By my brother and his football team, and Dad once had a talk with me then that was it. I am talking about Aunts and Uncles and cousins and what not. I have an older cousin who lives in Virginia, very religous family, and at a family BBQ this summer his wife came up to me and said "Do you mind if I use you and your guy as an example to my kids of just what a gay relationship should be?"
At first I was a little taken aback in an embarassed sort of way, so I told her not to make a big deal of it now, but later in private I think it would be lovely.
Now keep in mind that all these years he has come with me to weddings and funerals and holiday celebrations.
My way of looking at it is that none of them ever came to me for approval of their relationships. I automatically accept who they chose. I think it's what family does. I did tell my close circle of friends and told them it's really on a need to know basis. They told me, Dude, we're not stupid. It's cool.
Is this unusual?
2007-11-11 15:01:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I will be 45 by the end of the month.
2007-11-11 15:23:34 · update #1
I also live in redneck heaven, but seriously, I'm finding out more and more that rednecks aren't what the stereotype plays them up to be.
2007-11-11 15:25:49 · update #2
Hi
I have an uncle and a cousin who's gay, and my family has never said anything to them about it, and we've been knowing it for a while now. I guess it just doesn't matter to us. I love them both very much, so it's not gonna change the way I feel about them.
2007-11-11 15:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Shania♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like how you put that... none of them came to you for approval. That's so true.
I think it is a bit unusual, most of my friends have some kind of "coming out" story; some more dramatic than others. I wish we could all just live our lives and not have to "come out" or worry about what our friends and family think.
You're a lucky guy to have what sounds like a cool family relationship. And your friends rock!
2007-11-11 15:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by FTW 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's unusual. Pardon me if I'm wrong, but I believe you are a bit older than me, which means your elder members of your family are definitely older. The "older generation" doesn't know how to "talk" about things, so they don't, but in their not talking they either accept or don't, and it looks fortunately for you, they have.
Good luck with everything Juan, you are a really good guy!! Thank you for sharing.
2007-11-11 15:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see where your episode of 20 years ago fits in here. That your cousin's wife is from a religious family and asks you that in terms of acceptance rather than ridicule is an achievement in itself. It is unfortunate that so many gay and lesbian couples are so devoted to being rejected that they can't seem to appreciate it when they aren't.
2007-11-11 15:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure, YET. But its sounds like things worked out for you! =]
2007-11-11 15:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by ҡʏʟɛ - ❄ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋