Do you have a difficult time forgiving people?

Question

I understand that G-d will not forgive my wrongs against another until I try to make it right. I want to become more righteous, but I find it unbearably difficult to have to apologize to certain people.

Answer 1

You have to let go of that pride and ego to even shoot at righteous.
It's hard. It is for me. I have to do humility it doesn't come natural. I have to ask God for help. Still I fail a lot.

Answer 2

Nope, I am a moody person, lol. I can get angry at somebody and after a few seconds become so calm and nice to them. I forgive people easily and I can always apologize if I realize that I was mistaken. Being humble is nice. Tolerance, forgiveness, and understanding are very important steps towards peace.

Peace

Answer 3

I understand... I'm the same way. It's like I know it's wrong to hold things against someone but sometimes I find it impossible not too. But then again for me personally this is only because I'm extremely stubborn... are you? Sometimes it goes along with pride... not wanting to apologize to certain people until they do first. BUT sometimes we have to put this aside... becasue if these are people who are important to you then it may ruin your friendships... because by you not apolozing to them they my start to feel like you just don't care about them... and you don't want that. So I'd say take your time trying to get better at it... and if your still have trouble at least let the people that your fighting with know that you do really care for them, so they won't think otherwise. Hope this helps you out. Best of luck to you! =]

Answer 4

According to Jewish tradition you must apologize if you done something wrong to someone. God will not forgive you in someone else's name. To tell you the truth, I find it wonderful. Think how would you feel if someone would hurt you, but will assume that God will forgive him, instead of you.
BUT, there's a really nice "catch". 3 times, and you are out, just like baseball... This means that if this person does not forgive you - then the blame is on him...
Good luck

Answer 5

I don't have a difficult time forgiving people, but people have a difficult time forgiving me.

Also, it's difficult to apologize to people because I don't want to listen to a drawn out speech about my actions, or I'm afraid they won't accept the apology. I really hate the latter situation.

Answer 6

I agree with Redisca. If someone hurts me, and there was any type of deliberation involved, then I find it hard to forgive and what I want is a fair outcome.

If someone has made a genuine mistake, I can forgive, no problem. But if they knew, on any level, that their actions would result in upset for me, and if they go ahead and do it regardless, then no, I don't forgive them.

Answer 7

It's very hard for me to frogive someone. Like one of my friends and me got into a huge fight last year. To this day, I honestly can not even remember what it was over. But anyway, I didn't talk to her for 6 months. We were in the same class, sat at the same table at lunch, and I hung out w/ the rest of our friends. I just never said a single word. I deeply regret it now. I missed out on alot. Then, one the last week of school, I wrote her a note during Math class and told her that I was ready to forgive her. She was so happy.

Answer 8

I can forgive easily except:

1) if I can't make sense of why someone has acted in an unfair or hurtful way towards me

2) the person has been cruel and it's happened before

Answer 9

If it smy best friend or someone very close to me who I confide evrything to hirt me or betrayed me in a certain way , then yes it would be very hard for me to forgive this person. Or I might forgive tha person after a while but I will always remember what he/she didd to me!

Answer 10

I find forgiving people more difficult than apologizing. It's a shortcoming, I know -- but the idea of justice appeals more to me than the idea of mercy.