I've NEVER been in a real relationship - relationships I have been in I would classify as High School types so that doesnt count. Anyway I'm now 20 and want to find a special guy to have fun with and stuff.
I've been on dates and I get asked out ALOT...This makes it difficult because I get along with most people..anyway I met this guy and he's cute and has a great personality and upholds the same morals as me, but he doesnt have a great smile - his teeth are not appealing..now I know everyone cant be perfect but I feel as though I would be forcing myself to like him 100%.
Is it possible to like him more once getting to know him, and his teeth will no longer become an issue?
I have no clue about realtionships and I dont want to hurt his feelings or mine in the long run. \
2007-11-12 03:55:08 · 5 answers · asked by musiclovermogul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have ask your self if his teeth are gonna matter more that a great personality. if youre gonna let that get in the way of everything else then you two shouldnt waste your time together
2007-11-12 03:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by loscachivaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like the word superficial is being thrown around carelessly, misuse the term superficial and blurring the fine line between simply acting out on desires and the true definition of superficial.
looking for physically attractive mates is not superficial or shallow. it just means that person wants physical appearance to be hot. weighing more on the physical attraction than personality or anything else only reveals that person's priorities. it doesn't suggest that person to be superficial or shallow. people have different priorities and criteria of what they want. some may just want to have fun and not get involved in serious relationships in which personality would then be a key factor. who's to say which desire is absolute right or wrong. who's to say which desire is shallow. everyone has different priorities and views on attraction.
however, expecting a very physically attractive person to be also very nice or smart or anything positive is superficial and shallow. likewise, expecting a very not so physically attractive person to be also very mean is superficial and shallow.
people tend to blur the fine line between going after attractive physical appearance and equating physical appearance with certain personality, the latter being superficial.
therefore, i say you just go after what you want. don't let others dictate how you should live your life or what you should look for in dates. don't let others, who label you, bother you.
2007-11-13 04:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too perfect for just 1 guy. Go out with all of them at the same time.
2007-11-12 12:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by Neil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to date him if you don't want to. Sounds like you're forcing it to work. The woman I'm with now I was "gaga" about, I definitely think you should have that feeling before committing yourself to someone. If you've already got hangups they'll just get worse over time.
2007-11-12 12:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shat Splatterson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem!!
there is a guy who is interested in me and he is funny etc etc but his teeth are not appealing
the thing is, i'm not shallow, and i am actually looking for a real relationship , so looks shoudlnt matter right?
the thing is, i want a guy who will take care of himself, and the state of your teeth is something you can control
i am debating your question so good luck
to both of us
2007-11-12 12:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by FL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋