What's the best way to take a friendship to the "next level"? Tips for transitioning, etc.?

Question

How do you go from being friends to being more without scaring the person off?

Answer 1

Honestly dude. You would have been waaaaaaaaaaay better off just biting the bullet and saying something on Friday. Do you know whether this chick is single married or what not? You might want to find that out first....

But please. Tell her. Girls like brave guys. If you don't draw this out any further, she will appreciate your bravery hand honesty. We know this isn't easy for you, and if she has been seeing/answering your questions, she's in as much suspenses as you are. Just. Tell. Her. Do it now! Do it anonymously, with this account. Just send her an e-mail and say you are the object of my affection,do i creep you out? IF you creep her out, thenshe still doesn't know who you are, so nothing lost. Just do it! I'm rooting for you, this tickles my romance bone. Tee hee.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You lost The Nolte at "without scaring the person off".

Answer 4

I think telling the person how you feel is a good start. If she doesn't feel the same way, you can probably still be friends.

Answer 5

Make a very subtle remark here and there. Just enough to let her know you're interested,something to make her think. But nothing that requires a response from her...that's what broke the ice with us.

Answer 6

I'm going to tell you a little story that might help.

I moved when I was just beginning the 9th grade and started going to a new school. Being the "new kid" didn't bother me, but I wasn't used to having no friends at all. I was pretty miserable, actually, because I was a very social person.

On my first day there, a boy in my class named Jeff came up to me and started talking as if he already knew me. He was just so funny and fearless that we became good friends. Throughout high school, we hung out together but never dated. I thought of him as my brother, actually.

After graduation, we both went our separate ways (as it turns out, into loveless, awful marriages). After he was divorced, he called my parents to ask for my phone number. If he wasn't so insistent and charming, I doubt my Mom would have given it to him, but she did.

When he called me, he made it clear that he had never stopped thinking about me over the years; he then immediately asked me out on a date. I was divorced, but in a relationship so I declined. Another year passed and he called me again; I was still in the relationship and I again declined his advances. And I also still thought of him like a brother, so it creeped me out a little. I just couldn't think of him that way, even if I forced myself. (Eventually, my relationship ended and he was there for me when I needed to cry about it.)

However, the man was relentless. He sent me cards (pleural) on my birthdays; he called me from unique places (like Grace Land) just to share the experience; he would leave absolutely hilarious (and very often, graphic) jokes on my voice mail at work; he sent me flowers for no specific occasion at all -- he just wanted me to know he was thinking about me. What I didn't realize was that, during this time, he was slowly getting me to see him as someone other than a brother; he was presenting himself as a potential suitor. Several years after my relationship ended, I finally agreed to go out with him. (It was great, but unfortunately our relationship ended very badly through no fault of our own, but I digress.)

Here's my point: if you already know this woman as a friend, you MUST get her to see you as a MAN, otherwise she will find it very difficult to see you the way you want her to. Don't be afraid to be romantic; show her slowly how you feel; then, when the time is right, TELL HER. Women like that kind of stuff.

Answer 7

First you have to tell her. Also tell her that you do not want to scare her off.

I think she will be flattered. It is possible that she feels the same as you.

Answer 8

i am over 50 years old now-in that time i have learned to just ask-worst that could happen is the person says no-nothing lost-best that could happen is they say yes-potential to gain everything-and it could land anywhere in between----get your feet wet--the water is fine----just my thoughts smile and enjoy the day

Answer 9

maybe she's not as easily scared off as you think...

start talking to her more often, ask her advice about things.

i hope things work out for you both.
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Answer 10

Come on, just tel her!!! That will be the best way to start.