My wife is visiting her family in Ohio for 3 weeks (I couldn't go because of work). We have a great relationship, and we communicate really well (usually).
She was supposed to call me before she went to bed, but she never did. I finally called her and she had already gotten ready for bed and gone to sleep.
How is it possible she wouldn't think to call me?
2007-11-11 10:15:24 · 22 answers · asked by Dano 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is not usual behavior, I would let it go this once. Give her a little slack, she may have been exhausted after visiting all day. When you talk to her next, just say that you love hearing her voice before bed and you'd look forward to talking with her tonight...etc.. That way she knows to make sure she calls with out you getting upset about it.
2007-11-11 10:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Postpartum depression is not something that goes away quickly and until it does she won't be the same woman you fell in love with. It's good that she is getting the help that she needs but I'm afraid that her family is playing on her vulnerability. I know you are hurting but try to not be to hard on her just yet, she's not herself. Even if she didn't have the Postpartum depression she just had a baby and that alone changes things. My guess would be that her family is behind the conditions and as long as they are in the picture you have no hope of changing things. You didn't mention this but I got the impression that maybe her family wasn't all that happy with your marriage, otherwise they would be with you - and not against you in trying to make the marriage work. Your wife might be 24 but she is not mature enough or really ready to take on the responsibilities that come with marriage and family and I don't really see that changing anytime soon. I know that you are struggling financially but you have got to somehow find a good lawyer to help you get custody of your daughter, or at least some rights. I also have a feeling that her family will sometime in the near future help her see that you should be paying her alimony and child support - you need to protect yourself from her. I don't usually suggest that someone get divorced but in your case it's really your only chance of having some true happiness. Good luck to you and I really hope everything works out for the best. P.S. My friends wife did the same thing as yours and he ended up moving on and marrying a really sweet girl - they've been happily married for 3 years now, so there's hope - there's always hope!
2016-04-03 08:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just got caught up with her family then was tired and fell asleep. I don't think it would be anything to worry about. My partner and i have a good relationship and we spend a lot of time together. Every now and again he goes away fishing with his brother, cousin and some other friends for the weekend. Sometimes he calls sometimes he doesn't. I don't think that means he's forgotten about me or that anything is wrong. Just means to me that he is having a good time. I know if it was me i wouldn't like to feel that i had to check in at a certain time or everyday.
2007-11-11 11:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just had a really long day and was worn out. My mom comes to visit me occasionally and we get to having so much fun that she forgets to call her husband. She will call him the next day and he doesn't get upset. He knows she's visiting her daughter and having a good time. He isn't her focus at that point. Just like for the next 3 weeks, you aren't your wifes focus. Her family in Ohio is. You can't always be the center of her attention. Use this time to do something that you wouldn't normally get to do. When I have the house all to myself, I like to play loud music and dance and sing or watch movies that only I like. Enjoy your time and let up on her a bit. Good luck! :)
2007-11-11 10:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by J C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first time it happened, I wouldn't worry about it. Besides, she's with her family...what trouble can she get into?
I had something happen to me once when my wife went out of town for a bachelorette party. I was home with the kids and she had said she was going to call before going out with the girls that night. She didn't...I didn't think anything of it and took the kids to Chuck E. Cheese's to play.
She called the next morning and said she was sorry she spaced it off...I told her no big deal and glad she had a good time.
2007-11-11 12:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by bruiserkc2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have good communication then I'm sure you also have trust within each other so why would you think somethings wrong? Maybe she just forgot. Shes with Family for one and you did call and she was already asleep. I go out of town sometimes and don't always call every night and my Husband also. Asking to talk to your spouse every night before bed while away is asking if they are doing something wrong without asking. Don't think so hard into it. I'm sure she meant no harm.
2007-11-11 11:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because she did not call you does not mean she does not love you, she is visiting her family, and perhaps she dozed off to sleep, give her the space of being with her family. Its all part of relationship, but i see you are upset with this, and its ok to ask her why she did this, and how much you missed her. its all in the game called love.
2007-11-11 10:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just exhausted from visiting her family. I wouldn't stress over it if I were you, especially since you state that you have a great relationship. Just give her a call and tell her that you missed talking to her last night and that you love her.
2007-11-11 10:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea . I think your just lonely . First time alone without the little lady? Order a pizza have a few guys over play some cards smoke a cigar .
2007-11-11 10:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by dad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is probably just busy relaxing and having fun. I am in the same boat as your wife, the only reason I forget to call my hubby is I dont want to be rude to the people I am visitng to make a call or if it is before bed I either dont want to get up to find my phone or I am so tired that I just want to sleep. dont worry too much, dont get offended either. if you guys dont have much to talk about maybe she doesnt feel teh need to call... if it bothers you that much tell her
2007-11-11 10:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rina 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋