Do you think its wrong?

Question

. that I work and allow my fiance to stay at home? Or do you think it should be the other way around?


I would like to add that he is not just sitting around all day. He cleans, he cooks, he does the shopping, and the laundry. I have a good paying job that is more than enough to take care of the both of us.

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Working does not make you a man. Taking care of your responsibilities does, and that is what he is doing. He used to work, even though he hated his job. I told him he could quit if he wanted, and he did.

Now he does all the cleaning, cooking (except on weekends, because I love to cook), and handles the bills.

He is taking care of what needs taking care of. The house runs much more smoothly now. Sounds like a man to me.

I thought I should also add that I LOVE my job. Absolutly love it.

As for children. No, we do not have any, I am nearly infertile due to PCOS (we use protection any way, just incase). And ontop of that, he is MUCH better with kids than I am. I could not find my way around a diaper right now if my life depended on it.

Answer 1

It sounds like You have the perfect relationship. he sounds very busy, maybe You should consider hiring a cleaning service to help him.
A real man does not have to go to work and leave the"little Lady" home; a real man appreciates his Lady and does what is best for both of T/them...

Answer 2

I think it's however you look at it. if you two are both happy the way things are and don't fight over it then I don't see that there is anything wrong with that. Most people think the man should do the work and the wife stay home, but as year passed and the womens rights moved in things have changed and now women can basically do whatever they want to . so as long as your happy i dont think it matters. the only think that it could interfere with is if your planning on having a baby which i don't know your situation that might make things tight if you two aren't working.

Answer 3

Ur doing better than some others, that's 4 sure. A man doesn't have 2 have a "job" persay. As long as he keeps up with the house chores, errands, the kids with school attendance and assignments(if u have kids)etc. U have nothing 2 worry about, bills, insurance, or finance payments.
P.S: Hope ur job is going well, and good luck!

Answer 4

I have been there so I know. I am a male who has had many health problems of varying nature. I was never able to work steadily full-time. So when I lived with a woman I loved for Eighteen years I only paid my food and phone, not paying any rent or utilities. I also was quite meek of a person in business, although extremely talented, and did much low priced work when I could work. It was sort of a religious thing.
Now there were several psychological problems, deficiencies, going on with both me and my girl which led to sadness, anger and frustration. Neither of us was changing enough, although we both tried very hard. She needed More mother; I needed less! But, to go on...the financial thing was OK in the beginning but as time went on my girl slowly became resentful. It was a biological thing, a natural thing that could not be stopped. Picture this: After 3 weeks of much support, I finally come home looking for praise because I finally finished a big job and what I got instead were PMS recriminations about all the bills and things not finished in the house. This hurt me very much, in making me sad. But I saw how it was natural.
As time went on attention and caring was withdrawn, although we still loved each other. But because neither of us was really changing as much as we needed to, animosities built up and the usual course of events in this case ensued. She withdrew affection and I engaged in philandering. A Japanese hair found in the bath-tub ensured my exit; the end of a twenty year relationship.
Eventually one of my health problems flared up and I lost the shop where I lived and my business. I have lived outside for 3 1/2 years, much of the time, actually, in an out-door parking lot on a property adjacent to the building where my dear Linda still lives.
So, I'm not saying that my experience mirrors yours directly. My girl is straight. You, as we know, are Bi-Sexual. I don't know what bothers your guy, but I would bet that there is something Real which does. Many of the Real problems I had and or still have were and are dismissed by many people as being from "poor attitude" as I'm sure you know Anya, is not true.
The income difference in your case Will become a problem as the years drag on. Life is not easy in the long haul. You will have to be a Super-Exceptional woman to not let negative feelings of resentment, which will come up naturally, to be let pass until Love can once again over come them. Also, your man must continually seek to solve his problems; one of which I think is the problem of all men in his situation and that is that he needs Much more Good male contact and time spent away from females and with a male who he engages, not in "hanging out" but in some activity which is "in real life" (like the occaisional side-job) or mirrors life, like, let's say a sports team. This will build up his male hormones; not that he doesn't have them now, as tests often show "normal" but that they are not being "triggered " properly. This is an area of study barely starting, but what I call "hormonal re-enforcement". {.I Hate the term "Bonding" it is No Good.} Hormonal re-enforcement is something I use continuously in effective teaching and communication. But beware, You may open up "your feelings" to communicate with him, but they may be absolutely the Wrong "kind" of feelings For him. This will make him ill.
Well I have given all I can give, once again, and am very glad to be who I am. Yours' Davie Monster

Answer 5

It doesn't matter what others think. It is what makes you both happy. If he is happy staying at home, cooking, cleaning, etc. while you work then thats all that matters.

Don't listen to anyone. As long as your bills are paid then who give a flying fart who is working or who is staying at home.

Answer 6

As long as the two of you have an agreement and you both are okay with it, then of course it is okay. May I suggest that the two of you reevaluate this decision annually or monthly, etc. to be sure this situation is still what you both want. People can change their minds and harbor resentment. You don't want that for either of you.

Answer 7

No because he does all that work at home and you make the money, I think it would only be wrong if he was just laying around all day while you were out there making money.

Answer 8

What ever works for you all are you OK with it? My job sucks so me and my wife both has to work.


Hey Rich I have 4 children and I have to watch them through the day while my wife works and she has them at nigh when I work So men are capable of it.

Answer 9

I think it would be wrong if you two had children.Thats a little much even for a man to handle.We are not genetically ready and stable enough to take on the enormous trask of motherhood.Hey I think you two are smart and I commend the both of you.Good luck

Answer 10

i work 24/7 and on call i love my wife very much and up until recently did'nt work but she ran the home and i was the provider,its a 50/50 team work,i couldn't manage without her as she couldn't with me.best of look!