pregnant... im 17?

Question

im 7 weeks pregnant and trying to figure out what to do i dont want to have an abortion, it would just help to hear from people who have delt with having a baby young, was it really hard? do you feel like you made the right choice. my boyfriend really wants me to get an abortion he thinks a baby is a burden to much money and will ruin his life i just need some positive info to help me.

Answer 1

I am not going to lie to you.
Having a baby is hard but it is very rewarding too. I was 19 with my first and my circumstances were different my husband was all for it. Don't let anyone convince you to have an abortion unless that is what you really want. You can't take that decision back. Good luck to you and your decision.

Answer 2

My mom had her first child at 17 and she never regretted it. I had my first at 23, and although I may not have been quite as young, I still had to deal with being single throughout the whole thing (my boyfriend dumped me at 4 months pregnant). Let me tell you... I would never ever take it back. I absolutely LOVE being a mom. Babies are a lot of work, but just the feeling that you get when your baby looks at you, and you just know that she loves you more than anybody in the world makes it worth all the work. You can't even how much joy your baby will bring you, and how entertaining they are!!! My daughter does new things every day that amaze me and I am just sooo proud of her. She's also hilarous... haha.

As for the money... you will most likely be able to get help from your state. Call your local WIC (woman, infants, and children) office and set up an appointment. When you qualify (which you should, being unmarried), they will give you checks that will buy you milk, cheese, peanut butter, etc. Then once the baby is born your checks will pay for the baby's formula. You can also call your local county assistance office and get on medicaid which will pay your medical bills.

I'm sure you probably have other people in your family who have had babies, so maybe they will lend you some baby clothes and supplies. You can also have a baby shower that will give you some of those things too.

Bottom line: Don't worry about what your boyfriend says. Even if you end up single, you will be able to handle it. Just accept the help, love, and support of your friends and family, and you'll do fine. Chances are, this baby will be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Answer 3

im 16 and found out I'm 5 weeks. Im keeping my baby because this baby is apart of me now and I had made the actions on making it. I dont see why people would ever have an abortion. It's taking a life that doesn't deserve to be taken away from it. If i were you I would think real hard on what to do remember it's your baby your decision. the dad has a little bit but you'll be carring it for the next 8 months.

Wish you the best of luck!

Answer 4

First of all, everyone who is saying that it isn't your boyfriends choice should stop in there tracks right there!

If he is man enough to stay in the relationship then he is definitely man enough to be a PART of the decision. As much as every one wants to think that men have no concern over a pregnancy and that they can just leave, I'd like to remind you that there are a few of use that tend to enjoy Loving and being Loved. If I got my Girlfriend pregnant I would NEVER leave her and I would be as much of a part of the babies life than anyone else.

On that note. If it was in my best intrest to not have a child at the age of 15 then I think that should be respected (so listen to your boyfriend, he's there to help you not hinder you) Think about it! You are seventeen. Your whole life is ahead of you and the finnacial stress that a baby puts upon you is enormous! If you have the support of your family and friends then I could definetly be wrong about that. You must also think of the trust factor between you and your parents. That is something that took years to strengthen and I doubt that you'd want to jepordize that. Once again, If you have the support of your parents then I could be wrong.

In the end it is your and your boyfriends mutual decision because what ever happens to you will affect him as well (why do people have trouble understanding that?). You are both responsible for this so you are both responsible for making a decision *together*.

Answer 5

I was 38 when I had my first child and it was hard. You're only 17. When your friends are at their prom, you could be in labor.

Abortion is not the only other choice. There are about 10000 couples who would love to adopt your child. But you need to think long and hard about keeping a baby. Your social life will be over, your choices of school and jobs will be limited and you will be legally responsible for another human beings health and wellbeing until you are 35.

Talk to your parents now if you have not already done so. You see, they are responsible for YOU. Trust them with this because any choice you make with this decision will be with you for the rest of your life. They have more experience than you do.

GOod luck

Answer 6

Tell your boyfriend to wear a condom. Seriously, baby's are not burden's, and they do not ruin lives. It seems to me that your boyfriend is the burden, and ruins his own LIFE all on his own. DO NOT GET AN ABORTION, just because the father wants you too. There is a line from a song, he may be a father but he sure aint a dad. Guys come and go all the time. Especially when you are just dating. There will come a time when you will meet someone really special, who you will want to spend the rest of your LIFE with and vice versa. This boyfriend does not sound like that kind of material. Get rid of him, but make him pay you child support and tell his parents about the baby. He may be really angry with you for it, but he isn't worth it to begin with. So what, he gets mad about it, you won't even be with him. Just show up at his house and tell his mom.
I was married at 22, and had my daughter when I was 23. I ended up leaving her dad, and was a single mom for 2 years. And let me tell you, yes it was very hard. It was the hardest thing that I ever have had to do. Raising a child on your own, is hard but it is very much worth. And yes they do cost a lot of money, kids are expensive but there is a lot of ways you can prevent some of the costs. Breastfeed your baby, so you won't have to buy formula. Buy 2nd hand everything. You can buy some incredibly adorable things for less money. ( I am expecting baby #2 tomorrow and we have gotten everything that we need 2nd hand and have spent in total 250. The enitre nursery, the baby's clothes, even my maternity clothing have been 2nd hand. It doesn't matter, you don't have a lot of money ) When the baby is old enough, feed it solids and what you eat for dinner. You don't have to buy baby food. Diapers and wipes I am afraid will be a big cost. Especially in the first year of LIFE. I am sure there is some kind of social assistance that you can apply for. You just need to do a little research and call some numbers.
The baby's father does not need to be in this child's LIFE, if he think that its going to ruin his. I wouldn't let someone like that anywhere near my baby. But this is his fault too, and a responsibilty that he needs to take seriously. Getting an abortion is easy but think about how much you will regret that for the rest of your LIFE. There is nothing more amazing then feeling your baby kick for the very first time, watching your belly grow, day dreaming of the baby, picking names out, going baby shopping, and preparing for this very tiny LIFE that is growing within you. It is the most mind blowing experience you could ever go through. Sure your only 17, but you can do this on your own. This is a blessing. Baby's are absolutley wonderful and I wish you the best of luck and dump your boyfriend....he isn't good enough for you and if he was, he would ask you to keep the baby, and raise the baby with you and be a family with you and ask you to marry him. He would want to meet the child that is half of him. Someone should cut him in half and disregard that like it meant nothing.

Answer 7

i was 16 when i got pregnant, and had my son right before i turned 17, i won't lie it was hard, and you'll have people that will give you a hard time, but if you don't want an abortion and you want the baby than have him/her. there are a lot of single mothers out there that raise their children on their own all the time so if your boyfriend doesn't step up he's the one missing out not you. do what you feel you need to do though, if you do something your not 100% sure about you'll regret it later. I am happy I had my son when I did, I was still able to finish high school and do what I needed to do but I had him there and it gave me just one more reason to what I needed to do... for him.

Answer 8

I think you should have an abortion, I know no one wants to hear it, including you..but that's just my opinion...but it doesn't sound like that's going to happen, so I would say..if your not finished with highschool yet, look into the fastest way of doing so, or finish up your last year if you are a senior (hopefully you are)...and hopefully you are able to remain in school (for the most part)...that's number one..number two is to look into all of the government help you can get (provided your parents can't afford to take care of you and your new baby, if they can then that's good)..look into WIC, Medicaid, Housing, and make sure to take advantage of all of the help that's out there for young mothers to go to college...it's going to be really hard, and alot of work, but the best thing you can do for your baby at this point is to move forward with your education as fastly as possible..and above all you need to talk to your parents, and see if they're willing to help you in this, if they are, then that's an added bonus, but don't put it on them to take care of you and your baby, this is your responsibility now.

Answer 9

I was 17 when i had my first and by no means am I going to lie to you it was rough.. but she is now 9 and we made it. Although her father stood beside me. They are not burdens they are gifts from god, Yes they cost a lot but it is just money... My cousin is also 17 and about 16 weeks with no father ither he said he didn't want it, A child doesn't ruin your life.. You have to make your decision on your own what you want to do.. You have to do what is right for you. Adoption is also an option too.. There is lots of married couples out there that can not have children and could give your baby a good life..I have one thing to tell your boyfirend he should have kept his pants up if he didn't want a baby.. If you just need someone to talk to just message me I have open ears and will not judge..

Answer 10

ok so the first thing to think about is when you have bubba are you going to keep it or is adoption a good option for you.
you need to tell your boyfriend that you are not going to have an abortion and no matter what he cant change your mind you need to explain that you need his support more than ever now and that if he cant give you it then maybe you will be better off continuing your life with out him.yes it will be hard for you with a bubba but in the long run you will be better off.
if he doesnt want to be in babies life thats fine because you will still be able to claim child support from him for 18 years.
tell your parents whats going on because they will be able to help you get information and the support you need and they will always love you no matter what.
good luck girlie,you have some big choices ahead of you!