Here's the situation. I really wanted to have a baby before a certain age, and I told my male friend about it and he said he would help me out. He got me pregnant, and has now graciously bowed out like I wanted him to. I don't want to marry him, and I don't want him to have to pay child support on this baby, because I asked him to do this for me and he isn't really going to have a role in her life. When I have the baby, are they going to ask me who the father is? If I tell them, is he going to have to pay child support? Will he get out of it if I say I don't know?
please and thank you! :)
2007-11-11 12:27:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if you are completely self-sufficient, then there's no problem. However, if you should ever need government assistance, they're going to ask who the baby's daddy is and want him to fork over some help before they do. The only way I could see around that is to ask him to sign over parental rights.
2007-11-11 12:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chels 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I live in Ohio. There has to be a court order for him to have to pay child support. If you apply for welfare or any of that they want to know who he is so they can get an order for child support. When you get the birth certificate at the hospital you put what information you want on it. If you are not married he has to sign it for him to be listed as the father. If he does not it is left blank. Good luck to you.
2007-11-11 13:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to tell them who the father is for the birth certificate. Also you have to think about any future medical issues as well. What if the father is the only one who can donate blood or an organ so that your little girl might live. I understand you dont wish for him to pay child support and I dont think he would unless you forced him to the the courts or child support enforcement.I guess you could tel them father is unknown but I am just thinking about the little girl IF she needed any medical history in the future even as an adult.
Even if the state or courts force you to have child support there is NO ONE who can stop you from sending the money back to him every month.
2007-11-11 12:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The thing about this is if you want to receive welfare you wont be able to,or they will order you to get a DNA test of who you may think the father is, then they will make the father pay. I would say you went to a sperm bank. There mite be trouble on the horizon that he may come back to see his child and he Will have the right weather you like or not. Get lawyer to draw up papers get signed by both of you to protect you both.Have him sign off his right as the father. You need to see a lawyer.
2007-11-11 12:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by shadow of life. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that child support is not for YOU. But for the child. Whether YOU need it or not is a moot point. What is wrong with putting that money into an account (Ira, 401 investment plan) for the child for later on, like to pay for a college education or purchase a car or a home with? What are you going to do if suddenly this guy decides he wants to be granted joint custody or visitaion which he is entitled to under the law?
2007-11-11 12:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you plan on applying for state aid (welfare) or a medical card for your unborn child the yes he should pay child support and will probably be made to. But you can tell the hospital that you don't know who the father is.
2007-11-11 13:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends on where you live. In Ohio, the absentee parent is obligated to pay support, even if there's an agreement not to.
However, it is likely only to become an issue if you have to have state help (welfare) to support the child. If you can support it independently, then no one need ever know. Until the child starts asking you questions...
2007-11-11 12:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
only if you go onto state aid, then they get it from him.
otherwise say you dont know who the father is when filling out the cert. in the hopspital.. that may be your best bet anyway, you never know what people will come back and do later. even if he is a good friend now..
2007-11-11 13:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can say you don't know and he won't be on the birth certificate.But if you want him on the certificate.I would go to a lawyer before the baby is born to say you don't want support/or him to be a "father" to your child and have him sign.
2007-11-11 12:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by what did you say 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
even if he signs over his rights he will still have to pay. only if you need state help. of you do need help from them they will bring him in and want him to pay. the check will go to you and then you can give it back to him. never ending circle i mean it would be that same 60% of whatever he makes recycled over and over. if you never want to see him again i would just try and get a contract. i mean sperm banks do it.
2007-11-11 12:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋