2007-11-12 00:46:26 · 24 answers · asked by * STAR * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, he is goal oriented, you do have a life too don't you. If not get one. He will out grow you and you will be alone and lonely
2007-11-12 00:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what does "wrong" mean to you?
i think the real question probably should be
"should I stay with a bf who puts his career before me?"
and to that question, I would answer "it depends".
If this is a short term situation - med school is one of those cases, for instance, then my answer might be "as long as after he's past the 8-10 yrs of training you get attention, that should be something you are prepared to deal with".
Another question for you though - how would you react if someone suggested that you were being selfish to insist on being the center of his world?
It is one thing for someone to CHOOSE to be obsessed with you. It is quite a different thing for someone to want it.
I am in a relationship where I wish I were the center of someone's world. But I'm not. She loves me. But she has other things that are as important ... perhaps at times more important... that I am.
So it is a choice, sometimes daily, as to whether to continue being second (third, fourth, etc.) place or not.
2007-11-12 08:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of unanswered questions on this one that I would have liked to ask you before I answer, but here go's. If your boyfriends career is the income that will put a roof over your head, food on your table & provide for everything the two of you need for a future together, then he is not putting his career before you, he is putting your future before the current togetherness to make sure that you have a future together.
Therefore you will have to look @ the reason he is doing this & maybe you will know if you need to make amendments from your side to make life esear .
2007-11-12 08:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ters B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. is his career going to help both of you in the long run. is his career REALLY going somewhere that could put both of you in a good place 5 years from now? think about stuff like that. if it's just some kind of hunch of a dream that he's tryna start you might have problem. unless it works out.
2007-11-12 08:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your building a career and want to take care of your life it's going to come first. The best person you can be with understands that.
2007-11-12 08:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by 35 and loving it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you want?
Is it wrong for a person to excel? Do you want a person who settles for a marginal career, only to allow you to live in an apartment, not be able to support children and such, or do you wish someone who can be all they are, live to their potential and provide a good home?
If you are incompatible with your boyfriends chosen career, perhaps you need to find someone else.
2007-11-12 09:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not wrong..... I've always thought that my career was the first..... before everything.. It's right he knows what he wants to do and tries to do it! Don't be worry about that... It doesn't mean he doesn't love you...
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2007-11-12 08:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by ° • ● foxy ● • ° 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope-that's what men are all about. Get used to it. Many wives are hurt by the fact that their husband's work takes up all their time.
Men's careers are a part of their identity and self-esteem. That's pretty much always gonna be number one in their lives.
2007-11-12 08:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your house burns down and you are brought to the emergency room with third degree burns, but he has a weekly staff meeting, so he can't come. Wrong.
He's not home for your birthday, as he has a conference in Santa Fe. Right.
Come on, it depends. And it's different for every couple, too.
2007-11-12 08:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by bonitakale 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong for you to marry a guy who feels that way. It will trickle down into other ways that he is negative toward women while preferring himself. Is that what you are willing to settle for in life. Give it lots of thought because it won't feel any better later.
2007-11-12 08:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by nutsfornouveau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no, not neccissarily, if hes not married yet, it's for a reason, if he treats you the way you want to be treated, just wait till hes ready to focus on his relationship, just remmember that his career is important to him as it will be you in the long run.
2007-11-12 08:49:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋