what's wrong with me?

Question

Ok I initiated a split between me and my ex wife a few months ago, and at the time she was quite upset, and then a few weeks ago she asked me if was definatley over, and I knew at thta moment that if I said no, she would cheat again!

I am now single with our 2 adopted children and not sure where to turn for support! people tell me I will find some1 else but I'm too tired from working full time and careing for my kids, I just don't think I can do anymore.

But I am feeling so very low right now, I know I was right to end my marriage, but it hurts to realise how little I meant to my ex

So all I'm asking really is for a hug :)

Answer 1

Broken,
I know what you're going through. Except that in my case, I initiate the split because after 21 years of marriage I realized I was not in love or being loved.
You are in need of emotional support and a HUG. I know the feeling. It's been more than a month since anyone has hugged me.
I also know what it's like to try to find someone when you work and have a home and kids to care for.
BUT YOU can do it! Don't give up on yourself.

XXXXX - Here are 5 hugs to use when you need them, from someone who knows what it's like to be starved for affection.

Answer 2

You will be able to do it again when the time is right but in the meantime pat yourself on the back for having the children because normally the wife is the one who has to do that without a husband so that shows you something about her right there. try to get involved with things the kids do after school and you may meet your counterpart, a woman whose husband was cheating and You may have a great relationship without really trying. You can also check on a local Parents without Parents chapter near you and you may find a women - your counterpart - there but don't rush to get into another relationship too fast. Don't feel bad about how little you meant to your ex because remember it was because you trusted her and she didn't deserve that trust . I would give you that hug but since I am male also people may look at us strangely so I will just tell you that you are a good man for handling this and keep your chin up!!

Answer 3

A big HUG for you and a "GOOD ON YOU" for taking the step to move on and put yourself and your children first. Realising how little you meant to your ex wife, should cement the fact that you have made the right decision.
I am sure you will feel overwhelmed for some time, but it will not be as hard as it seems now. If you were strong enough to take control of your life and put your kids in a better environment, I believe you will be strong enough to recover from this.
I believe if you focus on looking after your kids and making the most of your new life, everything will fall into place, and that includes meeting a new special someone..
Good luck with what ever life throws at you..

Answer 4

ANOTHER HUG. I've just split with my ptnr because of his lying n disrespect, n I'm in that pit of despair too at the mo. But I don't have any children - you must be finding it even harder. I hope someone else can suggest something there, but at least hang in there, you say you knew it was right, well I guess so did I, but it doesn't make it any less painful does it? I feel for you. xx

Answer 5

Nothing is wrong with you! You made a brave decision. I still wish I'd had the strength to end my last relationship instead of waiting until he left me. It does get easier, but it takes time and it hurts, just don't give up hope!
Have a hug on me!

Answer 6

you seem to have alot on you right now, take a step back and find a good support group at a local church, or find an adopted parent support group. You are to be commended for being there for your kids..... (((HUG))))

Answer 7

you sound as a nice person.. and I believe that good things come to good people. but you need to allow them to enter your life and your heart.
if you keep entering a blind alley you will never meet the true love, the happiness. i know it is hard but you need to come out of this alley, walk it around and then allow the LOVE embrance you, to hug you, truly love you..someone very wise said this to me once..
I feel sorry you are going through such a hard time in your life right now. Your heart knows you did the right thing for you and for your children. you do not need a pain. life is about choices, i believe and happiness lies in our own hands. it is up to you, all the answers are inside us, and answer to your question is inside you too, you know it..
listen to your heart it never ever lies to you.. you and your children are going to be grateful to your decision you are making now, one day.
They say that The god sometimes allows life to be rocky, his challenge is not the rocks to grind you into the dust but to polish you to become a brilliant gem.

Im sure there will be a happy ending at your end :) All the best!!

Answer 8

We all have a problem with feeling sorry for ourselves but it rarely gets us anywhere but down.
Shake it off and move on...there's better days ahead... stop looking in the past and keep inching forward. As far as your ex is concerned it probably had nothing to do with you anyway, some people can only see themselves in the equation.

Answer 9

I didn't know what to say, but my girl says to look up your local chapter of an outfit called 'Parents without Partners'. She says they deal with cases like yours all the time. You can get the help and support you need. You are a single dad, there's nothing wrong with you. It just hurts.

Answer 10

(((HUG))) Try to focus on yourself & your 2 kids. Don't worry about a new relationship right now. It is probably too soon anyways. I'm sure you will find someone else in the future. Pray about it!

Good luck! :)