Me and a girl have been dating for over a year now she has a job oppertunity in Tulsa, Ok. Great for her bad for me I live here in Cle-Vegas, and have a good job assistant manager of a hotel been here 7 years. Now she wants me to pick up and leave, how do you give up everything you know move to an entierly different state.
2007-11-11 11:30:05 · 16 answers · asked by 420 4' LIFE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I live in Maryland and my fiance lives in Wisconsin. We knew we'd have to move when we get married. Since he owns a house and I don't and I love it out there I decided to make the move. I won't have to leave a job but I will have to leave everything else I've ever known. However, marrying him outweighs all of that. I know that he likes his job and he lives in a really nice area and it's just right for us. I know he would have moved out here in a heartbeat but this was better for us. You have to make a decision. Maybe let her go out there and stay where you are for awhile but try to find another job out there. How serious is this relationship? Are you going to get married or are you just dating? You have to weigh all these factors and discuss it with her. She might not be happy about your decision but it might be for the best. Besides, couples that can't make it with a distance between them don't have much of a strong relationship in the first place.
2007-11-11 11:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may love her now.. but if this doesn't work out then what?. You have not been into her that long yet, so let her go and you 2 take turn going and coming to see each other. I say this because she don't even know how it will go for her, more or less how it will go for you. It is hard on a relationship moving all the way to a new state with a new relationship, away from family and friends. Maybe you should give it more thought before pulling up stakes hoping something will work. It could make or break the relationship, you have built so far. Just visit and see how she adjust to it before giving up everything to run behind her dream, do think about what you want out of this as well. Good Luck in whatever your decision may be.
2007-11-11 11:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question here is where is this relationship going and just how stable is it? A year or so isnt quite enough time to make a committment like this so youd be better off staying put and try the relationship long distance and see what happens. If she refuses that should tellyou that shes in this for herself only and will take you only if you give up you career.Now if you two were married then it would be a different ballgame but for now try the above and see just exactly how she feels, otherwise you two could be totally miserable in Tulsa if you cant make it there or her career falls thru. Think about it and good luck
2007-11-11 11:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie this is not your WIFE. she is a GF. so there is no big decision to be made. let her go and achieve and you stay and achieve. there is no since in you leaving stability for a possible stability. she will be fine and so will you. tell her that you love the mess out of her and would love to just pick up and leave but its not feasible for you at the moment. so lets try the long distance thing for a while and see how it works out. dont ever do something in life because of what someone else wants. you have to make that decision base on your needs and wants. GodBless
2007-11-11 11:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
David,
This is a question only you can answer. Look into your heart, then look into her eyes. You'll know if it's the right thing or not.
If you decide to go, if your hotel is a chain, you may be able to get a job in or close to Tulsa.
Do what feels right and everything will work out for the best....Have Faith in Yourself!
2007-11-11 11:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tauri Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a threat to be a specialist football participant at 15 yet had to attend till i left college plus seize the prepare from Merthyr to Cardiff two times per week to coach.i determined it changed into too a lot difficulty and declined the grant.the money wasn't in it in lately even if i made the grade.I had captained my county and city and had 5 trials for Wales in spite of the reality that did not get a Welsh cap.A lad from North Wales who did not play contained in the most suitable trial were given chosen.If i had that threat on the instantaneous i ought to leap on the grant
2016-10-24 01:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't!! If your happy with what you have accomplished and don't want to move then don't. What if it dosen't work out and you gave everything you worked hard for up, then you would be really upset.You can always meet someone else. You didn't say whether you were madly in Love with her or not that should make a difference whether you move or not.
2007-11-11 11:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how I would think it: if you lovee her, go and move!! but like if this job is reallllly important to you- see if you can transfer over to the same hotel but in Tulsa. and that job might be important for her too though!
hmm. hope this helped =\
2007-11-11 11:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered finding a transfer for your job in the state she's moving? This is a touchy situation. No one can really answer for you. You have to do what's best for your life or you could regret it or her later in life. Good luck!
2007-11-11 11:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did/ i left california, and moved to florida. My husband and i have been married for 2 years, and i've known him for 4. BIG MISTAKE! if it wasnt for our 2 kids i would wake up everyday and regret moving over here with his dumb ***. so know i'm in the process of a long disaster of a divorce. but not everyone is the same.
2007-11-11 11:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋