Okay, I'm 14, and all when I was 13, I wasn't the only one that was immature and laughed at silly things. But now, it seems as though I AM the only that thinks that things like that are funny. Also, I seem to be the only one that uses the word "dude" anymore. I act really childish (I don't know why), and even my 10 year old brother is more mature than I am (somewhat).
This seems to be a problem because, I really feel like a kid around all my friends, and my immaturity seems to scare people away (so, no one wants to talk to me). Is there a way to change this? I can't help being immature and acting silly (for example, overreacting and screaming when I see my dog, or acting like a little kid). Also, I don't know where I got it from, but I tend to talk without thinking. I can't help it, I just do. So yeah, it makes me seem intimidating and a like a weirdo. I really don't like this, and I just realized it today. Is there a way to change that? or does it just come naturally?
2007-11-11 17:07:24 · 21 answers · asked by DookieCookie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friends don't mind, but it just makes me feel sorta left out.
2007-11-11 17:13:05 · update #1
Oh yeah, my friends are all a year older than me. Maybe that explains it...
2007-11-11 17:16:47 · update #2
No, I'm not a class clown. I'm actually really introverted and quiet in class, I'm kind of a geek xD. But around my really really close friends, I'm immature.
2007-11-11 17:22:05 · update #3
The reason you act immature is because you are only 14. There is nothing with that it just part of the nature of being 14.
2007-11-11 17:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, that is important. It sound like you are a fun-loving person.
However, if you think that your behavior is turing people off, perhaps yu should pay attention to what exactly upsets people. It is talking out of turn? Being too loud? Saying things that are just chidlish or silly when it is not appropriate to do so?
If you want to change some aspect of your behavior in order to be more mature, it IS under your control, even if you don't believe that. You need to think about everything you say and do.
Ask yourself how it will be received by others. Don't say things without thinking it through. Is the comment necessary? Why am I saying it...to get attention? Could I hay something else to get the same point across.
For example, if you do like to be around dogs.... when you see one, simply step away. You might say to whom ever you are with, "I don't care for dogs, I am going into the house" overreating and screaming are not necessary as it is just an attention getting thing that turns people off and sets the dog on edge as well.
It sounds like you already know what upsets people, that is a start! Just think before you speak or act and pretty soon you will appear to be a mature young adult!
Good luck :)
2007-11-12 01:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by LORI P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, you're 14 and you feel immature. Hmmm.... Well there are people who are 40 years whom had been accused of being immature.
What is the true meaning of being mature anyways? Able to make reasonable decisions? Can hold a job? Can take responsibilities? Does not cry over spilled milk?
There are people who are over 70 years old who are still playing video games, does that make them immature?
You mentioned something about screaming or overacting. Well people can express our feelings right? Now if you are concern about those things you can always go to a refining school for women. They will teach you to be a proper lady like attitudes. The right way to talk, the right way to walk, the right way to laugh. But who needs that? Really now. Not unless you are going to be a Miss Universe of Miss America contestant. But even so, that's is silly.
So just be the way you are. Have a smile in your face. and a big heart.
2007-11-12 01:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by darkvadershield35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, enjoy being immature! I'm in my 20's and I'm TOTALLY immature! I love it, don't worry about what other people think, just be yourself. If you have to change who you are for some people to like you, find other people!
But seriously, everyone matures at different rates. They say girls mature faster than boys, but that's just a general rule, not a hard fast law. You will grow up soon enough, and it's NOT FUN being an adult.
And just so you know, the things you are describing (being silly, overreacting, screaming...) those are VERY teenager type things! I think you might be overly self-conscious, too.
2007-11-12 01:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not call you immature since you are really worried about these things. You may be being raised in a household that keeps you somewhat naive, or you may just be slow at maturing. If you want to act more mature, try spending time observing how the more mature people act. Always remember to think before you act. You will need to learn that sooner or later anyway. It is what will keep you out of trouble later in life.
2007-11-12 01:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe isn´t the right time for you. Happens a lot of times!,,,I wouldn´t be worried. My time was at about 16!;,,when I was 14 still was playing with barbies!.. Never felt weird or anything!
What makes you a better you (no doubt) is reading! That can change your world a lot. Read, read, and read. When you do that you learn to listen instead of talking, in a paradox reading could give you a lot to talk, but teaches you to listen and analyze before talking--- Now you´re realizing and that is something to start with!...But if you feel you´re not ready, don´t push too hard...
2007-11-12 01:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with saying dude i do and I'm definatly not 13. It is just that there is a time and a place for acting certain ways. Start taling some time in reading other peoples personalitys, themn you will start to know who you can act that way around, or what situations are best. Also you really shouldnt have to change the way you are, or your personality, you are who you are, maybe it is the other ppl who have the problem. either way it will help if you read ppl and situations better, and know when it appropriate to act certain ways.
2007-11-12 01:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by oldwise1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of pressure from older people around kids these days to act more "mature". you are who you are sweetheart. If your friends are turning their backs to you they do not deserve your time. you should not have to change who you are just to fit in. Be happy and proud of who you are. Try to get involved in some kind of activity that interests you and be around teens that share the same interests. you are still at an age where you can experiment and sometimes feel awkward, you will be ok.
2007-11-12 01:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by trustndluv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maturity does come with age. I'm 19, in college, and I've always been very mature for my age. However, I have never been around people my age. I was home schooled and around adults all of my life. Their maturity affected me in that it made me mature at a younger age. Just remember, you can be whoever you want to be. If you don't like your immaturity, you have the power to change it. But really, maturity does come with age. You'll see. :)
2007-11-12 01:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Christi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm still a "weirdo" at 25 (about to be 26). I just realized that i was who i was. I enjoy being weird and so did many people i grew up with. You just have to find some like minded people, hang with them and laugh at all sorts of silly things. I still do that to this day.
2007-11-12 01:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋