What is the best advise for a married couple if one cheated?

Answer 1

This can be a very hard question to answer because each couple is different and will handle cheating differently. First you have to decide can and will the marriage survive then the reason for the cheating has to understood so that the problem is fixed. Marriage counseling would be a very good idea so that things can be talked about. But the big issue that the couple will have is that the spouse that was cheated on is going to have alot of anger and will take a long time for a marriage to recover but also that both will have to understand that there marriage will never be the same. Some marriages make it through cheating and some don't there is no painting a pretty picture all you can really do is try to do whats right.....

Answer 2

Well, the only thing to do is talk about it. There is a difference between someone who cheats for the sake of cheating, and someone who ends up cheating because of poor judgment or being unable to resist advances by a third party. If someone cheats for the sake of cheating, Talking about it will help determine which category the cheater falls into and whether to give the relationship another chance. The person who cheats for the sake of cheating will probably do it again unless they decide to save the relationship but in the other two cases there is a better chance that counseling will help save the marriage. If the one who cheated will not go to counseling, then there is no chance for the relationship and divorce is the only option.

Answer 3

If the cheating involved sexual intercourse, I agree with Darkhorse, things will change only for a short time then they will probably cheat again. Some individuals just get a trill out of cheating and tasting forbidden fruit.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on how much you love your spouse. What are the things that caused the cheating. Were you full filling your obligation towards your spouse? Do you treat your spouse the way YOU want to be treated? If you are the "ideal" spouse, and they cheated anyway, it all boils down to how much you want to salvage your marriage. Then again, there is such a thing as an "open relationship" (consider that also)

Answer 5

Divorce and find someone else or you could do what i did and let him come back home. It's now been 10 years sense his affair and not a day goes by that i haven't thought about it. If i had to do it over again i wouldn't let him back in my life,it's been to hard. I love my husband but i think the pain i have been through out weights the love. The pain never goes away but the love i could have gotten over and find someone else.

Answer 6

if you can forgive and forget, make it work but if you cant and know that you will always doubt your spouse, i think its best to leave.
cheating is one thing that neither my hubby or i will stand for, i couldnt live with him if he had cheated and i shouldnt have to always second guess where he is and what he is doing etc....
at the end of the day, i wont push my advice on anyone because im not the one who has to live in their shoes.

Answer 7

You have to decide if you can forgive your partner for cheating. If you can, try to work it out. If not, you shouldn't stay in a marriage where there is no trust, and no chance for it in the future.

Answer 8

Are we assuming that the other knows about the cheating? If the other doesn't know don't tell. You can't get your forgiveness from that person. Ask for forgiveness from a higher power. Why tell them if you truly are repentent? It will only cause them so much pain.

Answer 9

I let it go at the first time. Then, I found he cheated again. I let him go this time because I can not find trust in our relationship. I felt much better now.

Answer 10

If this replaced into my undertaking, i might go away him in a heartbeat. He began out a marriage with a extensive secret, one which you've customary approximately. i might have felt tricked and the marriage vows have been in easy terms a gaggle of bullshit. you at the instant are not me nonetheless, so the alternative is all yours. it particularly is going to take time to truly forgive him. in case you chosen to circulate that path, as quickly as you have forgiven, you are able to in no way deliver it up returned. which will in easy terms make your marriage worse in case you nonetheless use that as ammo in case you get right into a combat. suited of success!