i have been married for 2 years now and i just know my husband is cheating and i think he may have feelings for this person because we have been having problems i really love my husband and really cant see myself without him what shall i do?
2007-11-11 19:00:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take it step by step.
Make him aware of how you feel.
See a counsellor alone at first.
See a partners psychiatrist together.
Tell him how much you love him and how much he means to you. This may seem weird but it doesn't matter your married, you both know each has feelings for the other.
:)
Good luck, I wish you all the best.
2007-11-11 19:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by starrynight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to decide whether you want to put up with this or not. You say you know he's cheating and has feelings for this other person, then you say you can't see yourself without him. Ok, you need to have a real talk with him. Tell him that you know and how you are feeling. Ask him why and then suggest that you work on the marriage (through counseling), which would mean him having to leave the other relationship. If it continues then you really need to consider leaving him. If this is happening two years into the marriage what makes you think that 10, 20 or 30 years down the line he would be different. Give it one shot at working it out, if he continues then bail and find yourself a real man that will commit to you and you alone.
I'm sorry for being so blunt, but I tell you from my own experience. 25 years later, I finally decided to leave mine. Put up with too much. I am happy now.
2007-11-12 03:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how do you "just know" he's cheating on you? This sounds more like a high-maintenance, insecure rant than a legitimate concern.
If your husband is cheating on you, then it's time for you to have a little dignity, get some backbone, and get away from him. If you're so dependent on him that you'll accept anything rather than be alone, then you deserve all the misery you get.
2007-11-12 03:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You KNOW he's cheating? Get proof, if for noone but yourself. THEN confront him. If its 2 years and especially no kids, I'd give counseling a try, btu if he doesnt commit to rebuilding the trust (assuming there that he is cheating) then drop him like a hot rock.
2007-11-12 03:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself; Do I really love him? Then just sit and talk with him. If he indeed does have feelings for another, then honey, there is nothing you can do. You just have to be honest with him and tell it to him straight; Do you love me?
2007-11-12 03:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Catty411 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weLL i thinkk that y0u need t0 have a reaLLy seri0us taLk with him, teLL him that y0u kn0w what he`s up t0. and h0w it makes feeL, that y0u want this t0 st0p. ask him whyy d0es he want t0 thr0w away 2 years Like that? taLk t0 the 0ther pers0n that he`s been with t00.
2007-11-12 03:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by danielle. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that you and he see a marriage counselor before he gives up on the marriage.
2007-11-12 03:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to communicate. don't blame, don't accuse. just talk. good luck.
2007-11-12 03:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by vanessa c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋