My husband stays gone from the time he gets up until he comes home to get ready for work at night.He is either hunting or with friends. He never calls to check in.Last night he stayed the night with his hunting buddy cause he was getting up early this morning to go hunting.I havent heard a word from him in 24 hours.
When i ask him why he didnt call his excuse is.I cant get a signal where im at or I just didnt think about it.
Am i wrong to be upset? Keep in mind,most of the time he takes our only car and leaves me here without any transportation and we have 2 small children..
2007-11-11 13:55:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has always hunted but just in the last couple of years has it got to be a all the time thing with him being gone
2007-11-11 14:08:42 · update #1
and no, i never get any time for myself unless my mother keeps kids,which isnt very often
2007-11-11 14:09:33 · update #2
Hope, in the last year ive done everything i know how to do to work this out..We even talked about it and made a agreement but yet he wont keep up with his end of the deal..so I just dont know what else to do at this point
2007-11-11 14:17:37 · update #3
This behavior does not sound like that of a "husband" but more of single guy. This lack of respect for you and the kids is bothersome for me.. Again, decide what it is you want and need from him...tell him what these wants and needs are in a way that preserves your own integrity. If he can deliver, great. If not, go to plan B and let him know what that looks like. I dont advocate divorce unless there is a safety issue...violence, drug abuse....leaving you alone at home with small kids, no car and no way to get in touch with him sounds alot like a safety issue to me. Make sure, for your sake, and for the kids, that there IS someone you can call for help besides him. You may want to work on getting a car for yourself, as well. Right now, his behavior does not appear reliable...you must take responsibility for yourself NOW.
2007-11-11 14:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a problem with this also. My husband hunts also but he still has time for his family. If he is going to stay gone so long why don't you drop him off so that you can have the car. Some places that he hunts he does not get signal but he has never said that he did not think about it. Your husband needs to understand that he is a husband and a father and that he has responsibilities. How long has this been going on? Is this something new or have you always put up with it? Do you ever get any time to yourself?
2007-11-11 22:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is look at myself first. Have I done anything to keep him away? For example, when he does come home do I meet him at the door with a smile and good news and save bad news for later, like after dinner when he's relaxed? Or I don't even meet him at the door and give him a kiss. Or maybe I meet him at the door and just complain and nag? Us women really need to understand men. I don't understand why people are always telling others that their spouse is cheating. You said he's hunting with friends. Did you ever tell him how manly it is that he hunts? The number one thing men need and women don't give is appreciation. Especially of things that makes him a man. People may hate my answer, but seriously both sexes don't understand each other, our needs are different. Women want a man to love her, even though a man wants love to, but he hungers for appreciation more. Hope everything turn out well for you.
2007-11-11 22:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by hope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong to be upset. If he stays gone and doesn't check in, it sounds fishy to me. He sounds as if he does not want to be in the marriage anymore if he is gone all day and works all night. You have two small children to think about so do what is best for them. Leave him and get on with your life. Sometimes it is more lonely to be with someone like that than to be by yourself. You need to be strong and get out of the marriage. Do you still love him? Are you still in love with him or is he a habit? Does he tell you that he loves you? Actions speak louder than words. You have to at least talk to him and tell him how you feel and if he is unwilling to change, then you have to change. Either accept things the way they are and get on with life as it is, or make a decision to end the so-called marriage and get on with a new life. Have you tried counselling? Good luck and I wish you the best.
2007-11-11 22:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by oldbeatlefan53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH my goodness! Tell him you feel frustrated and very isolated when he takes off and doesn't tell you what is happening. You need to know this information as that is a lot to expect from you to just stay home with 2 children and not have any support.
P.S. You are just too nice!
2007-11-11 22:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law calls that abandonment and declares it grounds for divorce. Get a clue...he's either cheating, or has no feelings of being a man for you. He must be really good at something to have convinced you to marry such a selfish man.
2007-11-11 22:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was he any different before you got married? Maybe a bit to you, but not in general.
You have chosen to marry this guy, why start complaining about it now.
Get used to the life you have, it is not going to change.
2007-11-11 22:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I knew I liked that movie "Broke Back Mountain" for a reason!!
2007-11-11 22:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But these are the guys that are married. The guys that dont do this are single.
2007-11-11 22:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg.i don't wanna be mean or sound like an *** but i think he is having an affair.srry.
2007-11-11 22:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by abceo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋