I have given them his address and his email address and yet he never hears from them and they still ask me how he's doing! I want to scream at them to go ask him themselves!!!!
2007-11-12 02:28:28 · 16 answers · asked by Bitsy 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I am angry that they don't take the time to write, he says he never hears from anyone.
2007-11-12 02:34:29 · update #1
Thank you everyone for your support. We need more noble people like yourself to assist our fellows soldiers where ever they might be.
US Army 15 years
OIF 2003
US Army Recruiter 3 years running in Texas
2007-11-12 02:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the first idiot.
If they were really concerned they would take advantage of having his email address and mailing address. Next time someone asks, simply tell them if they'd like to know to go sit and write him a letter or email. It's not difficult a simple "Hey kid, how ya doin' out there? Hope all is well take care!" would do just fine.
Tell them that asking you questions isn't getting an answer. It's better to hear is from him himself. Cause (not to sound mean) but you (not YOU... just in general) can misinterpret how things are being said.
Tell them to take 5 minutes out of their day if they really cared and find out for themselves!
Hope this helped.
2007-11-12 03:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by His Wifeyy ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should all appreciate your son's service. It's a shame that nobody in your family has the time to write a simple note or card to him to tell him so. Next time they ask, tell them to write and find out for themselves.
No, you're not wrong to be angry, but now that you've identified and owned your anger, do something about it. If you don't, it will manifest itself in a way that may be harmful to you in the future. Don't let this slide, let your family know you're upset -- if they ARE asking how he's doing, they apparently DO care, but perhaps aren't aware that your son would like to hear from them. Give them his address via email if you can, sometimes seeing it in black-and-white helps versus telling them verbally.
God bless you and your son!
2007-11-12 02:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People did me the same way when my husband was deployed--I only remember once or twice that anyone besides me sent him anything, yet they were always asking me for news.
I think in a way it's better that they are asking as opposed to never mentioning it as if they had totally forgotten him. However, I understand your frustration that none of them have contacted him themselves. Maybe you could be a bit proactive with this bunch when you see them for Thanksgiving. You could contact them beforehand and tell them that you are putting together a care package for him and ask them to bring an item to contribute. Give them suggestions if you think they can't figure that out on their own. Then buy a card to send from the whole family and get them to sign it at the family gathering. Tell them to be sure to put their contact info on the card--if your son has the time and the inclination, he may want to contact them directly to thank them and to establish communication. Collect the items they bring to add to the package and also pass out his address again for those who may have misplaced it the first time.
Then the next time anyone asks, politely mention that he received the care package (if he has) but that he is looking forward to hearing directly from them next time.
I did the pass the card thing at our home church to sort of force the issue, and they participated in that. The next time, someone else took the initiative to buy and pass the card, so I felt like I had done some good.
2007-11-12 02:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I think your feelings are ok. I mean its ok to feel that way. I get like that too. I am mostly disappointed with my fam. My hubs is deployed too and my fam never calls to ask how he is, or me and the kids, they have never sent an email, letter or box to him, his parents, well I am not sure if they have written him cuz he has not said ( he would) but I know they have sent no boxes, they don't call us (me & kids) only after I have called them , I am very disappointed with my family. But I was told by my father (prior service) that don't expect anything from anyone. 98 % of people have no idea what we go through and do not take the time to care. I realize this but still hurts. Yet some of my fam and his parents so expect to be there for his homecoming, hahahaha NOT ! anyhow, maybe you could just say hey, hes doing good, hes wondering why yall haven't written, and I am too. Then maybe they might "get it" and still no bad words were exchanged ya know. Good luck, and hope ur son comes home safe. Tell him I thank him and am VERY proud of him ! HOO-f*ckin- RAH!!!!!!!
2007-11-12 06:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by luvmyhubby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. When I went to Iraq my family did the same crap. They acted like they were all concerned about my well being when they talked to my mom but not one of them took the time to shoot me an email or a letter. Not even on Xmas of all days. But be the bigger person, tell them your son is doing fine. If you write him that's all that matters. Letters from my mom always made me feel better when I was there. I knew who truely cared and who didn't. You seem like a good person and support from you is all he'll need.
2007-11-12 03:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by mrshernandez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your son is fine and I hope you are fine too. It is hard to be a family member of a deployed serviceman or woman. Thank you for your sacrifice. Please give your son a big thank you too.
I have nephews who are also deployed and I know that I sometimes get busy with my life and forget to write them or e-mail them. So, I ask their Mom how they are. She says write them and find out. I guess she gets angry with me for not writing. Forgive your family they do care they are just busy with their own lives. You might try what my sister has done and that is every now and then send them an e-mail reminder to write. It works.
2007-11-12 02:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mother of three active duty with one serving 4th deployment, next time politely suggest that the write and ask him themselves, let them know he would love to hear from the family...Than if that doesn't work tell them to bug off, if you really cared you'd write...
2007-11-12 02:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people ask things like How are you as just conversation and arent really that interested. I would relate a few details of his last e mail or phone conversation and mention that he is really wanting to hear from others at home and is starting to feel like everyones forgotten him. Perhaps that will spur them to at least send him an e mail.
2007-11-12 02:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times they just don't understand how it important it is to you or to him. Maybe you can mention to them how much he would like to hear from them?
Or maybe he can drop them a note or an email? I know I can procrastinate writing to some one but if they send me a note or an email I am compelled to respond.
God bless you and your son. And good luck with your family.
2007-11-12 02:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by paintingj 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you are saying. If they aren't writing to him you should just encourage them to do so. Tell him to write and call them when he gets the chance. It's difficult for some families to handle, try to remember that although you are understandably frustrated.
2007-11-12 07:47:18 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋