My best guy friend divorced early this year. Next thing I know, he was with a woman that also left her relationship. They got together, broke up once, and have been back together for 2 months. In total, together 5 months. He just up and married her last week, and I had no idea until it was over. I told him he was crazy, as they barely knew each other still. He said they completed each other and are both happy. I told him it was wrong to bring her in over his small children so soon after the divorce, and I am sure I said some other hurtful things that I should have kept to myself. Has anyone ever done something like this and does it have much hope for lasting??
2007-11-11 15:24:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have no children together. He has 3 small ones (5 and under) from his now ex-wife.
2007-11-11 15:50:28 · update #1
It probably doesn't have much chance of success, but there's no way of knowing until it either works, or it doesn't. If he asked your opinion, you had a right to tell him what you thought. If he didn't, and you offered your opinion, well... don't be surprised if he was upset. I know you're just concerned about your friend. He obviously sees it as criticism of his "new love". You probably aren't going to win, thus... you aren't going to be able to help him. If you value your friendship as much as it sounds, just be quiet and supportive. Get to know the new wife. Grit your teeth and be the best friend to both of them that you can. Otherwise, she'll come between you. I did have the same thing happen, not with a guy friend but with a girl friend of mine. She was married for 25 years, left her husband and 5 kids. Then, about 6 weeks after her divorce was final she married some guy she met in AA. She asked my option, I gave it. She got mad and I haven't heard from her in a while. It's really sad, but there's not much I can do about it, other than wish her well. Hope this helps. P.S. - You're probably right, but that doesn't matter. Just try to keep your friendship. He's probably gonna need you.
2007-11-11 15:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by lisagreen1119@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound promising for your friend and his wife, but let's just hope for the best. Please, whatever you do, if he comes to you with problems, DON'T give him I-told-you-so's. No one needs to hear that! Be the best support that you can be and hope that his relationship lasts since they've brought a child into this as well.
2007-11-11 23:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably have just as much chance as anyone else. Lots of people know each other for years, even live together- and they still don't make it.
In any case, it's done, if he's your friend then he deserves your support.
2007-11-11 23:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right or wrong? either way, if he is your friend, all you can do is support him. If he is a best friend, definitely give him crap too.
2007-11-11 23:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by December Doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋