My Cousin is getting married and I'm the maid of honor. She is having a hard to determining where she wants to hold her cermony and reception.
Our family lives in one part of the state and her Fi's in another. Our part of the state is quite expensive for living and even more expensive for holding a wedding reception. Most places charge at least $100 a plate.
Her Fi's family is located in a part of the state that is about 45-an hour away from us. She wants to have the wedding there, b/c it's a bit cheaper.
Yet, she doesn't want to make any of our family or her friends upset by an 30 drive to a church and then a 30 drive to the reception, and an hour drive home later on at night.
However, if she holds the wedding in our area; then his family has the same set of problems.
There is no place inbetween to hold the reception. Her and her Fi have searched, I've searched online and asked friends.....even her mother looked.
What do to? She needs advice.
2007-11-12 03:40:45 · 16 answers · asked by J'adore 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The couple is located in the less expensive area, where the Fi's family is.
2007-11-12 03:46:34 · update #1
Like I said, there are no other areas in between. It's quite rural inbetween the two area. I helped her look for 3 months. I've sent countless hours online trying to find something for her, but there is really nothing.
Personally, I don't mind the drive. But, I can't tell her how her other guests will feel.
2007-11-12 03:49:26 · update #2
Also should add. The church where she wants the ceremony is her new home church. She lives in the area and her and her Fi are now members. She wants to marry there and then be able to raise her kids in the church. But, the church is 30 min from our home area and the reception another 30 min.
2007-11-12 03:51:03 · update #3
I would say try to have it in a place that is in the middle of the state that you can find cheaper. That his family and yours have to travel and neither have to complain about we had to travel and they didn't blah blah blah. Try to search in other areas for a cheaper price. Hope this helps, Congrats.
2007-11-12 03:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really, an hour is not that far to drive to go to a wedding. Neither my fiance nor I have family nearby. My family is very scattered out, and the closest person lives 300 miles away. Most of my fiance's family live in another country (so we're having another reception there). And, we have friends all over the US and all over the world.
We're having our actual wedding and first reception in the city we've both lived in for the past several years; that means that many of our guests will have to travel.
I would recommend having the wedding and reception close together in one part of the state or the other. If someone needs to stay overnight, they can make arrangements to do so. It's easier to travel for an hour and then have all the events in the same location than to travel in bits and pieces all day.
Either way, don't sweat it. An hour is just not that long to travel to a wedding.
2007-11-12 04:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have the wedding in her home town, the only reason not to is because you guys are an hour away, but that shouldn't be a factor. Most of the weddings I've ever been to were at least an hour away. She should marry in her church and have the reception 30 minutes from there. This is not unreasonable.
You're being a good MOH by helping her out:)
2007-11-12 04:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. My fiance and I live 3 1/2 hours from a lot of my family members, and we're having the wedding where we live. No one has had any complaints.
My cousin's wedding was about 3 hours from me, and I was able to drive there, enjoy the wedding, and still drive home before it was too late because the wedding started at about noon.
Tell your cousin this is one thing that she doesn't need to stress about. Anyone who really cares about the bride and groom will be willing to make the drive to see their loved ones married. If they're worried about people driving home at night, do what my cousin did, and hold the wedding early enough that no one will give it a second thought.
2007-11-12 04:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by LuckyLola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have the wedding where she wants. All my extended family is driving 5 hours to my wedding. An hour is nothing. When I started reading your question, I thought you were going to say it was a really long drive, not just an hour. I think that's pretty standard. Most people drive at least that amount to go to a wedding if it's out of town. Tell her not to worry, poor thing. It's just one hour! If the family is going to be upset about that, they are extremely rude.
2007-11-12 04:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jennies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are no drive times longer than an hour, I wouldn't worry about it at all. It's a little bit of a hassle, but if you're hosting a nice reception, there's nothing wrong with asking people to drive an hour to get there. A lot of people fly hundreds or thousands of miles to go to weddings, so driving an hour is really inconsequential. If people are worried about being too drunk to drive, they should get hotel rooms.
2007-11-12 03:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kaptain Krakatoa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh jeez! A 45-minute drive? Are you saying that your families are so inflexible they cannot spare an hour and a half in the car to attend a family wedding? What, do they stay in their own town ALWAYS? Come on. Thats nothing. Try a 15-hr plane ride to get both families together. Im laughing out loud...literally, laughing out loud.
2007-11-12 04:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have the wedding where you want. An hour drive is not far for anyone to travel. If they will be drinking they would most likely be getting a hotel.
2007-11-12 05:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems practical to let him have the wedding in his state, just because of all of his family and friends.. Maybe set your family up in a luxe hotel where your fiance lives and make it more like a fab trip they can look forward to. And then have a wonderful party in your home town to celebrate your new marriage.
2016-05-29 08:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by cathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't going to please everyone so they should go with what makes them happy.
I think they should go with the less expensive area. It is where their home is, which will make planning and preparation much easier. Also, if it is more affordable they will be able to afford all the guests that they want.
1hr drive is not bad. If it really is a concern, they can work with a local hotel to provide a discounted rate for guests who might prefer to stay the night.
2007-11-12 05:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not have your family member have her wedding 1/2 way in the middle where she can have her wedding and reception at the same place? That could solve the problem.
Good Luck.
2007-11-12 03:48:56 · answer #11 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋