2007-11-11 10:17:35 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he in love with her I work during the day he works at night
2007-11-11 10:23:17 · update #1
yup, in a heart beat
2007-11-11 10:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him. No doubt about it. You're wondering if he loves her? What about you? You're the one he's been cheating on and who's to say he won't do it again, or he still isn't doing it. I know some people believe in forgiving and working a marriage out. In certain situation sure it's workable. But one like yours???? HASTA LA VISTA BABY! There will always be trust issues, second guessing..and who wants to live like that?? I don't believe in staying together for the children either. That's not a good reason. And I can say all that because I've BEEN THERE DONE THAT! Nobody ends up being happy. Not even the children.
2007-11-11 10:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. 3 yrs is a lifestyle. He used you and exploited you for 3 years. He has no conscience and if he pretends to have one, he's probably just trying to keep you from taking 1/2 the marital assets.
But don't leave unprepared. Make sure you safeguard as much $$$ as possible in an account with a different bank. And that doesn't mean 1/2, that means as much as possible 100% is best. Write a check to yourself. If you have no access to marital funds, apply and use credit cards if you have to to secure an atty and live on if need be.
He doesn't honor you nor the family and he will not honor your needs during a divorce. He will continue to exploit you.
2007-11-11 10:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by lori94566 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't leave, he'd be leaving...I'd go see a lawyer, file for a separation, have him evicted with all the right authorities there to read him is do's & don'ts,change the locks on the doors & he'd be paying all the bills & keeping up all expenses as if he were still there because it's his FIRST obligation to take care of his family; request alimony & have him pay it at the courthouse so you do not have contact with him because he might kidnap your children, harm you and/or them or kill you like some of the crazies we watch on the news daily.
Don't be weak, stay with your best interest-taking care of the children and home & being the parent that didn't trade them for a sexual interest.
Good Luck
2007-11-11 11:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccessarily. If he left her and she is no longer available to him. If he says he loves you, and wants to make things work with you. I would try for the baby. If you take him back I also would have an atty draw up papers if he leaves you. You get joint custody with him getting the child on weekends. Ive seen cases where this happens and then the man tries to take the child and ends up with the mistress as a ready made family. Please think carefully. and good luck.
2007-11-11 11:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe the mistress helped him stay with you for those 3 years.
Ask him why he needed a mistress in the first place, at least learn what happened before you end it.
2007-11-11 10:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He would not be trustworthy and clearly would not love you enough to be faithful. I have forgiven a one night stand with my man, and he has forgiven the same in me. People make mistakes. But three years isn't a mistake, it's twosimultaneous relationships! He is clearly not happy in the relationship and should have left rather than betraying you. Do you really want him to be the male role model for your child? Leave him- he's not worth jack shiiite.
2007-11-11 10:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. I would have left him a lot sooner than that. How could you not know for 3 years he had a mistress? Men leave way too many clues for it to be kept secret that long. Unless they hardly ever saw each other.
2007-11-11 10:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! i would with out saying a word , then see if there is a law in your state where you can sue the mistress too and sue her for the help of destroying your marriage and emotional distress
2007-11-11 10:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the women here are gonna of course say, "dump him." This is an over-simplified and, frankly, immature, reaction. But it's your life and you have a child. It ain't quite that simple.
If you can tolerate infidelity and he makes a good home and father, be careful leaving. You may not like the alternatives.
2007-11-11 10:38:45 · answer #11 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋