2007-11-11 15:38:06 · 22 answers · asked by ♥Snuggle Baby♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No , Go for it
2007-11-11 21:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by jimm_b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word yes. Morally and legally. The last thing you want to do in a divorce is give the other a reason to use something against you in court.
The other thing that one should be thinking of is the new person in their life. How can you say you love this person and not be able to live without them when you cannot give all you have to them.
You may say well it over and I am getting divorce. However its not over until the judge signs off on all the paperwork and you still have to deal with your soon to be x spouse. Not to meantion what might be going on if there are children involved.
Take things just a little slower. If it was ment to be and the other cares for you then make sure you know what you want for you by you before you give yourself away yet again.
2007-11-12 00:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by flateach33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's hazy, a gray area. Technically, until that divorce is final, yes it is adultery. But it is very understandable adultery. Personally, I wouldn't be too worried about the morals behind it. My bigger concern would be first, how it could mess up things if my soon-to-be-ex-husband finds out, it could turn a reasonably civil divorce into a huge ugly hateful mess. And my second concern would be for myself - when you're going through a divorce, you are weak and emotionally vulnerable, and you are at a high risk of making a mess of whatever relationship you rebound to during this time. If this guy is just a guy that you can use to get you through, then, no worries, he's filling a need for you. But if this is someone you truly love, then this is tragic timing, because you won't really be in an emotional place to do this relationship right, until much more time has passed.
2007-11-11 23:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Janelle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are going through a divorce who cares if it is cheating, it is only cheating if you get caught, go on have a good time with them, I'm sure he is doing the same thing and not letting you know, it don't really matter if you was married and living with your husband as long as you don't get caught, but since your getting a divorce anyway he probably could care less, like I said I'm sure he is or has already done it with someone else,
2007-11-11 23:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not cheating. But you would be cheating the other person out of the best you have to offer. Divorce takes you through so many emotions, and the person you are right now is the person they are attracted to. Really it's not fair to both of you because at some point you could be accused of "changing."
2007-11-11 23:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kristina S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a high chance you are going through a re-bound. Especially if this is one of the first few relationships after separation. Again I wouldn't go into anything serious just yet. Give it at least 6 months before you dive into a relationship. Believe me, it'll save the other person a lot pain. Also go get yourself a book by John Gray, Mars & Venus - Starting Over. Just read it and you'll understand what you're feeling much better.
2007-11-11 23:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by nishma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Now, lets ask the real questions. First
Are you worth having as you obviously didn't find this person that you can't live without the day after the divorce proceedings started?
Is the other person worth having whe they know that you are married? (You did tell them, right?)
Are you worth having because your looking for technicalities in order to gain personal immediate gratification?
Are you a worthwhile human being? This one I will answer yes. You are not a little misguided. You are probably from a divorced family, like me. I have difficulty as well curbing my instant gratification desires. Make yourself worth more. Try to work out your relationship. Stop looking for a relationship and start looking at how you can better yourself as a person. What can you contribute to the world that will make you a better person.
I have included a few links below that I am sure will help both you and your ex find a way to put aside your petty differences and help you work together for the sake of your child. Studies show that equal time with both parents will make a child more likely to grow up emotionally well adjusted and healthy, and more likely to perform better in school and life.
God Bless
Frank Pytel
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2007-11-12 06:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Frank Pytel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your divorce is not FINAL you are still married.
SO, yes, I guess it is.
On a different note, You really should examine your "I can't live without him" attitude.
Ever heard the term rebound?
This is not a good way to go for you. Your last "can't live without him " guy you are divorcing.
Give it some time and make sure.
Unless of course you want to relive this into a string of failed relationships.
2007-11-11 23:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there are NO kids involved...wont hurt.
BUT...if you do have kids..and are going through a divorce ..under NO circumstances do you meet or greet any one, you will up your chance of getting the wrong end of the deal.
trust me...when i went through my divorce, i had the best of the best lawyer in family law...that was the first thing i was told.
if this person is love, he will understand and wait till the day that the divorce is finalized.
hugz
2007-11-12 00:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating. sometimes divorces can take years to finalize. You don't need to be single or dateless during that time, but I would worry somewhat about the rebound thing. Sometimes its good to be by yourself after you've separated to re evaluate your life and see what you want to do with yourself and what kind of person you'd like to be with.
2007-11-12 01:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Azul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot live without them...then it wouldn't be too much of a burden to not pursue them until the divorce is over...right?
2007-11-11 23:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by Marie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋