I met this guy who told me he was separted from his wife, but they still live in the same home because they have a 2 year old daughter. He said he would leave but he doesnt want to miss all the growing up stuff she will be doing. He said him and his wife live in different bed rooms...... but when she found out he was seeing me.... she freaked out on him and wants to kick my ***. He called me and told me we had to take a break so he could get his stuff straight before we continued on our relationship.....to let things cool off some. For me not to call or email him for a while he would contact me soon to talk about it all. I think I already know whats up but I want to get some of your opinions.
2007-11-11 14:47:59 · 11 answers · asked by Willow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't say that i totally believed him, but I recently came out of a relationship of 17 years and was super lonely. He made me feel wonderful and knew all the right things to say. Held my hand in public and displayed public affection. All his friends knew of me and made me feel beautiful. I guess I was an idiot .
2007-11-11 15:30:19 · update #1
If he was separated, then he wouldn't still be living in the same house, that should have been a clue right there. And his wife being that upset, I bet she didn't know they were "separated". He is lying to you and playing you. He is cheating on his wife. He wants you to go away so he can make her think things are over between you and him, and then once she isn't mad at him any more, then he will probably try to come back to you. Don't ever expect him to actually leave, and being the other woman isn't a good thing to be. If you were to go back to seeing him, before he were actually divorced then you wouldn't be any better then him. Move on and find a man that is single and isn't a liar.
2007-11-11 14:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by cris 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all me and my husband have a two yr old girl . He is in the military and we are seperated. So i know about this question. First of all when a man goes around and says he is seperated and makes like it is ok to be with someone els he is a cheater unless him and his wife agree to see other people during their seperation if she doesn't agree he is a cheat.But in your case they live in the same house so they don't even qualify as seperated and believe me any man that lives with his wife fighting or not they still do it it may be alot less so in his mind he might think it's ok to say they don't at all but trust me he is a liar because even when my husband was mad at me and lived at his brothers he still came over to my house to sleep with me and we were technically "seperated" don't be played for a fool you and his wife deserve better he is only looking out for himself and believe me the story he tells her is probably totally different than what he is telling you. He has to make his relationship sound really bad so he won't feel bad about what he is doing against his wife and so you will thinkshe is a bad person too so you won't feel bad for letting him into your pants your being used. My advice is take his advice and stay away i would try to contact her though so she is aware if shes not and really he doesn't deserve his daughter maybe she will get smart and divorce him as i plan to do with my husband. Remeber don't take someones left overs. Unless you want to be the wife he tells someone he doesn't have sex with so he can get in their pants behind your back someday.
2007-11-11 15:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, seperated but still living in the same house and you believed him. I have been seperated for 2 months, i am sorry you are not seperated unless one leaves the house. Makes it convient for him if he wants a booty call go to the next room and he has you to, and your waiting. You know what is up. Run far away.
2007-11-11 15:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably freaked out because he is cheating on her. chances are, they are in the same bedroom despite what he tells you. he's having his cake and eating it too. he wants to keep you on the back burner because if his wife divorces him for cheating, he has a back-up plan. i can't tell you to get away from him or stay with him, that is your choice. i personally would not be his plan B. maybe you should contact her and find out if he has been truthful. let her know what he was telling you and back it up with some emails or other proof. then maybe she won't want to kick your ***, but his instead (which he deserves).
2007-11-11 14:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a bunch of bull.
Honey, YOU are "the other woman". You need to stay as far away from this guy as possible. His wife may indeed kick your ***. I knew a woman who caught her husband with some gal, and she pulled out a huge chunck of the gal's hair, right in the front. She looked scalped. I was with the women when she caught them. She told me later she never enjoyed anything as much as pulling out that gal's hair!
2007-11-11 15:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was seperated he would not be living with his WIFE. He played you, get out while you can. If his wife and him were living apart and had to deal with parenting issues then that's one thing but they live together that means that they are still together and he is cheating slime.
2007-11-11 15:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by raidergirl1965 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might feel separated, but he is very much still tied to her- they have a child and they share a house. Tellhim to call you when he's divorced, and move on. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up for drama and heartache, believe me.
2007-11-11 15:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up! He's dumping YOU!!! Chalk this experience to up to poor judgment.Move on...let his wife worry about his deception. He isn't emotionally, or physically invested in you. Sorry:(
You weren't stupid...just vulnerable. Best Wishes !
2007-11-11 15:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he is separated.
My 'husband' and I are still cohabitating. However, he goes out and I don't care. He wants the divorce and I'm waiting for him to file. However, he is also dragging his feet about filing. For tax purposes, I'm going to wait, if he doesn't file after the first of the year I will file.
Even though we are cohabitating, I don't care if he goes out. He goes out and he doesn't come home. It's none of my business who he's seeing, it's also none of his business who I'm seeing.
2007-11-11 14:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Like being a DINK 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is lying, but if he treats you well maybe you can see past that. Sounds like only a minor issue to me unless you want to move in.
2007-11-11 15:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Christophertallingsworthiness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋