I have been going to my friends home for the holidays over the past 4-5yrs. My husband and all the family would meet at her house. Though, over the past 2yrs. I have had an issue w/ her husband. To the point where I feel uneaasy around him. My friend is aware too of the reason as to why her spouse and I have some issues. I want very much to spend the holidays w/ her and her kids, but dont feel at ease knowing he will be there. I dont wish to spend the holidays alone, my fiance will be working all day...I know if I try to explain my feelings, she may kindly ask me to "get over it" for the sake of the holidays. Do I spend the holidays alone or put myself somewhere I dont wish to be?
2007-11-11 16:11:57 · 11 answers · asked by italianprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish I had a place I could go and not be alone over the Holidays. I have spent the Holidays alone for the last 2 years. I would welcome a uneasy place to go. Just go to your friends house and ask her husband in the kitchen. When he comes in the kitchen kick him in the nuts and enjoy your stay.
2007-11-11 16:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can learn to relax around her husband and overlook whatever it is that is bothering you about him, you will be much better off. Mainly because it is just a good skill to learn. There will always be people who 'rub you the wrong way' and yet you can't spend a lifetime avoiding them. Well, you can, but it involves a lot of inconvenience on your part.
You CAN spend the holiday alone, take a long nap, pamper yourself, watch TV, veg out and just enjoy yourself. Nothing wrong with that....
2007-11-12 00:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough choice, you either go and be completly uncomfortable, or you dont go and spend the holidays alone. I would suck it up and talk to the friend. Besides, you may go to their house and end up having a great time. I would just try and go, and if it doesnt work out, go home. It doesnt hurt to try. Besides dont let a man get in the way of your friendship.
2007-11-12 00:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you will let one person out of many mess up your holiday. You need to show this guy that you are a bigger and better person then he is just by being there. Go and have a good time and don't look his way,you will have many more times like this in the future you can't hide from everyone you don't like to be around.
2007-11-12 01:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go unless it is an issue of being actually afraid of him. If he is threatening and/or being sexual towards you then don't go. Otherwise, during a busy holiday get together you can just do your best to avoid being alone with him. As long as you are occupied with having fun and enjoying yourself you won't have time to worry about him. Cheers!
2007-11-12 00:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by LeeAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to your self, have your family meet at your house start a new tradition. A true friend would not ask you to be uncomfortable on the Holidays since it is about family, have them meet at your house do a potluck or something. Don't put yourself in the mix.
2007-11-12 00:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stay home alone.Its fine and can be fun especially if you have a pet you can dress up!Seriously You can plan ahead and volunteer for a charity that day as a new tradition or you can just stay home and have fun by yourself.Id rather be alone than with others any day of the week but thats just me.
2007-11-12 01:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope your issue does not relate to illegal activity. Less that, I think your issue may be getting in the way of understanding the meaning of the holy days.
If your friend asked you to get over it why don't you try?
2007-11-12 00:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let her husband spoil your holiday. I would go and avoid him as much as possible. Once you are there and having fun he probably will not stay on your mind.
2007-11-12 00:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends is not every thing like to be alone also so that you may develop your self. Much friendship is inviting conflicts.
2007-11-12 00:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by baboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋