A "friend" that forgets all about the fact that you exist and breathe the same air she does until her raggedy boyfriend of 7 months shows up to her home out the blue on the weekend, and now she suddenly needs you to keep her 6 yr. old daughter for her on the weekends? You have been through war with this person (literally) and known her for over 3 years.
Now, she invites you to her new home while the boyfriend is out gallavanting with friends of his own, and you bring her a housewarming gift of a large candle, wine, and a houseplant...and expect to sit and chat for a few...but ANOTHER girlfriend calls them and tells them they need them to come straightaway to help with something, and you've been there all of 20 minutes...after she INVITED you to come in the first place. Now, she is trying to play nice and proper as she scurries for her keys and purse and shoes without blatently telling you to "get out"...
But calls you later that weekend to babysit the child so she can go out???
2007-11-11 13:09:58 · 17 answers · asked by goldenchilde11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen i ain't no scientists but that b***h is crazy tell her h**l nol watch ya own got d**n kids and leave me the h**l alone now u get out of my life cause i don't have time for fools like u!!
2007-11-11 13:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lina L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an almost exact situation happen to me. On top of all the stuff that happened to you, my friend only called me when she needed a ride somewhere. So, what I did to correct that, was the following: I stopped calling her, and I stopped answering her phone calls. I stopped being preoccupied with her and made it a point to stay away from her. Four months went by, and then one day, my friend called me. I happened to be in a good mood that day, so I decided to answer. And it was her asking me to forgive her for being such a bad friend to me. This proved to me that she was a worthy friend to keep even though she made those mistakes. If she had not called or given an apology it would have told me she was just using me, and did not care about our friendship. She has never ever done that again. And now, she calls me every week to ask how I am doing, and when she invites me to her home, she would never dare treat me like sloppy seconds.
Give her the same treatment I gave my friend and you shall for sure find out for yourself if she is a friend that you should keep.
2007-11-11 13:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, as much as it would hurt to read this - this person is someone you would consider an "acquaintance" in life. True friends are there for you through thick and thin (and visa versa) and she probably considers you a person in her life that can't "say no" and knows she can you use in a pinch. Friendship is so much more than that. Sometimes it doesn't matter how long you have known someone. There are some people in life that suck you dry emotional, financially, etc. You are just as precious as the next person - only keep good people in your life, people that are healthy for your growth. You are worth more than that. Good luck.
2007-11-11 13:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mdnght Drmr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave her and not waste any of my time and energy with her, but I will make sure to have a chat with her first and let her know how she is behaving and how it has affected you and how she is using you. Dear, you seem like a nice person and what a true friend should be, you deserve to be treated better than that, with respect and gratitude. She does not seem like a friend to me she seems like a user.
2007-11-11 13:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would not babysit at all for her. She is using you as a sitter because she wants to go out with MR Jerk. I would not answer her calls or end them really quickly. You seem like you tried to be friends with her again and she is just being a jerrk
2007-11-11 13:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you would babysit for what reason? This person you describe isn't a friend; she is a user and probably totally deserves her raggedy boyfriend. Lose her.
2007-11-11 13:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say you'll babysit the kid and then call her 20 minutes into her date and say she has to come back and get the kid because something else came up? :-P
Nah, just tell her no.
2007-11-11 13:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it, because she's not treating you right after all you've done for her. And if she doesn't agree, tell her that you can't be her friend anymore if she keeps on treating you like this, because no friend is better than a friend like her, because it seems to be that she's using you.
2007-11-11 13:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh... no way. I would tell her that you are busy. She should be taking care of her own kids, not out partying or doing what ever she is doing that she is away for the whole weekend.
2007-11-11 13:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Cristina C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say no!
She can't tell you what to do and how to live your life
Not to brag but I've been knowing this girl (my BEST friend) for all my life and nothing like this happened
Just tell her "If you're gonna treat me like this then i don't want to be your friend" Trust me, I had to do that once and it wasn't pretty!
2007-11-11 13:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by Skippy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋