So I (As always) have a problem, theres this guy we'll call him Dai, we Dai is blackmailing me with the wrist slitting and my ex boyfriend that my friends nor parents knew about. He wants a carton of cigs per week, and I can't do that, but I can't let anyone find out about the other thing, so I've been stressing all weekend, making myself sick from anxity and I don't know what to do about it but I need help fast. Please help!
2007-11-11 13:47:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Police?
2007-11-11 13:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything you have on him?
Since, I am guessing not, I would say the best way to handle this is to just tell him that you have decided to live a free, open, and honest life and that these people already know about your past. Or, if you can, honesty is the best policy and just tell your parents and friends that you were going through a very difficult time and you need to tell them something. They will probably more than likely understand and respect you for your honesty. Just tell them that it was in the past, that you regret what you did, and that you are no longer doing any of it anymore. It will feel much better than having to worry about him telling them even if you do begin buying him a carton of cigs a week. In return you will clean the skeletons out of your closet and you will begin to live a much more honest and fulfilling life. This is a tough one and I am sorry if I didn't give you an easy way out. I always feel that honesty is the best policy and ultimately the easiest way out of anything.
2007-11-11 13:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by MerMer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go to your school's principal or someone who has authority and report it. Blackmailing is a criminal offense...slitting your wrist is not. Although it might be painful for others to know about your wrist slitting, it is better than being blackmailed.
For proof of you being blackmailed, take a tape recorder, hide it and put it somehwere on you where it can record your conversation with Dai. Then when you're recording tell him that you don't want to give him carton of cigs per week and that you don't like the blackmailing...and if he goes "well you know if you don't do it i'll tell everyone" ...u have evidence that 1) he is blackmailing you...so now you have full proof and can report it.
2007-11-11 13:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by jbAG MEX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean with your parents about your wrist slitting! You are emotionally unstable! Talk to them before your bf BTW... If that is out of the question call a support line or speak with a counselor. If you do not get help you will do it again. Next time you may not be lucky enough to be alive TO be blackmailed. TRUST ME!
2007-11-11 13:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and honest with your friends and family as they will most likely help you out. I had a boyfriend years ago that said he had to go back to his ex as she was slashing her legs just to get over their break up. I told him to help her but he actually helped himself back to her. But in the end I found out it was all a load of rubbish. What I am asking is do you know for sure he is doing this? Have you seen the cuts? If it is for real get him help. Tell his friends and call his family too. Good luck.
2007-11-11 13:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kym M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know your not messing around... Key his car, slash his tires, and bashin windows or pour water in his gas tank. He'll get the picture. Also, stop slitting your wrists and go talk to a counselor/pyschologist.
2007-11-11 13:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by ChicagoMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since no one really knows except for him and you, whoever he tells could not believe it, so since no one that he is probably going to tell knows about that, just make up something about him like he plays with himself (its the digust) or something horrible, you can just say that he does that stuff and that you did something he didnt like and so hes blackmailing you for the stuff that he does. Its not good to fight fire with fire but sometimes one fire will get more trees to burn and end up burning more than the other. Tell him that he has no friends and so he justs wants to hurt people, there are numorous possibilities.
2007-11-11 13:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it sounds pretty crucial!
well it's better to just tell ur parents, and ur friends, rather than getting caught w/ buying ciggaretes & take the chances of getting in jail or juvie! so just do what you think is best. Even if it's not the way you want to go, it may be the only way.
2007-11-11 13:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds bad, but I think you need to tell someone. If you are to scared of your parents tell another relative. What ever you do, do not tell a guidance concealer! Or you could wait to see if the "Dai" guy is really going to blackmail you, he could be bluffing.
2007-11-11 13:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is hard but hey the only way to cure ths mean person is tell those you love they will understand and tell them you are being blackmailed. it will end it and also calm your nerves about this mess. its not the end of the world and they are your friends and boy firend they will all understand get some help and take care.
2007-11-11 13:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋