how can attachement theory be related to someone with learning disabilities who is refusing to leave home?

Answer 1

em does it affect ur family

Answer 2

I worked with very troubled adolescents for 21 yrs (w/an MA in Guidance and Counseling and lots of clinical training). The last 6 yrs was with adolescent guys, 14-19 yrs old, Dx'd as Severe Bhr'al Disordered. Most had learning disabilities. I found that if I used about the same techniques that the mother had used with her child when he was younger, he responded to me! This covered a wide variety of approaches. E.G., I had learned from a very experienced therapist, "the 60-second scolding technique". Correct training is needed before anyone tries this, but it can effective! One huge young man with severe Tourette's had outrageous bullying bhr and was very threatening. First, I was reasonably sure that he wouldn't hit me--that is, IF I CAUGHT HIM UNAWARE! The first 30 seconds, make a fierce frown and loud intense commanding voice; sail up into his face when he's in the middle of a tirade; make eye-contact and say something like: "YOU WILL STOP THAT OUTRAGEOUS BEHAVIOR AND GO TO TIME OUT THIS MOMENT!!" tHE next 30 seconds, release the frown, but keep the intensity in your voice and intense eye-lock! He was so startled, he, in turn, had a startled eye-lock with me as I said: "We KNOW that you CAN DO THIS!! YOU ARE A GOOD AND BRIGHT PERSON! NOW, GO TO TIME OUT NOW!" Then drop all frown and intensity and suddenly turn to another person, smile and make friendly chit-chat! Out of the corner of my eye, "Jay" fairly slunk to the time-out booth and stayed there until his time was up. From then on, our relationship was solid and he began working with me. He came to school then (whereas it was sporatic); he began diagramming his bhr'al patterns; used Glasser's Basic Human Emotional Needs (Belonging, Power, Freedom and Fun) to analyze the bhv and then studied his Family of Origin when he was a small boy and saw that because of different factors, he had be unable to go directly to his mother to get these Needs met. SINCE all physical and emotional NEEDS are essential, he realized why he was using the anti-social bhrs! His bhr steadily changed and made steady academic progress. He eventually helped me give a presentation at the Teachers' Workshop. We had expected 40, but there were 90 and standing room only. As it turned out, every teacher in town knew Jay!! Some one asked him what was the turning point. He replied, "Nobody had ever YELLED at me like that before!"----------Another 14 yr-old guy with Asperger's was similar, but not threatening. He rarely participated; did what he wanted to and would walk home in the middle of class if he wanted. I realized that his mother had probably NAGGED him as a toddler. I began nagging him over and over until he complied. FINALLY, he got up clenched his fists and said, "Marge, I'm FURIOUS WITH YOU!" BUT, he complied and went to the reading group!!! Later, he helped me make a training tape, explaining everything AND diagramming not only his bhr'al patterns, but his internal feelings as well. Both made good progress and made it on into reg HS classes, at least part of the day.---------ALSO, you have to get an attachment with the parents as well. They, too have been and ARE anti-authority and the child models after the parent and feels a certain loyality in NOT cooperating with the teachers/authority figures.--------This is one way that worked for me and was very effective in other cases, as well. Each individual responds in different ways--and it's like working out a mystery story! To get the support of the parent, the mother--i.e., "..it's not an easy job to parent a strong child like "____"! You've done very well to get him to come to school as much as he does!!" Etc., "Anything we can do to help you, please let us know..." ETC. Forming an aliance with the mother, will help lessen the child's resistance. Not a quick easy answer, but can work in the long run. Anything that I could help with/discuss, I'd happy to do so!

Answer 3

I have a deformed friend named Craig and he has never set foot out of his apartment since he left the hospital.