How do I tell her no?

Question

There's a girl who I know and we're good friends. Lately she's been asking me to go out with her, but I only think of her as a friend and nothing more. I don't want to hurt her feelings or ruin our friendship, but the way she's making a big deal about it, it seems like either we go out or we end our friendship. How should I tell her no?

Lilbit: Someone's being a little too dramatic today. Besides, I'm talking about someone else, not you, the animal abuser.

Answer 1

You never tell me NO!!! I can't believe you would do this to me . . . how could you? I thought I was special??? I'm just so broken and lifeless now. I hope you can go on and enjoy your life now. Please no . . . don't look back. What's done is done.

Answer 2

You're gonna have to get the nerve to tell her how you feel. Honesty is key, in a friendship. If shes a real friend, she'll appreciate your honesty. It may hurt her, but she will get over it. Dont hide your real feelings from her. It will only make things worse.

Ive been the girl in this same kind of situation, and the guy I liked had to tell me. I was hurt at first, but I remained his friend. It all worked out.*

Answer 3

You pretty much just have to say it, you know? I mean just say something like, "Look, you really sweet and I love you as a friend but I don't want to mess up our friendship. It would hurt both of us." Talk to her, make her understand and maybe, after go get some coffee together just to show her that you still want to be friends. Don't be afraid to hang out, just make sure she knows what your really doing, just hanging out as friends.

Best of luck. You can do it! lol.

Answer 4

tricky tricky.
I been in this situation before too, you suspect that they like you but you don't really KNOW do you, apart from the other person (friend) keep asking you out..

So when you tell her, more or less, I don't see you THAT way, she could easily turn around and say, "Well, what made you think that?, I never said I was keen..."

But my advise, either way.. It is best and most mature to tell her you are not interested in her beyond friendship, that way, everything is clear, both parties know what to expect and not to expect, and it much less stressful like that.

Good luck with this!!

Answer 5

you tell her that you love her way too much as a friend and would never want to risk that by being in a relationship with her. And if she keeps on asking you than it means shes always had a crush on you and maybe you're not on the same pages. and throwing it.... im too young to be in a relationship and i can't commit especially to you because i don't want to let you down.you mean a lot to me....SAY FRIEND a lot :)

Good luck.
this is never an easy one

Answer 6

if your sure she wants more-then tell her out right that you want to stay best mates.As you value the friendship more this way and she is already important to you now and that you would be afraid to lose something special if you both took it to another level.And then go out and grab a soda and seal the freindship deal..hope you dont change your mind if she did move on..goodluck..cheers

Answer 7

Chicks do this to guys ALL the time...do it back. Tell her that you really value your friendship and that you do not want to risk messing it up. Tell her that her friendship is just too important to you...if she won't back off, maybe losing that friendship isn't that terrible...

Answer 8

tricky tacky.
just say sth like.. well for eg. "dear... how i hate those fights between frens ya know? the backstabbs and all... i'm glad you're one hell of a great fren to me. im glad that we are good frens and i hope it will stay that way forever. dun worry, i'll get my wife to save a place for you as a bridesmaid"..

that should be clear. make sure she hears it and repeat many times to re-ensure her.

Answer 9

just tell her no she cant make u do something u dont want to and if she doesnt understand then she wasnt ur friend at all

Answer 10

You must be giving her mixed signals.