Me and my girlfriend have been togeither for 9 months. The passion is dead, the romance is dead. and it hurts, we know it's dead, we both want it back, we want the love, the curiosity and excitement back, I want to see her as beautiful again like I did see her, We've been trying to fix things but they fail, She's the most wonderful girl anyone could have but things have gone wrong. She's perfect for me but why cant things be like they were? I want to see her as beautiful again, We have the best memories, She's the type of female, What we had in the past, not many females are like this, I want to be in love with her, everything to be perfect with her, not someone else, Why are things like this? Is it possible to save?
2007-11-12 02:44:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you having sex? Sounds like you are and it killed the romance. Sex too soon will do that. Awful hard to go back from there.
2007-11-12 02:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happened that went wrong?? Sounds as if you two grew apart instead of growing together, in the same direction. People and Couples grow up, and how you do that will determine whether or not you have a lasting intimate relationship, or end up as just friends, or at each other's throats fighting all the time. Common threads and true compassion for each other's desires, respecting each other's ideas of living, getting along, desires and dreams all make a difference in a relationship. Having things in common, and the same goals also help tremendously with growing up together. Couples, that have been together for 10-20 years are still growing up in their relationship. Every day is different and brings new things to deal with. How the both of you do that with each other's ideas can determine the longetivity of your relationship. And remember, one can love the other much more than it is reciprocated. And that does hurt.
2007-11-12 10:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Toffy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. Not for good though. Maybe take a few weeks or even a month or so apart. This will truly let you know if the magic is back or if being apart is for the best. My boyfriend and I lost the magic 2 years after being together. We were apart for 6 months and we're back together and never more in love with each other. If you decide to take this route it will be hard, but in the end will be worth it.
2007-11-12 10:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lillianessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to appreciate each other more. Look at her and see the things you like about her, and think about her good side of her personality. If you make the effort the passion will come back.
2007-11-12 10:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not in love, you were in lust. Let it go. Move on. And next time you meet the 'perfect' one, take it slow until you get to know one another better. You can always go forward. You can never go back. A relationship that has built slowly has a better chance of lasting. The spark dies if there is nothing to look forward to.
2007-11-12 10:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Just Hazel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely what you're going through. My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we feel like this from time to time. Maybe you and your girlfriend just need a nice romantic getaway to rekindle all the old flames you once had, spend quality time with each other without any outside influence. This has always helped us, and we lasted this long.
2007-11-12 10:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by D0LCEvitaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god I feel so sorry for you, but thing happen for a reason and it seems like you had something special but its gone you have to face the truth It is not impossible if you both care about each other but it is real hard maybe you need to forget about the past and think about the future with or with out her
2007-11-12 10:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting out of the past, a real deep loving relationship needs to grow, you didnt let it grow, try dating again with her, but do things alittle different like being romantic, write a poem about her, give her flowers, it doesnt always have to be about sex...understand? you both arent in the past anymore..
2007-11-12 10:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by braider27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change overtime and the way they felt before changes also. if you feel like this toward her then focus on that. if her feelings have changed then that could be the reason why you feel so differently. talk about this with her and tell her how you feel. maybe she feels the same way and wants to get this off of her chest also. i think by working through this with communication and love you can get through this
2007-11-12 10:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by smmr_wheatley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id agree with a few of the people on here, try a short break, if your feelings dont develop ask yourself, should i have to try so hard to be in love? i'll let you come to that conclusion
hope it works out 4 ya
2007-11-12 10:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋