How to overcome insecurities and shyness?

Question

I found someone to be extremely attractive and recently this person smiled and tried to make eye contact with me. However, I am very shy and was a little intimidated.Are there any methods to overcome such problems.

Answer 1

gain friends...

Answer 2

First, you have to believe in yourself. Believe that you have something worth saying. Believe that you are worth being friends with. Believe that you have something to offer.

Walk around with your head up (not in a stuck-up way, just in a confident way). When you walk around, don't look down. Keep your eyes on the people around you. When you pass someone, give a smile and look them in the eye. People will see this as confidence, even when you don't feel confident. However, do this long enough and you will begin to feel it yourself.

Can you learn something about this person you're interested in? Something you could use to strike up a conversation? Do a little research on the subject if it is something you don't know much about...just enough to talk about it and ask questions.

Start off by saying something simple "Hello" or "how are you" something like that. Every couple of times you see this person, say a bit more. You don't have to jump in all at once, you can sort of wade into a conversation.

The hardest part of the conversation is the beginning, but once you get past that, things get easier. Have confidence in yourself! You can overcome your shyness!

Answer 3

In a short period of time, no.
For me, I was always afraid of embarrassing myself, so I just wouldn't say anything. So I took some improve comedy classes at the local comedy club. It was a lot of fun. The whole point is to make a complete idiot of yourself in front of others. If you can do it in front of a crowd, you can do it face to face. Now I really don't care what other people think, I just say what I am thinking.

Answer 4

Think of dating like finding a job itself – the more you practice your interview question, the more you have faith and confidence in yourself. This just doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and patience.

Try joining a toastmasters club or better yet acting classes (impromptu) really good one!

Answer 5

sorry to say but no there is not I suffer from the same disease, the same thing happened to me today at the gym a girl that I find extremely attractive smiled at me but I turned my head thinking what would she want from me, all I had to do was smile back but I couldn't it sucks

Answer 6

awe..i would just take it at your pace...just smile back at the person, and make eye contact when the other person does...then when you feel ready, when you pass them say hello..then when done with that..start talking to them...once you feel more comfortable around the person, you'll be less shy

good luck!

Answer 7

Ask yourself what could I do differently? Perhaps you need to practice talking to your dog or cat. I used to record myself and listen and asked how could I have sounded better. Don't beat yourself up. Decide what you want and go get it.

Answer 8

i was the same way. i had a hard time expressing my emotions and feelings to others. so i started writing poetry. through poetry i was able to write how i feel about others. soon i started reading my poetry to others, but i refused to put names in my poetry so when i read them, nobody knew who i was talking about. if this dont help u can always talk to him in private, email him, wirte him notes and letters, use ur friends, or try the direct approach.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

take a class in public speaking

Answer 11

my self i have the same problem but you just have to feel comfortable or they get scared of you , love yourself and they will love you too