Why are men often lousy lovers?

Question

I have discussed this with several different women, almost as an experiment. Men always seem to have the same complaint: Why don't women want it more? Why don't they do what I want? Well that is a two part answer--A lot of men are horrible at sex (no foreplay/too quick) and men don't understand that sex is more emotional with women: You can't be rude to a woman all day and expect her to happily jump into bed with you despite what television says. You also can't lay around all day and ignore her except when you decide it's time to be intimate. Sometimes it seems men are a whole other species altogether. Maybe all men should have to take a course in being husbands when they are very young.

Answer 1

sounds like there is much more going on there besides the bedroom problem - this is Not an ALL MEN issue. I kept my wife happy for 7 years and this sounds like you just need to tell this to your man instead of complaining to the internet.
best of luck!

Answer 2

Alot of men will bash you because they don't want to hear it, and they can't dare think you're talking about them! But it's true... aside from that myth that men are sexy, potent studs, the average man is .....average. Can't last long, become repetitive in their lovemaking.

I think it's like finding a diamond among coal to find a man who's not only a good LOVER but a good SPOUSE as well. I've determined you really can't have both. I have a great hubby but it's taken time to work on his lovemaking skills... the guys that gave me the most pleasure were usually "players" and not interested in longterm relationships.

*sigh* We cant have it all sometimes. Good luck.

EDITED TO ADD: Why are so many of you ASSUMING that she hasn't talked to her husband? So many say "just talk to him and he'll do it'. Um, no. My guess is this has been discussed many times...just because a woman asks a man to do something, doesnt mean he'll do it. Yes, men do have free will, believe it or not. Some men will nod their head and give you all the right responses "I'll change" "I want to know what pleases you" but in reality they don't change and don't want to make things better.

Answer 3

So adult men are yet another species, asserting that still potential that females are diverse too. So as a replace of complaining approximately adult men desiring a path, why do no longer you come across a path that teaches the thank you to be a spouse? reason you're no longer acceptable. user-friendly fact, no longer an insult.

Answer 4

I do not know about most men but I have never known this to be true for my past relationships. Only once during a 3 yr relationship with someone who was stressed out.

You have to roll with the punches, I think that if a man is not stressed out or irritated about anything personal or financial he will be good to go. Give it some time.

Answer 5

And maybe women should take a course in communicating their desires (which they rarely do -- except in your case to other women.) Both sexes could be better at satisfying each other, I suppose.

Mouths weren't just made for licking and sucking. A little talking might get the guy doing what you want, instead of just "expecting" something.

And to be fair to both sexes, we both have to be willing to give to each other, not just take. Some people don't get that.

Answer 6

Are you sure you are married?
Women often complement themselves on their technique while in reality it is they that need some practice.
The number one complaint of men is "why do they just lay there?"
Having a vagina is not sufficient to please men. Women should learn how to move!
Women should learn that men are out in the jungle killing the tiger to feed the cubs and therefore do not have time to hold hands and gaze into your eyes all afternoon long.

Answer 7

Because women know what feels best. We men feel with a penis (it almost always feels good) but you women dont alwayse get pleasure out of it unless you are with someone who really knows what they are doing which are usually really experienced men or lesbians. Women know what they want more than men.

Answer 8

Fact:,, Women will tell there sister ,Mom even the land lady what there not getting from there man instead of tell the ONLY person who needs to know what she wants ,...HER MAN!!He is the only one who can do any thing about it! Want the Perfect lover ? tell him what you like-love in bed! Show him where to put what and how you want him to use it! Dont cry to strangers on some web site . Trust me you women don't come with instructions tattooed to your backs , Besides,, every women wants some thing different!!!

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear that your experience with men has been limited to those that aren't up to the job.But some of us are qualified to deal with you woman-type folk.
It would help if you "discuss" your misgivings with the men in question , instead of just complaining to your girlfriends.You'll find that we aren't mind readers , but still can exhibit skills such as "listening" and "empathy".
Sure , we might have interests that are different from yours , but we do have SOMETHING in common.We want to understand YOU as much as you want us to understand YOU!
Just help us along by TALKING to us.And don't do it in riddles and double-talk.You'll only confuse us.We are , after all , only men.

Answer 10

It sounds like you already have the answer, but its just that most men are like that, not all. My man is a great lover. He is sensitive and caring, and he is really good with his hands and tongue.

But men are like that because thats the way nature made them. The same traits that make them good providers often cause them to be lousy lovers.