2007-11-11 19:33:43 · 28 answers · asked by michelle m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This depends on various factors. I am going to presume since your icon is female you are.
Now, at one time a man could have as many wives as he could afford. With this in mind, several women could fall in love with one man and marry him. This is still true in some cultures even today. A woman however could not have multiple husbands. This however is true in a limited number of cultures today where women have several husbands at one time.
Today, because of the laws made by man, men and women are allowed only one husband or one wife. This is based on church based laws not Biblical laws. God has never had a problem with multi-partner marriages and has never forbid them anywhere in scriptures. Because the assembled Canon decided it was necessary to make the Bible masculine in nature it is now believed women should be subject to men. Governmental laws are based on this assumption.
To comply with the "constitutional laws" and the so called separation of church and state laws, a license should be issued to anyone desiring to do so in polygamy or polyandry marriages or regardless of sexual orientation.
I know I have said a lot here to get to answering your question, but NO I do not believe it is wrong to fall in love with a married man or woman.
2007-11-12 00:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why Would You Ask That You Know Its Wrong And If You Are Thinking About Seeing A Married Man Think Again Because Married Man Will Tell You Anything You Want To Hear Just Get You In Bed Then You Leave To Go Back To Thire Wife And Even He Did Leave Her For You What Thinks He Be Faithful To You
2007-11-12 04:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Rockstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For so many reasons. First, there is the deception of the spouse who is waiting at home. And, more times as not, this person is completely innocent and unsuspecting that the marriage is even in trouble. Then there are the children that this married person has whose lives will be thrown into torment when the cheater is found out. The kids did nothing to deserve the life they are not going to be forced to live. Next, there is you to think about. Despite the disturbing fact that you are considering a relationship with a married man (nice save, by the way, adding the "or women" at the end of your question). You are setting yourself up for heart break. Most married men, if not all, who cheat are not looking to establish a Plan B in the event that their marriage fails. Nor is their marriage presently failing. They are just looking for some strange. Now, this could last for some time if you arent pushy and end up calling his wife, but you will get hurt and be hurt each time he jumps out of your bed to head home.
Good Luck
2007-11-12 04:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably can't help it if you fall in love with someone regardless if they are married or not. But it is wrong to tell that person you are in love, it's wrong to act on it.
The problem was that you put yourself in the position to fall in love with a married person. Falling in love takes a little time and you should have gotten some warning signs before it got that far.
Some people fall in love with people that they can't have. If they are afraid of love or feel they can't handle a love relationship, it keeps them away from having to deal with an actual available man or woman.
2007-11-12 03:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong with falling in love with someone who's married; it's what you choose to do afterwards that determines if it's right or wrong.
The wonderful feeling of falling in love is completely natural and therefore uncontrollable; conversely, we are in direct control of our decisions and must take responsibility for them.
Don't put them in a compromising position. Discern carefully between what is an act of love and that of selfishness. Remember, it's what you do to the ones you love that counts.
2007-11-14 13:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ranlian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It happens all the time, everywhere. Two of our common friends who were single fell for my wife at different points in time. My wife to reciprocated. It created major damage to our relationship and it has not healed even after 5 years.
When I went through all this, I talked to a lot of people online and also did some research. I found some statistics that said that 60 to 80% of marriages will see at least one casual fling or an affair, either by the man or the woman. It seems to vary by region and ethnicity, but a lot of people believe that at least 60% of marriages are affected by this.
2007-11-12 03:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong but sometimes people can't help who they fall in love with. And sometimes they don't know the person they are messing with is married till they are in love and it is too late.
2007-11-12 04:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by jusbizness403 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not wrong to fall in love with a married person............
Daydream about them
Fantasize about them
Draw pictures of the person and you together.
Scribble their name along with yours.........and leave the rest alone. It is a waste of time, energy and they usually do not leave their current family for another man or woman.
2007-11-12 04:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by ttwobearsplusone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Michelle, Yes I do. You are getting into a big mess and this guy or gal is nothing but a cheater and will probably cheat on you too. Steer away from marry people "BAD NEWS ALL THE WAY AROUND".
A Friend,
poppy1
2007-11-12 04:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by poppy1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Falling in love with him or her is not the problem. If you take it further than just the "warm, fuzzy feeling" it becomes a problem. Please, if you truly love him or her, you should respect them. Don't make them the object of your sexual fantasies. Don't tell them. Don't put them in compromising situations. Do try and stop thinking about it all the time. There are many lovely singles out there, and you are just frustrating yourself by desiring something you shouldn't have.
2007-11-12 03:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋