exotic dancer escort person?

Question

ok i dont really know what to do and you have no idea what im talking about but ill tell you ok so i havent graduated from high school cant pay bills or nothing and im gonna really need money soon and my boyfriend is aok with this idea i want to be an exotic dancer bbut dont know the first thing of becoming a good one i dont want to get all the way naked like strippers and i possibly want to be an escort just temporary though tell i get out of dept and all that crap and to have an experience i need pros and cons and opinions on these 2 job if you dont mind

um i am an adult and i wouldnt mind getting naked it just wouldnt be my top thing unless absolutaly required

ok i see where you guys are coming from im not that far in dept only like 1000 dollars and it wouldnt be a lifestyle plan i dont plan on getting my ged and my english is fine thank you i just choose not to put periods and stuff on here because i know you guys can read the words thats all im trying to get you guys to understand english is my best subject and if you think about it any job you get no one is really gonna approve of it for example models are considered sluts and anorexic when people dont really have the slightest idea of what its like just because people dont say oh im so ugly im so fat and they apriciate there bodies more than others people who dance for people are considered sluts walmart employees are considered stupid when really its a lot harder than most people think and they get paid a lot more than most jobs in the first place fast food people get made fun of higher executive people get considered as stuck up so unless you guys go and try the job you really dont kno

and also unless im being racist or something thats actually worth being disapproved of or even sleeping around then i dont think thre is anything wrong with a job i want to try out and my boyfriend does love me which is why hes ok with it because he trusts me and know i wont do anything and hes there for me what ever my decisions are

i am over 18 have been for a while and if i started getting harrassed i have th sherriffs number on speed dial so im not worried and y boyfriend would be willing to pick me up after work so i get home safe. reading back on this i do sound like im young but im older than most think and i dont do drugs or alcohol never have never will my sister got murdered from drugs i dont plan on making friends where id work and i do plan on doing research on the place

i was saying i dont have my diploma letting you guys know its kinda hard to find a job thatll take me since im an adult without a diploma and ive had bills to pay but now one of the people helping with rent is moving and cant afford that much more money to pay we always split it i livewith my boyfriend but even then we still cant afford it

Answer 1

JUST DON"T DO IT!!!

Answer 2

This is a pretty drastic decision to make. If you approach an agency and apply for a job, I'm sure they'd give you training first but you really should look at other options first before you consider this your only choice. You need to be 18 in my country. There are better industries you can work in. I'll give you the brief rundown on my experiences.

Escorts are never normally viewed as "human beings" and just because there is "supposed to be" no sex involved DOESN'T mean that you won't encounter clients that will try and pressure you for it or try to take "it" by force. You may encounter drug use or be offered them yourself. You may be threatened with harm. You may encounter some quite nice individuals but it's still not a clean industry - at least not in my country.

If the agency you approach is not "above-board" god only knows what danger you could be put in. If they don't perform background checks on the clientel you could end up with "Jack the Ripper" for all you know. It really is a dicey industry.

Stripping is the same. You'll get offered drugs, be harrassed, demeaned and degraded by some clients. Once you get into the industry it's hard to get out. Don't give away your self-respect. It's not worth it.

Answer 3

Unless you are a feature dancer,the money isn't all that great.

And you have to pay a DJ fee,and a fee to work at the club for the night. You put out about 200 dollars up front,and this is providing you can make that 200 dollars back.

Honestly,I would rather be an escort.You get to keep about 50% of the money.

But to be honest with you,being 1000 dollars in debt is not a reason to want to work in the sex trade.I think you should explore your other options.

Answer 4

Depending on the country you live in or the state within a country you may well find yourself too young to do such work (assuming it's even legal).

There are no pro's apart from the money to being either an exotic dancer (fancy term for pole dancer / stripper) or an escort (fancy term for a prositute).

The downside hower are legion, seedy clubs, sleazy guys, potential diseases, gaining a bad name for yourself and a lot more.

My advice, dump your boyfriend, he does NOT have your best interests at heart. Contact any local welfae advocacy agency and find out who can help to restructure your debts etc and then get a proper job and pay off your debts.

Answer 5

You can call it what you want but it is stripping. You will be treated like a piece of meat. And so many women get in the biz for temporary money then drink a little or do a line here and there to feel more comfortable. Then they get hooked.

And as for Escort, that is another word for prostitute. NO man pays money just to go on a date. They expect sex.

There are no positive attributes to either of these jobs. They both lead to you doing more and more what you said you never do until your self esteem (that probably sucks to begin with, having see what you are considering) completely go to the toilet.

Answer 6

Ok - The pro on both:

You might make a bit of money

The cons:

It is not as much money as you hope
You will only make good money if you "Put out" as you will be heavily dependant on tips
Your bf may be ok with it but once he sees you dancing he will NOT be ok with it (if he is ok with it then I guarantee your relationship won't last as what sort of man would want his gf to demean herself like this for a living?)
You will not get out of debt in this lifestyle - any extra money you earn I guarantee you will spend as you have got used to living beyond your income
There is a high degree of personal risk in both in terms of both the customers and the people you will be working with - escort agencies and erotic dance clubs are recruiting ground that drug dealers use to make new addicts - you will be a target for these people.
Think about the social standing this line of work gives you.

Finally, two things:
1) If you do this as a living what are you going to do to get a different job? If your references are "escort" or "erotic" you won't get a good job doing anything respectable, and if you did then you wouldn't have the experienece to last in it.
2) You are obviously not the most intelligent person - your English is terrible for a start - this will make you vulnerable to being exploited and you will become trapped in this line of work. As you get older you will be worth less to employers (who wants an old escort or a saggy dancer?) so in order to maintain your income you will need to do more - strip, sex, whatever - that time will come.

You may not be most intelligent but I hope you have the common sense not to pursue this line of work - instead, focus on getting a normal job with a normal income and control your debts. Keep your sexy dancing for your boyfriend!

Answer 7

Are you sure you want to do this? This is a big step for you. So why can't you go back and at least get your GED while you can? Get it over with. You may never again have the chance to get your GED. As far as exotic dancing, I never go to those places, so for me to comment on them, well I couldn't. I do know one person who works there, it is good money, but she also makes sure that her parents don't know what she's doing. I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 8

in case you placed it up the form you describe, i think of it might make an substantial own assertion. 2 of the fundamental characteristics a social worker ought to have are (a million) the skill to be nonjudgmental, and (2) the skill to empathize. Your specific existence studies, consisting of -- or perhaps possibly particularly -- your having been an unique dancer, have given you opportunities to advance those characteristics to an staggering degree.

Answer 9

Why would you choose a profession that could have profound repercussions for the rest of your life. How old are you? Where are your parents? you have the right to make any decision you want to about your own life, but i can guarantee you would be making a big mistake. Try talking this out with someone you trust. This could ruin your life. Good Luck. And I hope things work out for you.

Answer 10

If u DON'T want to strip all the way do u really think u r cut out to be an escort? And good dancers require training.

Have u thought about phone sex or text chat work? See how u and your bf deal with that b4 u try something more hardcore.

Answer 11

Babe it is just a title, if you are and exotic dancer you are a stripper in a nicer cleaner, can't touch the gurls joint, but you will be naked, try to find one that lets you keep your g-string. or go to school and work at McDonalds until you graduate college.