Why are american women so spoiled?

Question

They think independence means using your husband/boyfriend to work hard so that he spend most of it on them, while they get bored and fat and cheat on him. Or does independence mean that they are allowed to treat their guys like sh!t, be rude and disrespect them? Do they think that being able to have a career means total abandoment of their responsibilities as a mother and a wife? Do they think they are entitled to have the perfect lifestyle, that their husband MUST provide or otherwise he is not worthy of being a husband? Why are they so bitter? They have taken the "feminist" mindest to the extreme, and now consciously hate men and think it is okay to use them.

P.S. - Before the usual responses come let me just say that I wasnt dumped or had a ba relationship I am just curious to hear the opinion of american women and see what they have to say for themselves. This thread describes western women as well.

Not ALL women do it, only the western ones. Women in asia are much better.

Answer 1

First let me say that I am not a feminist.

I believe in staying home, running the house, and raising the kids. When my husband is at work I bust my butt. We both work. He comes home and dinner is made, laundry is done, dishes are done, everything is clean because that is MY job. His job is to make money and my job is to run the household. I don't use my husband for money and he doesn't treat me like his personal maid. The household is MY job and his work is HIS job.

I don't understand why women have babies and then throw them in daycare (if you are a single mother and can't stay home then that's understandable) because daycare is EXPENSIVE and you never know what people are doing to your children. I worked in a daycare for years and it was a nice daycare run by the school. I have so many horror stories from that daycare and that is the reason why I quit!

If a woman is a true feminist then she won't need her husband to support her - she will support herself. If a woman and a man both work full-time then they need to split the bills and the chores 50/50.

Answer 2

I'm an Asian woman and I do not like Western men. American men are fat, ugly, and stupid. I stick with Asian men. They are much more smarter, fit, and handsome.

Frankly, I'm tried of being pursued by ugly, old American men. I have dated American men in the past and I will never do it again. They do not know how to treat a woman. Most of them are also very ignorant about the world around them and cannot hold an intelligent conversation.

You must be typical dumb American to be asking such a ignorant question. Surely not all American women are like that. The responses from American women testify this. Why do you belittle all the women from your own country? It appears that you are the one who is bitter. Perhaps there is something wrong with you. There are women like you described in other countries as well. Like here in Japan where a high number of women have an independent lifestyle and professional careers.

Do not think us Asian women are better because we are submissive or subservient to our men. This is yet another stupid stereotype created by American men. Just because a white American man want to date or marry us, does not mean we will be submissive to him.

I will never date a Western man like you. Go find someone from your own country and leave us Asian women alone!

Answer 3

1. just so you know i am not a north american woman
but i am a south american woman.

2. YOU MADE A HUGE GENERALIZATION.

3. come on, you really think they all cheat, and what do you have to say about the men that cheat.
oh okay, so it's alright for them to cheat?
huh? is that what ur saying?

4. "their responsabilities as a mother and wife"?
what the Fμ©k??!!!! HEY , HEY men have as much responsability. what do you have to say about the men that stay at home to take care of the children and house chores while the wife goes to work and comes back with the bacon.
OH!!! right there, they have that responsability.
so NO, women are not the only ones entitled to those responsabilities.

5. I really think both should provide. both should work together equally.

6. "why are they so bitter"?!! UGH!! YOU SOUND JUST LIKE THE MEN IN MY HOUSE!!!! DISGUSTING.
HEY, do you ever bother to think twice why anybody, not just women, is bitter? Do you even ask? do you ever think that maybe somethings in life are stessing?
OH OKAY, i get it, so you want a perfect world where no woman is bitter and does all chores for you without complaining because that is their job, to please you.
WELL, IM SORRY, WE, WOMEN ARE WAY PAST THAT!!!!
by the way DARKHORSE explained the bitterness of women very well, so you can refer to that.

7. What is feminism to the extreme?
hey, we do whatever it takes for you men to consider us equal. we will not tolerate crap.

8. "think it is okay to use them"?
well i don't think it's okay to use anybody, that's just wrong.
BUT APPARENTLY IT IS OKAY TO USE WOMEN, right?
WRONG!

p.s. hey it doesn't matter where we are from.
we we'll all speak for ourselves. and if you say a certain ethnicity of women are nice, to me that seems like a insult.
because to you nice means that you can run over them and use them up expecting no complaint no matter what.

well let me tell you, i pity those women and i hope that eventually they'll notice that they are way better than that and that they have right to speak out.

HEY WOMEN.............. POWER TO US ALL.

Answer 4

Hahahaha........I didn't get past your first sentence before you I laughed.

Most American women work. I believe over 50% of mothers work outside there homes, many are breadwinners.

America is one of only a handful of countries in the world where women contribute financially to their households and hold jobs outside of the home.

Other countries in the world, women can't even leave home without a male escort. So, your claim is completely wrong.

Most households in the US are two income households.

Women are out their working and supporting their families. I know very few women that don't care for their husbands or children. Every family is different. Men should be washing dishes and doing chores too. It's only fair.

Marriage is about partnership. I don't see how a women can be "having a career and forgetting about her family" AND "expecting her husband of being financially worthy" If she's working, then she's not sitting at home complaining her hubby isn't making enough. She doesn't have the time.

I see no problem with having two working parents and using childcare. It's called ChildCARE or DAYcare......not parenting.

The people who just "throw" their kids into daycare probably would not be good stay at home parents either.

There are plenty of GOOD parents who work b/c they HAVE to. They are still parenting very well when they are at home with their kids.

I had two working parents and I turned out fine.

Answer 5

To answer your questions:

Yes, as others have said, this is an extreme generalization. Women do exist that are as you describe, but your theory accounts for only a small percentage of women. There are also just as many men in the west/America who look to their accomplished wife/girlfriend to support them while they refuse to work.
As far as neglecting a "woman's duties" as a mother and wife, no, the majority of women in this country are educated and involved with their career, but still maintain a family mentality. Just as a man must balance his life between being a husand, father, and his career, women do also. This being said, women are no more or less responsible for the care of the family than the husband is. This includes the "domestic" activities that must be done. Husbands should expect to contribute just as much to the home as wives.
Most women, including myself, want nothing to do with being supported by another person, husband or otherwise. I would much rather earn what I have.
Lastly, on the "bitter" note: I must admit that I AM bitter. Women become bitter because the media saturates society with the idea that women are nothing but sexual objects and should not be taken seriously. Consider the Axe body spray ads, for example. We are bitter because we live under the thumb of a double-standard. If a woman is walking down the sidewalk and a car full of men drives by and yells "Show me your t*ts!" or something disgusting of that nature, if the woman does, she's a ho. If she doesn't, or tells them to f*ck off, she's an uptight b*tch. The mere fact that situations like this occur on a daily basis shows the typical, outright disrespect most men have for women. No matter what, we can't win. We are bitter because we feel we have to work three times as hard as a man to prove ourselves and are still considered second rate. We are bitter because racism in our society is so taboo, yet words like "b*tch, ho, and sl*t" are thrown around constantly. We are bitter because males still think it's funny to say things like "men drive better" or "men are more intelligent" when in all actuality we are androgenous, with the deviation of intelligence and motor skills being the result of individual differences, not gender-related trends. The list of marginalizing factors goes on and on. However, we do not feel as if we are entilted to anything extra. We just want REAL equality, and REAL respect. Nothing more.

Answer 6

Please do not say all...that's all that I ask. I do however know several women that are just what you described...I feel sorry for them they are not happy nor do they care if they make their partner happy. It is not right...I think that a lot of them were spoiled when they were home with mommy and daddy. They were given everything that they wanted and were never told no.
Very sad...they have no clue what happiness is or how to show respect for a man. I love to enjoy and spoil a man. Sometimes too much. I would get up at 4am just to keep me husband company and fix his breakfast. I worked and made a living while raising two children. I did all most all of the outside yard work and all the house work. Had a home cooked supper on the table every night and was submissive to sex when ever and how ever often he wanted. I did not use the check book that he made deposits in. I would use my company account if I wanted to purchase items. He had it too easy and good. He had three women. I finally left. I still cooked his meals for one year after our divorce. So not ALL women are spoiled.

Answer 7

Why are we bitter,sorry pal but I'm not the bitter one here you are. I got news for you i worked for over 20 years and was a good mother and wife.My husband wanted for nothing including sex.He would tell his friends in front of me how lucky he was to have me as a wife. So what does he do to show just how much he appreciates me, he goes out and has an affair with a co-worker. Please don't come off like all men are victim's because statistically speaking that isn't so.

Answer 8

You and pet-traveler are made for each other! I mean if all women suck why not just date each other and leave us women out of it. I don't think that women should have to punished for not wanting to serve men, (who claim they don't need us in the first place) and for wanting to do something for themselves, I think that its nothing wrong with a couple having an equal partnership, after all my bible says GOD created a helper for Adam, Not a slave.! And as far as being spoiled, everyone comes into a relationship with expectations, men want to be spoiled the same way women do. They want to someone to cook, clean, look after the kids, contribute financially, someone to be sexy, and if that is not spoiled I don't know what is. So as long as you and your mate can meet somewhere in the middle stop complaining and start living a happy life!

Answer 9

yet another generalization? Do you have any examples for us to examine? No! is the respond on your first question. And spoiled brat isn't basic between women persons everywhere. "Why is this?" it relatively is not. perhaps you may get out greater and meet actual women persons as adversarial to the celebs interior the media.

Answer 10

Most women I know aren't at all like the ones you describe. I'm sure they are out there, but the majority of us do respect our husbands, tend to our families, remain faithful, and don't hate men.
That is like saying all men are arrogant jerks. They all lie and only think with their *****. All men will cheat, and the only reason they stay with a woman is for the sex.
There may be men like that in the world, but the majority are hard working, loyal, honest people, just trying to make their way in the world. I think we all do the best we can with what we have.