Annoying dad??

Question

My dad is such an @sshole. He gets so mad since it takes me like 6 hours to do my homework. i am also having a hard time with french and im failing. Last year i used to be an A student overall and now im like a B student. My dad gets SO mad; hes taking to cursing so much and he also started to drink like 2 beers everyday. Whenever i object to anything he says he slaps me upside the head like if I was some sort of animal.

I started something new; I started counting all of his bad words he said to me since September 30. Whenever he says something like 'you fuçking àssholé' I would say 2. Then he would say 'go on, keep counting you piece of shít!' and I would say 3. Since sept 30 i have counted exactly 1034 that hes said to me. I think that he pushes me too much in school and he thinks that the only way to succeed in life is to get a 98 average and go to an Ivy League college, all that stuff, and then he says 'ur ruining your life' when I do badly on a test or something. <>

Do you think hes a good father by cussing at me about 100 times a day? isnt he pushing me too far? Also he likes to slap me when he gets mad. Im getting the idea of calling the friggin cops on him, since he likes to take his sandals and throw them at me. Once, he bought a brand new white out tape, I broke it and then he just threw it at me and it made a little mark but it hurt alot. Should i do something about this?????

Thanks alot for your help.

fyi, im done with my homework!

im 13 and in 8th grade if that helps

Answer 1

There are three possibilities that I can see.

The first is that your dad is jealous of your abilities and intellect. His verbal and physical abuse is his way of keeping you at his level so he doesn't feel inferior to you.

The second would be the way that your dad was raised as a child. It is possible that his father treated him poorly and he is unconsciously treating you the same way because that is the only relationship between father and son that he knows.

The third would be caused by your dad experiencing feelings of low self-esteem. Sometimes when persons feel this way they cut down others around them in order to make themselves feel better. 'I'm feeling miserable so you should feel miserable too.' Whether the cause is from his past or frustrations at his workplace or the feelings he is experiencing in his life at the moment. If you feel up to it, you could try getting him to open up and talk with you about things that are bothering him. Most of the time this would require professional counselling. If you feel that this may be the cause, you could try complimenting him of his good traits and give him verbal support when he does things. If he feels better about himself then he may treat you better too.

Your dad should be congratulating you on the good things you do - not denigrating you when you don't meet his high expectations.

You should always feel free to talk about what is going on at home with someone else. Sometimes you need more than a friend. You could try a teacher that you feel comfortable with or your priest or pastor. It's great that you are aware that his behavior is unacceptable. Keep a positive attitude about yourself and your abilities. Focus on the good school grades you get and forget about the bad grades. Nobody is perfect. Remember that your dad is not well and this is not the way you want to treat your own children when you get older.

Answer 2

YES you should do something about this...its not bad for a parent to want their kid to do well, but not when they get mad at them for any bad grade on a test, and going to an ivy league doesn't automatically mean successful life anyway.
but this is not just a parent pushing a kid to far, he's literally pushing you with PHYSICAL abuse. and verbal abuse too. and with him drinking two beers a day, he could be under the influence of alcohol and hurt you more. even if he hasn't physically hurt you very badly, slapping you upside the head, and throwing a white out tape is BAD. your father apparently has anger management problems, and needs help. do you have a mother living with you as well? b/c you need to tell her what is happening. if she is not living with you, then you really need to tell her. if you dont have a mother, do u have another relative to help you? please get help, b/c this is technically child abuse in my opinion. im not saying you have to call the cops asap (although if it gets worse, then definitely) but at least tell a relative or trusted adult asap. i hope you get help soon hun, this is a bad situation and you should NOT have to deal with it alone.
and dont believe things he says like your an @sshole, its not true.

Answer 3

Talk to your school counselor at school. No one deserves to be spoke to or treated like that. They will help you develop a plan to feel safe at home. If you want, they will probably also give you the option to have your Dad come in so you can sit down together and discuss whats going on. This might be a good neutral way to approach your Dad. He might be going through something stressful right now and he is displacing his anger on to you- not okay- but he may not realize he is doing it. Again, make an appointment with your school counselor and they will give you some good advice. Good Luck and hang in there!

Answer 4

Dude i know what you're going through seriously my "dad's" the same way. except on his view on education. he thinks the opposite. yeah he also curses me out and slaps me ans $hit he has also picked up drinking too. You see i know it might be hard but in some cases you need to stand up and take it head on. i would try to get someone in the family to talk so sense into him like his own dad or a brother, some one. i would also try talking to the councilor at school but i would leave out the part of him hitting you because they will report and that's the last thing you want. i mean you don't want a completely furious dad on your a$$ for sending him to jail. (then he'd really have a reason to be mad). but dude just try to be strong i know his words can hurt and hurt bad but i mean there's still people out there that will be there for you. and the homework thing... well if you need help feel free to message me i'll more than glad to help you out. oh lol btw i'm 15 lol yeahi know i should have mentioned that earlier XP but yeah if you need help just ask! :) i'm usually online if not just email me. well later dude take care and hope it goes alright. peace

Answer 5

I dont need to read your continued to know your father is mentally and physically abusing you. If you ever need help, even just to talk to someone about how to deal with this theres a teen crisis number you can call, its all free.

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000

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Answer 6

if your parent is slapping you upside the head and calling you an idiot....you need to talk to your counselor at school or with the department of childrean and families. I could understand if this was every once in a while but that many times is abuse!

Answer 7

honestly the cops wont do anything if you dont have bruises...
^^i know that cause of my friend~
but your father has issues maybe he should go to AA meetings. whatever you do don't tell your school consoler they will call your dad and ask about this wheres you mom maybe talk to her. also if your old enough you can try and get emancipated.....good luck!

Answer 8

okay, you need to take your dad to a parent councilor or whatever. i would understand if you were a bad kid, but you don't sound that way; he just sounds like a drunk funk

also, if you have another parent or guardian, tell them, so they can help too

oh, you poor guy. good student, too

Answer 9

The next time he hits you call 911 he shouldn't do any of that. You are not stupid just do your best. My teenager takes French also and finds it hard.

Answer 10

you need to sit down with your dad and tell him you are trying your best and he should be prode of that. as you go higher in grades the test and scores are going to get harder to keep As. just tell him to back off. that him cuzzin and yellin makes it had on you to suceed and try to get better. you need to tell him that as a parent that he should congrats you on what you do and help you to do better. if you are struggleing tell him to help not critasize