Girls in traditionally male environments?

Question

It is my belief that men benefit, learn, and grow from being in women's company. But not all the time. Why do girls lately tend to crash men's solo leisure endeavors... I do not see how a pilgrimage to a strip club, a poker night, or a fishing trip can improve with girls being present. Women, why do you do this? Why is it so hard (almost impossible with my gf) to explain to our women that we need time to ourselves?

Answer 1

Lol why are you asking this in the feminist section? Ask in singles and dating if you want a normal womans response, your only going to get blammed somehow by posting here.

See how the one above me shot you down by insinuating that you will cheat if your alone? Stating that men cannot be trusted.

Answer 2

What, is fishing and playing poker an exclusively male thing? I am great at fishing and I enjoy poker, and so do many other women.

Perhaps your girlfriend wouldn't want to be included in these "male activities" if the stuff you chose to do without her weren't so much fun...

That said, I do understand a guy needing time to himself or to just be with his male friends. I think most women understand that, and respect that. But imagine how aggravating it is for a female who really enjoys fishing and playing poker if she can never go with her boyfriend when he goes? When I get together with my female friends to have girl's night, we usually just have dinner and talk. It's nothing so elaborate that one of our boyfriends would be upset at not being able to come.

Answer 3

That's funny. My husband doesn't seem to feel the need to be around other men even though he lives in a household full of females. He occasionally goes out to play poker but he only does it for the fun of the game, not because he needs the time away from me. Maybe some people feel the need to have time out alone with other men or other women but not all people are like this. I couldn't imagine a night out with other women to hang out at bars or go to nightclubs. I'm sorry to say this but I don't particularly enjoy the company of other women.

Answer 4

No arguments here; guys do need time to be alone. I've always been comfortable with that; during those time I did my thing and let them do theirs. See, it's simple. You just need to get rid of that good old clingy habit is all; I never had it, some girls do and that's what they should do, get rid of that clingy habit. The secret is if a guy truly cares for you it even shows in the inward actions that you can't see, when he comes back to you those inward actions you can't see will shine all the more when he comes back. I've had experience that's how I know; meaning I took the gamble and always won.

Answer 5

I agree with glowfish, you asked this question in the wrong spot. 75% of the people above me are tearing you up right now.

It could be that your gf is somewhat clingy. If the type of girl who wants to spend all of her time together isn't for you, then go find one who is cool with you going to the peelers or fishing with your buddies. If strippers and small mouth bass are less important than the girl stay with her. Simple math my friend. It sounds to me like the women you hang around aren't as interested in the activities as they are in a little male companionship.

Answer 6

We all need time alone and away, even from the people we love. It's breathing room; otherwise, we smother. Men have things they enjoy doing with other men; women have things they enjoy doing with other women. If that weren't true, feminists wouldn't be fighting for "women only" spaces. So what's good for one has to be good for the other. What matters is that we come back to each other, ultimately.

Answer 7

As you say"pilgrimage to a strip club". You just answered your own question. We don't understand why you find going to a strip club necessary. So in essence when you say "time to ourselves," this means time with other women. Your statement is hypocritical when you say you don't benefit from womens company all the time, but you visit them at strip clubs!!
Women do love fishing trips & poker nite as well.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need a new girlfriend if she can't understand you need time to yourself. Either she is extremely insecure or she has reason to distrust you.

However, there are also compromises that are made in relationships. Maybe she objects to certain types of "men's solo leisure activities."

Answer 9

If guys have girlfriends, fiancèes and/or wives then they aren`t supposed to be at strip clubs.
Also, poker is gambling, so people risk losing everything they have.
Fishing trips? Can't imagine that being any fun, unless that person is actually catching any fish.
You have to have a fishing permit before you fish.

Answer 10

At the beginning of a relationship, many girls want to spend every single second with a guy. Then, once they're married, they KNOW that hubby prefers being with them over anyone else. That's usually the problem - girls are caught in between for months or years at a time. They enjoy being with him, of course, but more than that, they want proof that he wants to be with them over all others - including guy friends.

You may be thinking, yeah right - but how many WIVES tag along vs. live-in girlfriends? Hell, I practically push my husband out the door to go out with his brother and a few guys. I no longer have girlfriend "issues" - the game is over, I won. All I think when he goes out is, "I hope he has fun." not, "Is he thinking of me? Is he talking about me? Will his friends try to tell him to dump me?"

Your GF is clingy because she is madly in love with you AND because you are not married. So she is always on "high alert" for checking up on the relationship. Tell her not to come, and she wonders, "Is he going to dump me?" (yes, she does think that) Either find a girl is isn't wildly, passionatly in love with you (and most likely won't have a problem with cheating on you or dumping you), marry her, or wait it out, since perhaps after a lot of time together she'll be more confident that she's won your heart.

Answer 11

Wow! You have decided to contradict yourself, haven't you?

First off, as a woman barber (working in an all male barber shop), and having done so for the better part of 12 years, I seem to understand men more than they understand themselves.

Second, "men's night out" doesn't exactly mean going to a T&A bar. You clearly like to be in the disrespectful/negative company of women. If female company is what turns you on, have a deep and intelligent conversation with a female friend/girlfriend, rather than promoting the degradation of women.

Don't get me wrong. I am married to my best friend, for four wonderful years, and I am quick to encourage him to participate in a "men's night out"/golfing or fishing among his male friends. I am first to recognize the utmost importance of this. People need ME time and WE time with loved ones/friends/peers. That's life. However, when you said strip club, you lost me. What you're really saying is you'd rather be in the company of women who very freely, willingly and lovingly strip in front of hundreds of salivating and sweating strangers, including your buddies and yourself and deem this as a guy's night out.

You and I both know full well what consists of a guy's night out. Same goes for women. I personally find male strip clubs crawling with the lowest form of human life possible. Eveyone from the mob to drug dealers to ex-convicts. ICK! If this turns you and your friends on and you think nothing of the promotion of jiggling t!tt!ies and exposed c00ches, then don't come on this forum and cotradict yourself! You buried yourself way before you pressed the enter key.

Remember, I am a female who's never had sisters, is close to her father, sat with guys at the high school cafeteria lunch table all four years, and has worked in all male barber shops for over 12 years.

Cheers :)