My husband started to join this sports , and he really loves the sport and theres just this girl who he started to get close with ... and everytime they take photo together (my husband and her)they dont post it up on the websites,because he have his hand over her shoulder,(he knows i hate that but he still does it) i have to caught them before he starts explaning ,or showing me the pics.I realise that he hides stuff about her with me..heres the catch ..he never invite me to join or show me around or even wanting to introduce me to them..(usually he would bring me along)..but i have to argue and argue until i end up inviting myself to go..and when im there i dont see them close to each other or even talk much to each other...and now ppl are making up rumours about him dating her behind my back....well because they are have issues in the team..!
so please tell me what do you think and explain why?
serious answers.....
2007-11-11 15:17:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wise up and listen to your heart. You already know he is cheating, your just looking for proof and that your not going to find here. You need to invite yourself when he don't know your there if you want to catch him in the act. That or just dump him, personally i don't see why you would even want to waste your time with him he obviously cares nothing about you or he wouldn't be cheating. Good Luck with whatever choice you make.
2007-11-11 15:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by dcdaniel1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this is happening to you, but maybe there is still a chance of saving your marriege.
It does sound like he has interests in this woman and you know that, but we don't know how deep their relationship is. If you want to preserve your marriage, there might be something you can do.
Long before any decision is made to "fool around" or walk out on a partner, a change has begun to occur in the relationship. The husband or wife begins to devalue the other and their lives together. It is a subtle thing at first, often occurring without either partner being aware of the slippage. But as time passes, one individual begins to feel trapped in a relationship with someone he or she no longer respects.
ask yourself these questions:
Are you satisfying each other's physical and emotional needs? Because it doesn't just happen. Any one of us is vulnerable when unmet needs might possibly be fulfilled somewhere else.
Are there some things in your home or relationship that need to improve? For example:comunication, too busy for each other with kids or work, ignoring each others requests or wishes.
Don't give in to the extremes of "love-hate" feelings.And don't give in to the extremes of "all my fault" or "all your fault" thinking. Don't immediately demand a divorce. Instead,tell him of what you know and that you're willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild a healthy, vibrant marriage, and ask if he is willing to start over.
If he agrees, you need to turn to others who can help you. Don't ask a mutual friend or relative. Instead, ask an objective party who is in a position to help. That person might be an experienced senior pastor, certified Christian counselor, or respected marriage ministry.
Remember, nobody wakes up one day and suddenly decides to have an extramarital affair. A person has been unfaithful in heart and mind long before he or she begins an affair. So be patient. It takes time to begin to rebuild trust, love and commitment
Here are some websites you could go to for help: www.troubledwith.com
www.family.org/marriage
www.pureintimacy.org
(www.family.org/marriageforum) designed to give couples a safe place to talk about struggles and successes in their marriage.
May God bless you and help you in this though time for you
2007-11-12 01:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by hplyevr4evr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are are not invited to each event or encouraged not to attend, then there may be a two team member sport occurring.
Just go to every event from now on, if something is going on they will slip up, if nothing is going on you and your husband will have something in common to talk about.
2007-11-11 23:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bambi C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What a bast**d! Sorry, I just hate it when people do what your husband did. It really sounds like he is being dishonest. Tell him he needs to be honest, or else you'll kick him in the nuts 10,000 times! That way, even if he is cheating, he won't be able to have sex with the woman!
2007-11-12 00:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by airforcewolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does sound like they may be cheating. You will need to catch him to be sure. Check cell phone records. And when he thinks he is going by himself, become a PI and stand back and watch them together. If you have access to another veh that would be great
2007-11-11 23:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by rene1695 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants an open marriage but is too much of a coward to ask you for it.
2007-11-11 23:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by bogidu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like you already know the answer. he has found someone who he well loves more than you as for xheating. i would say both go hand together with them just my opion? yes///
2007-11-11 23:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think he is cheating on you with her, DEFINITELY...now you need to dump him.
2007-11-11 23:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋