I'm 21 and sometimes I stop and think if whether I'll ever get married or not, have kids or not. I'm in a very complicated relationship but I love the guy I'm with so much. I wanted to know how it was like for other people. How was your relationship like with your partner before you got married and if ever you encountered challenges. Did you have to fight for your love?
2007-11-11 14:08:39 · 18 answers · asked by Yuki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dated 8 years married 4 years and separated for 1 year. Was happy, got cheated on and got mad. Now I am happy again. I was 27 when you got married.
2007-11-11 14:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Spring M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have been married for 5 months and dated for 2 years first. Complications include a crazy ex and his family, two pre teen girls that didn't want to except a man in the house that wasn't their abusive crazy father, my mom is bi polar, stepdad schizophrenic, and my father who lives with us is a n alcoholic. My husband is 31 I am 29. We had both been in long relationships before, so we knew what not to do. We try to keep open communication, even when we are pissed at eachother. Seriously never go to bed angry. Know when to just let it go, and try to remember to remind the other how much they are appreciated. The bible is a great tool. It actually has a whole section on how a wife should treat her husband and vice versa. Honestly though marriage is harder then dating, especially if you really plan on sticking in there. It takes constant work on both sides, but I am a happily married women and I haven't regretted a day of our being together dating or married
2007-11-11 14:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by reggie29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first one I married at 19. We were together a year before we got married. Then he cheated (ALOT) and knocked another girl up. Then he started doing drugs and cheated some more. The I left at 22 and divorced him. He died of an overdose 6 months after our divorce was final and 2 weeks before our daughters 4th birthday. Marriage is GRAND let me tell you. Actually I met this man a couple of months after my divorce and we waited until I was 25 to tie the knot and it has been great. I love him and so does my daughter. Bad sh*t happens. How you deal with it ultimately decides your fate. Don't be in a hurry honey. It is so da*n hard. Even with the good ones.
2007-11-11 14:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by natasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We knew each other for ten years, dated for a few weeks, got engaged in a month, and married after two months. We have been married for 6 months today :) I am 24 and she is 23. We have gone thru some very tough times, (more than the average couple) and I am still sticking with her to this day and until forever. I am very happy. Yes I had to throw away my friends and family (parents weren't supportive of marriage) but it is worth coming home to my wonderful wifey every single night. Luckily, I am the bread winner and make plenty to support us plus a couple of children not born yet. If you don't have the financial means for marraige, than don't do it. You will be stressed for life if one of you doesn't have any good skills or trades, or did not go to college.
2007-11-12 07:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dr S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we got together when I was 21 and he was 20.
we had a baby when i was 22. I knew that we were really young, and that the odds were against us "making" it. We've always made sure to give each other enough space to develop as individual adults, but we tried to balance it out with becoming parents, and cultivating our relationship.
Has it been difficult? At times, it is extremely difficult. Many times we thought we'd split up, but eventually, we'd talk things out, try to learn from it, and move on.
I wanted to get married for a long time for all the wrong reasons. I was a stay at home mom, and I had serious abandonment issues (stemming from childhood). I thought that by getting married, It would solve my "identity crisis" ( i'd be mrs. so and so) and if we were married, then he'd never leave me. I also felt that I'd be respected more if we were married, and that people wouldn't look at me like "that poor girl. he'll never marry her."
Once I got past those reasons, I was okay with not being married.
Then he asked me to marry him one day. It was much to my surprise. He even gave me his grandmother's engagement ring. This was 7 years after we started seeing each other.
Now we've been married for over a year. It was kind of strange at first. But I really love being married. It definitely brought us closer together.
I'm glad we waited as long as we did. We got married because we WANTED to, not because we were supposed to, or to make us stay together.
2007-11-11 14:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by dropdeadcherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I married my husband! we had been together since I was 14 so we dated 5 years, and now we've been married 9 years!
Marriage is great but trust me there is no reason to rush!!! It will be there when the time is right just wait and wait and wait again!!! and kids are another story you can make them but you can't un-make them so wait until your sure your ready to be completely ready to settle down and put every ones needs before your own! Because that's how it is, and if your ready for it then it's very rewarding and fun, but if your not then you can get pretty tired of it!!!
2007-11-11 14:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by in His image 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey .. I was 24+ and she was 18+. We dated (?) for almost nine months ... actually we were 300kms apart in two different towns, but used to visit her and be in touch over phone.
Married for almost 19+ yrs and the bond getting stronger with each passing day. We have even decided to be together in our next life.
Had our first child after four years of marriage.
Probably - one reason for us having this ever growing strong bond is because us having shed our egos, but that does not mean we don't fight. Its nice to fight once in a while (but avoid in front for the kids though) and then the attraction increases.
2007-11-11 16:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by DG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont gauge what you do with your fella on other people thats a huge mistake. We are all different and have different experiences, and you need to decide for yourself your course. I was married at 19, divorced at 29 and now married again at 40. Relationships are hard and you have to work on them its just part of the package.
2007-11-11 14:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by LV 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married at 21...knew him for 3 years..lives with him for 1 prior to marriage ((Highle recommended by the way)) Yes u will have to fight it is hard...I ve been married for 6 years
2007-11-11 14:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends for 4 years, dated 1 year, engaged 2 years, now married. I was 24. We had our first real disagreement after getting married, but we never have full-on fights (I mean like name-calling, swearing or violence). We just try and work things out and never go to bed mad.
2007-11-11 14:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋