My boyfriend and I, who are both Y!A users were talking about posts on here.. and I was wondering how you think your partner feels about you posting information / problems about your relationship on here.. even considering it is somewhat anonymous..
2007-11-11 15:39:34 · 19 answers · asked by Wildflower 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he thinks the advice on here sucks so he probably wouldnt post a question about us.
2007-11-11 15:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if the couple would open up, be honest, and show some love and respect to and for each other, then not so many would be posting questions. If these people would put half the effort and thought into who they are dating and what the problems are then I am more than willing to bet over 70% of these questions would not be on here. To many people date and or marry a person they hope will cahnge and when they do not then they have problems. That's why people need to date only people they see as a good person to marry and love them as they are now, not what they hope or think they will become.
2007-11-11 23:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby doesn't use Y!A, so I don't really have to deal with this :)... but even if he did... I would still post the stuff I do and would encourage him to post stuff he does.. because if it makes either of us feel better or helps us work through some issue or whatever, then I think it is great! and if something we have gone through as a couple can help someone else, then I think that is a good thing...it is anonymous enough that I don't feel embarrassed or feel awkward when anyone else posts relationship problem issues.
2007-11-11 23:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would only have an issue with it if he was posting stuff on here that I don't know about. I mean to me, I consider it cheating if he goes off to someone else and talks about personal relationship issues with them first rather than coming to me about them. Like if we are having a fianancial issue, I wouldn't like to be the 5th person to know about it after he has told family, a bunch of friends and others. I mean its great and all to get opinions and stuff, and that is why i like yahoo answers. But to not consult with your partner first on the issues at hand, its kind of saying that their opinion or feelings doesn't even matter. But if we have talked about things and we are still struggling through them, I wouldn't mind if he asked others what they they thought on here or even asked friends or family. Just don't leave me hanging out in the dark after you have told like everyone we know, but me first. Just my take on it.
2007-11-11 23:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll, my husband is not a computer person first of all, so he's not sure about what I get out of posting questions, and who it is I'm posting them to. He knows we have communication issues, and he kind of believes in the computer stereotypes: if you talk to someone on the computer, you must be cheating; basically having an 'on-line affair', just silly stuff. He has finally stopped bugging about me being on the computer, I guess if figures if I find someone on here to talk to, I'll stop talking to him....:)
2007-11-12 00:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Ex did that and it was seriously UNcool, I don't care that no one else knew it was about me, the point was I did.
Not to mention the fact it was all lies
Now, my new significant other and I post stuff about each other all the time........and it's all good, but that's it, it's ALL GOOD anything else should be kept private as far as I'm concerned. It's no one else's business.
2007-11-12 00:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sleepys Wench Feckalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby doesn't use Y!, so he'd never see them, but I am sure at some of the things I've posted on here, he may be irritated, but I am telling the truth, and looking for help most of the time.
2007-11-11 23:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you don't use names it's OK. I think it's better then telling family, friends that know us both! I believe if your embarrassed of your actions and you don't want anyone to know then maybe you should think before you act! I hope this helped! Take care
2007-11-13 13:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m completely transparent with my significant other and she is transparent with me. We both have a philosophy of transparent self exposure. If my story or her story can be used to help someone and it’s out of honesty, then neither of us have any problem with sharing to the public.
2007-11-11 23:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by humanpixel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't bother me, sometimes you need someone on the outside looking in. people who aren't emotionally involved and detached from the relationship might be able to see the bigger picture.
2007-11-11 23:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Amzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋