What is so fun about being rude and disrespectul?

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This is one thing I don't think I will ever understand about men.. lol

Glowfish-did you look at the question?

I'm not trying to be a stereotyping moron.. I'm just curious because it seems that many men seem to consider their fun time to be free time to be as obnoxious as possible, as Ronnie demonstrated.. Yelling, cussing, telling sexist jokes, discussing recent "get-laid" stories, and flirting with the waitress.. How polite.. lol.

Gnu Sense-Yeah maybe you're right.. Maybe I shouldn't even be asking.. It just drives me INSANE. It's one of those little things that almost make me want to completely give up on relationships and dating..

Chaotics-You're on a roll buddy.. 5 thumbs downs already.. w00t.

Answer 1

My husband doesn't like it when other men do these sorts of things and unlike many of them, he doesn't laugh or pretend to enjoy it. Maybe if people would stop being so worried about being accepted and wanting others to like them, then perhaps this behavior would stop. It is rude and using the guise of letting it all hang out when you're alone with others like you is no excuse for it. It's also really childish because mature adults don't find any amusement in that sort of behavior.

Answer 2

I think some of those suggested "activities" are pretty deplorable...namely telling sexist jokes and stories about getting laid. People shouldn't tell sexist jokes period, and the sexual experience should stay between the two people (especially if it was bad).

But I definitely do understand the need to have time to spend with people your own gender. When I am with my female friends, I am much more free to talk about things I want to talk about than when I am in mixed company. So, if I need "girl time" then I can see why they'd want to go "out with the boys".

In Ronnie's case, I think the main problem was not that she was a girl, but that she was his girlfriend's best friend. If she were just a strange (and openminded) girl that didn't know his girlfriend, then they would be much freer to talk about things they wanted to talk about.

As a side note, one of my best friends works with mostly male employees at a gas station. She admits to having slight bisexual tendencies, so she often "sizes up" female customers with her male co-workers ("I'd hit that"). A good time is had by all.

EDIT:

On second thought, telling sexist jokes is okay, in moderation. They are, after all, "jokes", and if the person doesn't actually believe whatever the joke is saying, then that makes it even more okay.

Answer 3

what's fun about being rude & disrespectful? probably getting a reaction from people.

i try to hold my tongue but dont often succeed.

the guy asked a question & point blank said there were rude, disrespect, sexist jokes and both men & women alike answered his questions.

that i don't get.

it reminded me of something my brother did. we were celebrating mom's birthday at a restaurant that had a bar. my young nephew videotaped my brother (and others). on video tape, my brother is talking about sex with a woman. mom received the tape from my other brother - as part of her birthday present- and watched it.

her reaction? nothing really.

if that were me on tape (i wouldn't be so vulgar), i would have gotten slammed.

we have a tendency to let "boys be boys" - no matter if they're disrespecting women or not.

several men mentioned that they didn't think it was acceptable.

to me, i wouldn't have answered a misogynist question in the first place unless it was with a sarcastic reply. just me. i don't get these guys either and i really don't get how people answer their idiotic questions.

Answer 4

I don't know. I think about the girl's nights out I've had with my friends and we did some of the same things...except being rude or disrespectful. You vent about how the opposite sex drives you crazy...we all do it.

Of course, some people shouldn't be let out in public for the way they act in it. Have your fun...man or woman...don't be an a** hole.

Answer 5

Many women don't get it. That's why society has historically recognized that both sexes sometimes need their own spaces. That's also why historically, a gentleman didn't discuss certain things or behave in certain ways in mixed company.

We shouldn't NEED to explain ourselves. We shouldn't HAVE to account for everything we think and feel. We should be able to have a space where we can be ourselves, even if women wouldn't approve.

EDIT

I would note however: the waitress counts as 'mixed company". While it may be acceptable to discus things within her earshot (none of her business if she overhears), addressing things TO her and deliberately saying things when she walks by in order to make her uncomfortable is harassment.

EDIT

I'm not a fan of disrespectful stuff when it's really disrespectful. I actually stand up to other guys for misogynistic humor. I certainly think some is unacceptable and my circle of friends doesn't make rape "jokes" partly due to my influence.

But is it rude and disrespectful for guys to discuss the first woman they thought about when they first began masturbating? I CERTAINLY wouldn't discuss that in the presence of women - and some would call it "rude and disrespectful" - but is it wrong for men to have those discussions EVER?

Answer 6

For most of our day, we're supposed to be kind and respectful to anyone we encounter, and to keep all harsh criticism to ourselves. Rudeness, done away from their earshot, is just a release valve. Whenever I get with my best friends, we always end up making stupid sex jokes that couldn't have been made at school or at work.

Answer 7

We don't want to be rude and disrespectful to any woman - unless she's got it coming (and most don't).

That's why it was out of bounds (gotta keep with the sports terms...) to bring a female.

If she's 'one of the guys' that's different - but let me tell you, there is no faster way to complicate an evening than you bring a girlfriend or wife to a situation where you know there is going to be rude behavior.

Answer 8

" Maybe if people would stop being so worried about being accepted and wanting others to like them, then perhaps this behavior would stop.'

They will eventually grow out of it, actually. Right now they are still very immature and 'playing'. These guys are trying to 'out-macho' eachother in their ongoing search for a stable, adult identity. They care very very very much what the members of their social group think; it is always uppermost on their minds. These are immature, high-school behaviors and won't last forever.

Answer 9

I reckon ol' Ronnie was making it up. I have no problem with the idea of guys' night out, and don't much care what they do as long as they don't drink and drive.

Answer 10

Perhaps this is what HE does with his friends on their nights out. Hopefully it doesn't reflect how other guys act when they go out together.....but I admit he's got me wondering...lol!