Okay. I am 6 weeks pregnant. I originally thought I would get rid of it because HE wanted me to, but the thoughts of it MAKE ME SICK. I considered adoption, but not sure that is the right decision for me.
I am 30. I already have 2 sons 12 & 8 by my ex-husband (who I was with for 14 years...)
I was on the PILL but HE didn't like to use condoms (of course he blames me for this pregnancy). He drove me to the abortion clinic on Friday - but they sent me home (i had coffee in the am -oops). He said he wouldn't make me do something that i couldn't live with - but he was NOT going to be a father. he wouldn't be there, no babysitting, etc.
Should I just go ahead and have it... I do have support from my family and friends.. i am just afraid ....
2007-11-11 12:14:03 · 23 answers · asked by Miss Kelly 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
didn't you just ask the same basic question a day or two ago? I told you already, you can do this!! You say you have the love and support from your family and friends, girlfriend, that is all you need! I don't even have that much!!!! All i have in the world are my 3 kids and my grandmother. I had considered abortion with my first child, but ultimately decided against it. it was the best decision of my life. just think of it.. if you had an abortion with this one, then you meet someone and get married; maybe decide to try and have a child together.. that's when you wouldn't be able to have one. it would be God's revenge. I'm not saying that any of that might happen for you, i'm just making a point. you can make anything you want happen, but you have to quit leaving it up to the people on here and make the decision for yourself and STICK WITH IT!!! You don't have all the time in the world here, and if you're going to be a murderer, go on and do it already. Again, not trying to be rude, just straight to the point. Take care
2007-11-12 07:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to hell and you should never talk to him again. I would have the baby and he needs to own up for his half and pay for support and ins for the baby no matter how he feels. It takes two to make a baby and it is not just your fault. It sounds like you know what the right thing to do is and you just need it be with your family and friends right now. You will get through it with or with out him. He might change his mind after the baby is born and give him the chance to be apart the it's life. He may just be scared about the whole thing and come around when he has time to let it sink in that he will have a baby.
2007-11-11 12:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be a dad but the courts will make sure he takes the responsibilities of being a father. He will still have to pay child support. And if that's the way he feels about this baby you'd be better off without him in your life. Keep the baby get rid of the father.
2007-11-11 12:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can make this decision is you. It is so very personal. I am pro-choice (unlike alot of people on this board) and I believe it is a woman's right to choose. I feel blessed that I never had to make the very hard and very personal decision that you are now battling. No one here can tell you what to do. You need to look in your heart and make the decision. If he's not willing to be a father that's his choice. He will still have to support the child financially - that's the law - but other than that he does not have to be involved. Sounds to me like you should definitely get rid of HIM whether you keep the baby or not. Best of luck to you. Look to your heart, follow your heart.
2007-11-11 12:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by PK211 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would do whatever you feel comfortable with. Whether he plans to be supportive emotionally or not, he's responsible financially. It takes two, not 1 to make a child. I would talk to a counselor at planned parenthood to help you make the right choice for you. After all your the one who will have to live with the decision you make. I believe it the right of women to choose what to do with their bodies. Personally, I could never have an abortion even though I hated being pregnant (planned). Especially after knowing what it's like having a little person inside you moving and kicking, and the first time you hear the heartbeat.
2007-11-11 12:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gee he sounds like a real jerk, you probably already know this but stay away from this guy if he cant stand by you and support you in what decision you make hes not worth the time, if you already have 2 kids then you could have another and your not a young mum so you are in the right head space, but ultimately only you can make the right decision for you and the baby, but never let someone force you to do anything you dont want to do
2007-11-11 12:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by fng127 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on whether or not you feel like you can give this child a good life. Knowing who your sons are and how they have changed your life would make having an abortion very difficult, in my opinion. You know what you're losing because you have two of them already.
I would not take him or his preference into consideration AT ALL, and make the choice yourself.
2007-11-11 12:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first "phil" is an idiot. The idea that you killing someone would be more "fair" than them growing up without a father is ridiculous.
Secondly, it sounds to me like you have already made your choice. The idea of abortion made you want to be ill and adoption seems too difficult. So...
Third, dumb your piece of crap boyfriend, he practically forced you into an abortion clinic before you could make a real decision. He obviously doesn't care about you or your baby.
Keep that piece of crap away from your baby, remember he wants him or her dead. Make him send you checks though.
2007-11-11 12:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess its a sign. That baby is met to be living in our world.
Adoption or even foster care is nice too.
You can visit your child in most adoptions. Just look at Britney Spears... What kind of a mother is she anyways. Seems like you have the better end of the stick.
2007-11-11 12:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ever speak to him again except for child support. i was 19 when i had my son. of coarse it wasnt planned and luckily i have been with my fiance over 4 years and hes a wonderful father. having my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me- do what you want to do- there is always a way to make things work
2007-11-11 12:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋