I live in Ohio, and I want to go to a University in Minnesota for their College of Biological Sciences, but my mom does not want me to go. She says I'm not thinking, that I will not be able to make it out there or afford anything, and that I should just get a degree here and then transfer to Minnesota if I want to after I do.
But, the thing is, I REALLY want to go to the University of Minnesota, and there will be three other people living with me.
I turn 18 this upcoming September when the Fall 2008 semester classes will be starting, and the people I will be living with are 19, 19, and 21. We'd be living in one of the apartments in the U of MN section of town, where it's cheaper for the students.
Does anyone here have experience with going to college out of state? Will I be able to do it? I'm a hardworker and I'm VERY dedicated- I believe I could do it, but my mom INSISTS that I won't be able to.
Please answer if you have experience, or know someone else that does!!!!!
2007-11-11 09:25:48 · 6 answers · asked by msxcheshirexcat 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
If you can afford to go to an out-of-state school (keep in mind that it is far more expensive than going to a public university in your own state) and can get in, it is an excellent school, and I disagree that you can't make it (maybe your mom is afraid that SHE can't make it without you?). I believe that you can work hard, and if you are bright enough to get in, you can certainly handle it academically.
However, I don't agree that it is a good idea to live in an apartment off-campus as a freshman, especially if you are planning on living with friends from home and are older. Most colleges require freshmen to live on campus in dorms if they aren't commuting from their families' homes, and even if they don't require it, there are reasons for this. College is enough of an adjustment; you don't want to have to deal with dishonest landlords, plumbing leaks, and commuting problems while getting used to it. Furthermore, you need to meet new people, which you won't do if you are living off-campus with old friends. And assuming you are eighteen, there is a huge difference between 18 and 21 in terms of maturity, and I would foresee problems in living with someone several years older than you are with whom you are not related. Finally, as anyone who has lived with roommates can attest, invariably one of them will suddenly move out, leaving you studk with their portion of the rent, or will move in a boyfriend against the wishes of everyone else in the house. It is just a bad idea all around.
2007-11-11 09:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by neniaf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm from Michigan, and I went to UNLV. Was it challenging going to an out-of-state school? At first. I didn't know anyone, and I had to adjust to being in a new town where everything I knew and loved--Coney Island hot dogs, Faygo, cheaper prices--no longer existed. It was tough getting used to, but going to college is a transition in and of itself, and eventually I made friends and settled into the city. Even though I didn't like living in Las Vegas enough to stay there after I graduated, I'm glad I went. Otherwise, I would've been sitting in Michigan wondering about what might have been.
I think you should go to Minnesota. If you don't, you'll regret it. What's the worst thing that can happen? If you get out there and decide you don't like it, you can transfer to a school in your home state. You'll have to endure your mom's "I told you so's," but at least you will have tried to go for something you really wanted.
2007-11-11 10:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bee Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your mom is worried about suffering from separation anxiety. She's worried that she will miss you, and you won't ever come back home to visit...which is common.
However, if you have the drive and desire to study in Minnesota, go there. If it doesn't work out for some reason, you will have the option of moving back home.
Going to school in Ohio would be cheaper, and you would not have to worry about bills you would have in Minnesota. So, that's one thing you need to take into consideration.
How reliable are your friends? Will they be able to meet rent every month? How? Will they be committed to studying when they need to, or are they going to party every day and disrupt your studies?
Just a little to think about....
2007-11-11 09:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know until you try. Will Minnesota allow you to live off campus your freshman year?
You're young enough that you can afford to make mistakes. If you truly feel that this is something you can do -- then do it! If you succeed, good for you! If it doesn't work out, you can always come back home and try another way. But I think you should at least try -- otherwise, you'll always wonder whether or not you could.
2007-11-11 09:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're constantly doomed to stay interior the comparable state for the the remainder of your existence. jk, of direction you could. it will basically fee slightly greater for being an out-of-state student, although.
2016-10-16 04:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by leckie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in texas went to mich u, its hard its going to be hard no one but yourself to depend on when you need extra money or somethings, be sure who you are moving in with a ncan they help with the bills i stayed with 3 others 2 guys an a girl it was hard to go to school an work , best to stay a little closer to home just in case things with your room mates dont work out, i thought i could trust my 3 roomies but sadly was mistaken
2007-11-11 09:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋