is it really a sign of weakness for a man to ask for help?

Question

I have heard that it is a sign of weakness for a man to ask for help, other people think it's a sign of strength. Personally, I think it's totally stupid to pretend you know everything and are perfect at everything when you aren't. Every person has strengths and weaknesses. That's why we need one another. I'm in a situation where my wife died last year, and there were obviously things I was strong in and she was weak in, and things where I was weak and she was strong.. but now in the areas where she's gone and not meeting those needs, I find that I'm having trouble and I need help, but I don't have any help. I've refused to ask for help because I've found that people are willing to help you and meet your needs, but there's a cost in terms of respect, and it's not worth it to me to go and admit that I can't do stuff, and I need help, and all that. I'd rather injure myself over and over instead of humiliate myself and be disrespected.
make any sense?

I'm a man not a woman.
I'm still on disability and essentially I work at hiding any limitations Imay have..
but that doesn't help me get anything done.

Answer 1

It is absolutely not a sign of weakness. It it a show of strength to know where your limitations are and to ask to assistance in overcoming them - it demonstrates trust in others and self-knowledge. Don't let the opinions of others drag you down, or worse yet, make you feel you have to do things that will damage your health and hinder your recovery process.


I am sorry for your loss of your wife, and sincerely wish you the best.

Answer 2

Wow.

Just act like a woman, why don't you.

You probably are a feminist anyhow. No kidding.

stop trying to make men feel like they can't do anything, because it wasn't little fairies fighting in wars that have kept this country afloat.

Answer 3

I didn't read it all but I think I agree