Do you agree? relationship dos and donts?

Question

1. Never go to bed angry.
2. Never name call.
3. Never bring up old conflicts.
4. Never blame.
5. Never try to be right, always try to be happy.
6. Always listen to your partner, never assume they are attacking you, they are just expressing their feelings.
7. Always accept responsibility for your wrongs.
8. Never turn nasty when you don’t know what else to do.
9. Always let go of your insecurities or you will never really be able to love or be loved.
10. Always talk to each other about everything or you will turn away from each other.
11. Never keep secrets form your partner or you will learn to lie easily.
12. Never bring up your past relationships or your partners. We all have old flames and its all about experience. Experience makes better relationships.
13. Never discuss what your partner did in a previous relationship as it’s not your relationship.
14. In 50 years time the last thing you will remember about your partner is all the bad things. All we will focus on is the moments we had together so again always aim for positive happiness.
15. If you don’t feel heard by your partner, use words like “I don’t feel heard”, “I need you to try and hear me and understand me”. Never just give up and start screaming.
16. Sometimes if your discussion isn’t going anywhere we need to agree to disagree, this may be the hardest thing you will ever have to do but we are all different and that’s a good thing.
17. Never let your family or friends influence your relationship.
18. If your partner has a problem with your family its up to you to fix it.
19. Always stand up for your partner over anyone, they will be there forever.
20. If you feel your partner is wrong with something they are blaming you for, never start yelling, listen first then calmly discuss how you feel about it.
21. Always make time for your partner without anyone, as these moments are what build a happy relationship.
22. Always explore different ways of making your sex life better.
23. Never bring someone else into your bedroom. Your sex life is a huge ground of your relationship and to bring someone else in can and most likely will, create insecure thoughts and feelings. These are your special times together and no one else deserves to share them.
24. Always show affection towards your partner in front of your children (not sexually), what they see will build their own relationships.
25. Never feel you cannot talk to your partner, if your partner cannot listen then seek help.
26. Always look towards your partner first.
27. Always rely on your partner.
28. If you have something to say, say it. Never let anyone even your partner, walk all over you. This will cause disrespect.
29. Always respect and trust your partner.
30. Never, Never, Never give up on your relationship.

Answer 1

1. disagree to an extent, you shouldn't go to bed angry but if you're both tired and upset it's probably best to at least sleep on it, especially if you're both overtired. You're brain works better and you can see things a little clearer after some sleep.
5. Not sure why but something doesn't seem to be right about that one. A relationship shouldn't be about making YOURSELF happy it should be about making your PARTNER happy
12 and 13 contradict 11 not keeping secrets means telling your partner about your past. Now I'm not saying you should talk about your past on the first date but if it ever comes up don't try to avoid it
14. disagree cause NO ONE knows what you'll remember in 50 years time...just the 50 years older version of yourself (for all you know you could develop alzheimers and not remember any of it)
17. To an extent sometimes your friends and family can see dangers in your partner that you can't, cause you were struck by cupids arrow. 'Love is blind'
18. WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!! NEVER get in the middle of an arguement no matter who it's between. Just make sure they don't use YOU to get back at each other. the fight is between those two not you, your partner, and them.
19 WRONG!!! family is there forever and no one else friends and lovers come and go.
27. NOPE always rely on YOURSELF it's not healthy to rely on someone else, you never know what can happen and your whole world will come tumbling down...then you won't know what to do with yourself because the person you relied on is gone.
30. depends, if your partner is abusing you or disrespecting you in anyway that get out of it! If it's a loving and caring relationship that's what ya gotta fight for. Not abusing, drug using addicts

Everything else I agree with

Answer 2

Of course I do, but to a limit. Dos and don'ts are based on the person and relating issues. I think that there are only consequences for ones actions, so if u do something and it was good or bad you will still get a consequence. "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction"-Issac Newton(Newtons Law) #30 i do strongly agree to unless it has seemed hopeless too many times,but don't give up, give in and # 25 i agree to.28 u need to lower the pride a bit and listen sometimes even if ur wrong so it can go a lot smoother and u can both stop arguing and be happy a lot longer and sooner.Send me back and let me know how i did. :)

Answer 3

6. Sure, except that sometimes a partner will attack. Ever hear of abuse?

12. Completely disagree, change that to, "Never get jealous over the past!"

13. Bull again, talk about it like it was that other relationship. It's fun. Lighten up.

17. Yea, except when your family and friends are right!

18. Again, I disagree. If my partner has a problem with my family, it would be his responsibility to fix it or fix his attitude. My family is who they are.

19. Sorry, he can stand up for himself, I don't always agree with him and I'm not going to play sniveling butt kisser just because there is company.

23. Sex is not the foundation of any healthy relationship.

30. Except when it's time to end it.

Answer 4

I absolutely agree,but there is something ironic about all of those. Everyone either does the TOTAL opposite of the do's and almost always do the don'ts(from time to time)
I love my husband with everything I have,but even I have been guilty of doing that! Rules are meant to be broken and I have yet to find someone abide by every single one of those rules.
But it is always nice to hear when someone does a couple of em = )

Answer 5

Yes, all these answers are good ones, but hard to do. You can't take words back once you have said them, so think before you say them, because they can be worse than taken a physical beating. I have been up all night last night and this is my second night without sleep, because my daughter-in-law gave me a tongue lashing for something I had no control over, but it still cut me to the bone and there is nothing I can do about it.
I would rather be dead!

Answer 6

Hello!!!!! its all good and fine to try and live by these dos and don'ts but it is pretty pointless if you have an abusive unreasonable, unreliable & unfaithful partner.
#31. Never let anyone treat you as a doormat nor sacrifice your pride, dignity and self worth in order to sustain a relationship.

Answer 7

There is love, and then there is common sense. These are guidelines, but sometimes it makes more sense to use your head instead of your "heart" to make decisions. Sometimes it really is best to walk away from a relationship. As long as you use the above list as a guideline and not as "set in stone" rules, you will be OK.

Answer 8

in my opinion about your point 15it is wrong.always remember good things.not a bad thoughts.and dont try to get and remove partners,that will make all relations fail,only one partner is enough in a life time and dont go to relationship before marriage,

Answer 9

whats with # 23 yes I agree thats a a no no no.... would really put a cold wet towel on a relationship to trust...ick

Answer 10

Lovely. How come people can't think this way, it has to be written in front of our faces?