An Ex question.My ex I dated for 6 years got in a car wreck.We had been broke up six months.?

Question

After he called me and told me he couldnt walk , was on a walker I really felt for him . I started coming over and cooking,cleaning , shopping.We broke up because I wanted to get married and he didnt.Well Ive been helping him for about 3 months and he wont be able to walk for another month.2 weeks ago we found out his Dad has cancer.Its lung cancer and he is very weak ,not eating and in and out of the hospital.His mom and Dad love me.However my Ex has been a jerk to me all weekend talking to me like Im a moron. .Well I locked myself out of my car and he kept taunting me saying why dont you call your brothers to help you.Your a pitiful orphan your own brothers wont help you.Well Im not close to my brothers and the one was out of town the other couldnt of helped me.So I called a locksmith. I wanted to punch him in the mouth I mean I just want to walk away.However I did have sunday supper with his folks.His Dad wants us to go to church as a family.He is in bad shape.I dont knowwhat 2 do

Answer 1

Be there for his family. Im sure the only reason hes being an a** is because hes putting up a front/walls, so he doesnt get attached to you again. However when he becomes an a** like that saying mean things, remind him who is taking care of him! But in this time of needs, put the differences aside and be there for the family. When things get better, then you can move on. But dont take your ex's crap to heart. Hes going through a tough time also and he has to depend on you and its making him realize how much he really does need you, and its getting to him.

Answer 2

You need to walk away from the Ex. He is obviously taking advantage of you and no longer really cares for you. As far as the parent situation goes - be honest with them. Let them know that you no longer will be able to be around the ex (for personal reasons, or that it's just too painful etc.) As long as you are honest with them - and you don't need to really explain WHY - saying that their son has been verbally abusive - which is exactly what he has been - try to make it about YOU - "I really have my own life that I need to get back to". "I have certain obligations in my life that I need to fullfill and although I was happy to help, I need to move on". The parents will understand. If they still want you to go to church with them as a "family" - let them know that you will join them - not as a family unit, but as a supportive friend because you do still care about his Dad. There is also NO REASON why you can't still visit the Mom and Dad on your own. Your ex does not have to be around. In fact, if you know your ex's schedule, try to stop by his parents house when you know he WON'T be there. BUT - again - DO NOT HELP YOUR EX ANYMORE! He's an emotional vampire and that is NOT something you need in your life - especially if you are trying to start over and move on. Good luck!

Answer 3

If you can muster the strength to last until the brunch if his folks mean that much to you then do so. However, if you can not then I know it may hurt his folks feelings but your ex does not need to treat you like your on this earth to be his maid. You are obviously a wonderful, caring person that has choosen to extend your services in his time of need but if I were you I'd lay it on the line real quick that he will not treat you that way again or say mean things to you anymore. If he does then tell him that he can find someone else to be his servant. Sounds to harsh? I don't see him giving you much thought when he is kicking you around the corner.
People only treat you the way you allow them to believe it or not so when you put your foot down he should simmer down.

Answer 4

I am not sure what to tell you. Obviously your ex is using you. It seems that his parents though respect you more than he does. They would liek for him to settle down. I maybe wrong but your ex sounds like a very difficult person. After everything you've done for him, he is still treating you horribly. I would stay away completely if I was you or tell your ex that you would go to church just out of respect for his parents but otherwise you don't wanna be with him. There are so many good guys out there that are looking for a good girl like yourself. You don't need your ex.

Answer 5

Sounds like you're trying to do the right thing and the ex is being a weenie. He's probably depressed at what's going on. Keep a relationship with his family, if you enjoy their company and you want to help them out. But you aren't obligated to take care of your ex. Do it if you want, but not if he's being abusive. If he doesn't appreciate what you're doing, you need to walk away. I'm sure there's someone else who can take care of him. If he didn't want to marry you, and hasn't kept in contact with you until the accident, he's using you to get through this. Don't let him. He'll probably make you feel like crap when you walk away, but it's only because he wants you to keep taking care of him. He sounds like a jerk. sorry, but that's what it sounds like to me. Find a nice guy to take care of you.

Answer 6

Walk Away girl, walk away ! You need to get away from that relationship . It is not good to stay with someone you feel sorry for and that treats you badly . That is not enough to base a relationship on because there must be mutual love on both sides to make a relationship . I know his family likes you but is it really worth it for him to emotionally abuse you that way ? He was not ready to commit before and he does not sound like he is ready now . So please just walk away . Good Luck

Answer 7

I would go to church with his dad if that is what you want. I would stop doing things for the ex and do not get back together with him. He should not treat you like that and you should not take it. Leave him to his own devices and see how well he does.

Answer 8

If you are close to his parents (especially his dad) then get together with his folks. You are not obligated to your ex for whatever reason. I know he's probably in some kind of stress but it's not an excuse to take it out on you.

Answer 9

Your ex's reaction COULD have been from the added stress of knowing his father is possibly going to die.

However, on a walker or not, there is NO excuse to "bite the hand that feeds" you, per se.

If I were you, I'd give him a warning, then if it resumes, walk.

Answer 10

he sounds like a jerk with a good family. dont stay with him only to do everything for him and his family without any kind of respect in return. its not worth it. you need someone who will treat you just as well. maybe you should leave for a few days and see how he manages without you.