Serious question..If a woman finds out she's pregnant and miscarries should she tell the guy?

Question

I've been seeing someone casually and getting serious. I recently found out i was pregnant but as in some cases with woman i didnt know i was pregnant as i did get my period.

What caught my attention was a friend of mine who went through a miscarriage recently and her symptons were exactly what i was feeling.

Went to the doc, had an ultrasound, i was pregnant but didnt miscarry properly. The bubs (embryo) i guess you could say didnt survive and stayed inside me. I was in pain, feeling sick etc.

I will be having it removed soon.

It's been doing my head in trying to decide whether the guy i've been seeing should know. He's been very sympathetic thus far as i did tell him i'm un well and that i did do a test which came up negetive and that i was going for an ultrasound. Reason why it came up negetive is because it was already too late.
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Do i tell him or dont i???

Ok firstly much appreciate all your answers so far. Just adding an extra detail as some have asked how long have i been with him...I have been seeing him for 6 months. He's a fantastic guy, one every lady would wish for but i wont go into that. So yes it may be a short time for some, but it feels like a life time that i've known known him..

Answer 1

OF COURSE You tell him.
What are you afraid of? If he leaves you or gives you a hard time because you "were" pregnant, than he's not worth your time.

I'm pretty sure he would want to know this. IF you are getting more serious w/ him... there has to be honesty and trust in the relationship.

No, it's never too late. Besides you didn't know that you were pregnant at first... just tell him.

I'm sorry for your miscarriage and Good Luck!

Answer 2

First of all terribly sorry for your lost little angel, I hope you don't suffer too long. I can't imagine what you are going through, but support would probably make you feel stronger.

Second of all when you say serious how long have you been dating this man? I don't think you should suffer in silence, you should talk to him. It is not as if you were only a couple of weeks gone before you miscarried, you need counselling. Tell your boyfriend and ask your doctor about grief counselling, you shouldn't bottle stuff like this up as it can cause problems later on down the track. If he is worth his steel he will be even more supportive of you then he already is. You never know he might suspect it already.

Answer 3

Might be better to tell him. He'll be wondering why you're not in the best of form, and in a way it does concern him too.

Best of luck with this, it's a sad time for woman when she loses a baby.

Answer 4

terribly sorry for what you are going through...but if you would like a strong relationship with this guy, your best bet is honesty. tell him openly what happened, these details are great. if you tell him and are totally open with whats going on, he should have respect for that. if not...hes not worth your time. my freind dated a guy, and got pregnant, and he was not very receptive to it. not a guy worth having around. if he doesnt like the fact you got pregnant, he wont like other things that bring not nessicarily good news.

Answer 5

i'm so sorry for your loss. i think he should know. he has a right to know. it can be hard on a woman to loose a baby and he might be wondering why your acting strange. it is best to always be open and honest with your partner so they can support you and understand what is going on. he should also have the right to grieve for his child.

Answer 6

deff tell him its his baby aswell and he has a right to know also im sorry for your loss hope you feel better soon

Answer 7

u shouldent be the only one going threw this cus it took both of you for it to happen. tell him

Answer 8

Of course you tell him..... and before you get pregnant again, get married !

Answer 9

sorry for ur presious loss!! if u think u can tell him, then tell him!!

Answer 10

tell him