what is the big deal about having a girl friend or a boy friend do we as people need others to validate us?

Answer 1

Some people feel validated by being in a relationship...and that is unfortunate. In my opinion, a person cannot truly find happiness with someone else until they are happy with themselves.

Answer 2

No. You shouldn't feel like you need something to validate you. But let's say you have a big promotion at work...wouldn't it be better if there was that one person you could go to and tell them this and they could not be happier for you? If you had an accident (knock on wood), wouldn't it make you feel better if you had that one person by your bedside who would hold your hand the whole time?

We don't need partners to validate us....but we do need them to support us, to make us feel special, to make us just...feel..

Answer 3

By validate im going to assume you mean approval by others. And dating, is not about being approved by someone else, tho most make it that way. it is simply a way humans get to know one another to find a partner. Who really wants to be alone in this world and share their life experiences w/ no one?

Answer 4

Humans are communicators. We're are extremely social beings that crave comfort and opportunity to express outselves.

Having someone to love, who will accept you as you are and give you what you need as a humam being is good for you.

People in long-term relationships (married or not) live longer than people who aren't, and tend to be happier.

This is, of course, assuming the relationship is healthy and non-abusive.

Answer 5

Humans are, by nature, social creatures. We need other people in our lives to help us reach our potential and stimulate our development (which does not stop once we reach adulthood -- it continues throughout life). This is why we gravitate toward friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, spouses.

However, if you are talking about those people who NEED a man or woman in their lives, it is either brought on be self-esteem issues, or lack of social development.

Answer 6

For me, having a boyfriend is about having someone with whom I share similar goals and interests. Someone who will help me achieve your goals, support me when I need it, etc. And I enjoy doing the same for him. Add in some romance and chemistry, and you've got the perfect pair.

It's about feeling complete and happy, not about what others think.

Answer 7

I don't think it matters to other people whether you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. It just varies depending on people. Like if you want a boyfriend, it's going to be a big deal if you have one, and vice versa for a girlfriend.

But, if you're talking about if other people mind, they really don't. It's like okay, cool, she has a boyfriend or okay, she doesn't have a boyfriend. Something along those lines.

Answer 8

Its a dominace perception. If I have a gf, then I would be "dominate" so to speak over those who dont due to me having a potential spouse. Just like in the wild, the strongest male gets the female, thus proving his dominace.

Answer 9

Some would say - The destruction of self-worth begins the moment we assign a value to something outside of ourself.
Others would say - We all need a witness to our lives; someone to share things with.
Life is full of choices!

Answer 10

Wow, I just asked this question last night in a conversation with my sister.
I personally think that if you don't have a BF or GF that it comes off as you aren't wanted by anybody. (Sometimes) But mostly I think people just love the romance and drama of relationships whether it's themselves that are involved or others to talk about.