do and do and do. all the on the same time as judging each and every person they disagree with. The Fathers would be completed, despite the fact that if it skill i'm skinned alive burned and could spend eternity in hell. i'm his son and that i supply all the flaws of me heart, recommendations and soul to him, and ask for actual no longer something in return. Even salvation could be self serving. i do no longer concern because of the fact his will is righteous. this is not his will that any perish yet that each and every physique ought to have eternal existence. Such is his love which you would be comforted despite the fact that in case you doubt or perhaps oppose his existence. i've got heard it stated that they attempt to be a device for the lord. That makes me laugh. See I nevertheless have a humorousness despite the fact that if I sound caught up in religious recommendations to a level that maximum might locate uncomfortable.

Answer 3

James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

Your girlfriend seeks your friendship, not God's.
Oh well, her loss.
She is definitely not an evangelist, even though she may be an evangelical.

Answer 4

I tried. I truly tried but she just could not stop pushing her religion.

Answer 5

I have a fundie friend... we call him squeak.



I'm lovin' it.