I've seen alot of questions about this and I'm just wondering. I'm not bashing your choices, but I am curious. If you are a bride and your best friend is a guy, why won't the groom accept your best bud as a groomsman? And vice-versa if the groom's best friend is a girl, why can't she be a bridesmaid?
I don't expect my fiance's sisters to stand with the groomsmen, they will be two of my bridesmaids. Am I too old-fashioned about this? Or maybe out of touch with the current trends?
It is totally your choice, and that is your right to do with your wedding, I'm just curious.
2007-11-12 01:53:18 · 12 answers · asked by nova_queen_28 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think that if it is one person.. like the bride's brother for example.. they would usually stand with the groom's side.. but if the groom has all his close friends by him already and the bride has a particularly close male friend it is nice to show that he is her friend and stands with her in support of the marriage.. it may also be that having a male attendent for the bride might go against people who believe there are jealousy issues with the male friend situation.. i think that as people get married later in life they tend to have more close friends of the opposite sex, who are truly just friends..
2007-11-12 03:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what is supposed to happen is the bride picks her sisters, friends and family as her bridesmaids and the groom picks his brothers, cousins and friends as his groomsmen but now days that is not how a lot of people are doing it. My fiancee and I have each others family and friends on both side my brother is a groomsmen, my nephew is the ring bear, my cousin is a groomsmen and my fiancee has a godsister and cousin on my side. So it all depends on what you want to do in your wedding and how good you two can come together and compromise about having just general family and friends on either side.
2007-11-12 02:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that both the bride and the groom should have equal choice to both ushers and bridesmaids of course maid of honor and best man should be chosen by the bride or groom but the rest can be a mix of friends on both sides
2007-11-12 02:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by jrzyprnces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groomsmen are generally there as friends of the groom, go to the bachelor party, etc. The bride's friends are traditionally female and do those festivities. Nothing says you can't fiddle with the tradition, though...
2007-11-12 02:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here is my opinion on this.. if your fiance is close with you best friend also then i absolutely think that he should be a groomsman.. however, if he is not then no i dont think he should.. unless you want him to stand with you.. because he will be helping you plan the wedding in this case and not necessarily your fiance.. i think your fiances sisters is a totally different story.. even if you are not close with them, they should still be in the wedding.. a wedding is not only a joining of you and your fiance but also a joining of 2 families.. that is a way to form a closer relationship with his sisters and be a part of their family.
2007-11-12 02:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how traditional you are, if you are like me then my brother will stand with my fiance and his sister will stand with me. This is just how I am but I would not oppose it if his best friend was female, you choose your wedding party and if you want your male best friend to stand on the brides side then so be it. It's your wedding so enjoy (I know we aren't speaking directly to you) with whomever you decide!
2007-11-12 02:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no set rules for who can be in what part of the wedding party. i attended a friend's wedding a few years ago, and the bride's best friend was male, and the groom's best friend was female, so they had the man of honor and the best woman.
2007-11-12 02:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is what you make of it. It needs to make sense to you and who cares what anyone else thinks. The whole point of the wedding is honor the day you and your other take your vows. So, I believe those closest to you should be standing at your wedding.
My half-sister had her mother, two sisters, two nieces in her wedding party. No one thought that was weird.
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2016-10-02 04:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by fragoso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will have my brother and my best friend(a girl) stand with me and my fiance will have his daughters from his first marriage with him. I don't think the traditional roles of male and female matter so much as having the people that count standing next to you.
2007-11-12 01:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋