We've been close for years, out friendship was the type that just "bonded" and clicked right away. We always went to each other if we ever needed anything unconditionally - I was the one he could open up to and he was the one i trusted & who understood me. Our friendship changed when we unexpectedly realized that we learned to love each other and fell deep.(i was the first girl that had anything w. him) We crossed the boundries physically (no sex) but stopped in time and realized it wasn't a good time to be in a relationship - mutual and fair decision.
When things were getting back to normal again, he experienced tragedy and that struck a chord in our friendship - didn't talk for a while and rumors got to us fr. friends but got better when we worked it out. Lately, our friendship's been slow...we haven't been consistent like we used to and it's made me sad. He did start being more in contact w. me but i just found out that he's got this big problem and he doesn't want me knowing...
2007-11-11 08:34:17 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know it shouldn't matter but it hurts me knowing that our close bond/relationship (in general), went down to the ladder as "aquiantances"...I'm usually not the type to do this to everyone but he's one of those true blue loyal friends you'll be lucky to meet in a lifetime and the relationship we had was def. one of a kind...
the thing i find weird is that he's the type that gets along w. everyone- reguardless if he was rejected by certain girls, he'll still be friends w. them...he's been telling everyone his problem except for me - he "says" it's not me, i'm sure it's something else but why is he pushing me away?
UPDATE: we used to be the kind of friends that talked deep and it's random things here and there - he won't even acknowledge feelings - his or mines. If he was having a bad day and i'd ask if he was feeling better, he wouldn't comment or if i said i wasn't feeling okay, he wouldn't make me feel better like before...
2007-11-11 08:34:36 · update #1
This guy definitely knows that he can be open to you, but maybe the fact that you had crossed boundaries before is the problem. Perhaps he is having trouble with another girl that he likes, and he doesn't want to get you involved for the sake of your own feelings and it would probably be awkward. Sort of like a guy talking to his ex-girlfriend for dating advice.
I'm truly sorry about the situation you both are in. Just give him time to come back to you for being friends, and don't try too hard because that may push him away further.
Good luck to you and the guy.
2007-11-11 08:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what it feels lik eto break up cause just as u know i've never been in a relationship but when u care 4 somebody, it's hard to just even know that the relationship, friendship is going down, as u know about my problems with mel, when it feels like she's avoiding me, hurts like hell their's really no explanation, the only way i can say it is that it hurts allot.
2007-11-11 08:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Drekentai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i have heard you say over the months.....you really
were a couple, but never really said it....someone needs
to put it all on the table and go for broke.....you both are
in love with each other, and need to take a chance....
good luck....go for it......before you regret you never
did and he ends up with someone else!!!!
2007-11-11 08:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by bwj1963 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋